My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 months and things have been wonderful. The past few days though, I've felt a little distance. We always talk on the phone before bed, but last night he went out for a drink with some friends. We've also been discussing moving in together, but he made a passing comment last night about how one of his friends wants him to get an apartment with him. And earlier he called to say he wasn't sure he could see me tomorrow, because of a big snowstorm we're supposed to be getting. I feel like he's slipping away, but he swears everything is fine. Am I overreacting, or is this something to worry about?
2007-03-16 02:48:30 · 8 answers · asked by curlyblue11233 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like how I used to be. STOP IT. You're going to drive him away!
Him going out for a drink once in a blue moon isn't a problem. It's also important for each of you to have distance - especially since you've been dating ONLY 4 months. Moving in together is a huge commitment, and 4 months is such little time to access your relationship properly to make that sort of move.
He also said he wasn't sure because of the snowstorm - he was being considerate and mentioning it to you, in case you were expecting him.
You are way overreacting. I almost lost my boyfriend because of the same thing at the beginning of our relationship. Cut him some slack, give him some room, and place your trust in him. He will come to you, just as you would go to him. It's nothing to worry about.
2007-03-16 02:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by MBE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a big deal. 1st of moving in after only 4 month isnt a good idea anyway so dont stress over that. plus if he moves in with a buddy whos to say you wont be going over there all the time? as for snowstorms its a SNOW STORM! i personally hate driving in them and usually end up breaking plans with my boyfriend ifs bad but then he usually will pick me up and ill stay over. but dont sweat it its really nothing to worrie about
2007-03-16 09:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are just yet......overreacting. Give it some more time and if his behavior continues or gets worse, you may either want to question him, and remind of what he's been doing to give you those vibes. If he makes excuses or things start to sound fishy, I'd find a way maybe to move on. That's probably not what you want to hear, but why be with someone whom may not want to be with you, you know? Best wishes!!
2007-03-16 09:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your overreacting at all. You are only in this for 4 months now. He should want to be with you all the time. Doesn't sound good.
2007-03-16 09:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man. i dont think you are overreacting, unfortunatley, i think that hes giving you some little signs, just brace your heart for whatever is coming, good or bad
2007-03-16 09:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Cait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about maybe he is going through something that is hard to talk about for him but don't push him away let him know that you are there for him in every way possible
2007-03-16 10:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only he knows, girl. but i would quit hounding him with insecurities. if i were you, i would do the reverse. act really busy and don't ask him when you will get together. it works every time.
2007-03-16 09:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe but i'm not sure but anyway
love,
killerqueen
P.S. good luck !!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 09:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by killerqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋