Family & Relationships - 25 January 2007

The day before I got married, I found a whole bunch of porn sites that my husband has been looking at, I confronted him of it, he promised to stop. Well it has happened several times afterwards and I continue to stand by him. About a year ago he started buying magazines and DVD's and hiding them in his truck and when I had a gut feeling, I would find them. He lied to me about it every single time until I showed him the proof. He admitted his addiction and for the last time promised our marriage was worth more than the porn. Now I can't trust anything he tells me and he is now starting to get very defensive over everything I ask or say to him. Am I just being over obsessed about the issue or is he doing it again? We are both in our second marriage and his first marriage ended because she cheated on him several times. I have done nothing but stand behind him but I am slowly going into depression because I can't control what he does anymore.

2007-01-25 06:07:35 · 7 answers · asked by lessard_family 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-25 06:07:17 · 3 answers · asked by sxy_gator09 1 in Singles & Dating

I will be divorced in March after a long a hard separationa nd marriage. My ex does not support our girls nor sees them. The youngest doesnt even remember him. They have only seen him for 3 hrs in a year. I have moved forward and made a home and life for us on my own with very little support. I have reconnected with someone that I knew as a child a grew up with who is also going through a divorce. We liked each other as teenagers but were always friends. Anyway, he is also going through a divorce and was hurting badly. We have begun to do things and spend time together and are becoming very close. I went out with someone for a few months but never let this person interact with my kids. This person has and is absolutely wonderful with them and they adore him. His children are older 16, 14 and 11. Mine are 5 and 2. We are bcoming very close and I can see this going somewhere. Should I go for it? We have so much in common. I've found happiness and feel lost when he is not around.

2007-01-25 06:07:17 · 15 answers · asked by quiet one 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok i moved from my high school bristow oklahoma in 2002 to tulsa to go to vcs. There i met not only one of my closest friends, but my first love and i still do love her and always will. we were good friends and she has had a rough life and ive always sort of been there for her, but anyway i fell in love with her and one day she called me and wanted to meet up before i left for college so we did and she sat me down told me that she loved me and how i mean the world to her then i tell her i love her. then i went to college at osu and she is now at uco and we hardly talk. the only time we talk is when i text her, and i go buy her something for her birthday or for christmas. Ive been real depressed why dosnt she want a relationship with me?? i love her and if she loves me then we should be together. she means the world to me and i would die for her and she knows it what should i do. have any ideas please let me know ive been really depressed for a really long time and i really do love her?

2007-01-25 06:06:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I started a business with my husband about 6 months ago, right after we got married. It really seems to be hurting our reationship and it seems like we're more co-workers than husband and wife. It's just the two of us and it's not as easy as hiring someone else to do what I do because it costs $$ and I wouldn't trust someone else to do it . . . any ideas? Thank you . . .

2007-01-25 06:06:14 · 8 answers · asked by SRe07 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he lives with my mom, no job, and my mom makes her food, bed and take care of him like a baby... my dad if comes in the middle, a huge fight gets started.. how can we make him to find a job and be independent at this age!!!!!!?

2007-01-25 06:04:51 · 5 answers · asked by giga32 2 in Family

To start off... I cheated on him and lied for a long time about it... Finally it caught up with me and we broke up in September... I know I'm at fault... I accept that responsibility... I have been taking the steps to correct my actions by attending group anonymous sessions and so forth.....

Maybe a week after we broke up... We both missed each other so much that we spent time with each other... and were trying to work things out... Recently (Not even a week ago) he decided that he hasn't healed enough and thought that it might be best to take some time apart without any kind of communication between the two of us...

I know he has been sleeping with and seeing other people... and I know I have no say in what he does or doesnt do... But I don't want to be tricked or duped at the end of that time when I am still there for him and he has moved on and doesnt want me...

He says he really wants to be with me... but his actions aren't showing that... and I dont want to get hurt ....

2007-01-25 06:04:49 · 12 answers · asked by coxecal69 2 in Singles & Dating

feels like you can move mountains.

2007-01-25 06:04:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Lets say that you are not really good at attracting Women/Men... then you get a girlfriend....

but in the process that you have the girlfriend...
you find a method that increases your chances of attracting Women/Men....

and lets say that you can get any Women/Men attracted to you instantly...

Would you leave your Girlfriend/Boyfriend....?

Honestly would you.... Deep down... even if you really really loved / liked / enjoyed them


Would you?

2007-01-25 06:04:18 · 29 answers · asked by david r 1 in Singles & Dating

i have 2 kids 10 and 6 and have dated people without kids and it just dont seem as they can relate. what do you all think

2007-01-25 06:03:25 · 12 answers · asked by maps_ghosthunter_ryan 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

and the relationship was going no where, but was just for kicks, and there was noway you would have the baby, would definatley have an abortion, would you tell the father? This is for a friend of mine..........we think opposite things on this one, should she tell him when no matter what he says it won't make a difference to her keeping it, or should she leave him in blissful ignorance if that's the case?

2007-01-25 06:02:11 · 48 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Singles & Dating

I looking for help

2007-01-25 06:02:01 · 8 answers · asked by sturtzraceing88 1 in Family

I have two sisters, (one of which I was in her wedding and my other sister was the Maid of Honor) and 4 best friends, and two almost step daughters, one of which will be 15 and ( the other one [9] will be flower girl). I am stuck on this one, and I don't want to offend anyone, and make anyone mad...what would you do? HELP!!! Thanks in advance.

2007-01-25 06:00:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i cant even afford a solicitor to check it out

2007-01-25 06:00:09 · 9 answers · asked by jayebird 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Back in August my husband and I seperated for about 2 months. We have been together 20 years married for 15 years. I asked him to leave cause i no longer trusted him with things. He has never treated me bad until the summer of 2006. I gained a lot of weight but now i have lost it. Treated badly is not the right word we just wasn't getting along their was no cheating or anything like that. He has since came back in November of 2006. I let him but i got used to him not being here and now i regret sometimes he is back. I have lost 65lbs and he has told me about in the middle of December that if i still weighed that amount he wouldn't have come back. He knows how to hurt me with words, but when i tell him i want to leave he is like i didn't mean any of what i said. I don't know if he is just trying to hurt me or what. Now i don't want him around me, but sometimes i do want him around and sometimes I don't help me. I don't even know if i love him anymore cause of the hurt over the summer

2007-01-25 05:58:23 · 17 answers · asked by leeann3670 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-25 05:58:22 · 5 answers · asked by lady_prep7 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a good, faithful, loving husband. We have two great kids. I do everything for my wife and she barely seems to know I exist. My sexual frustration is so bad I can barely breathe. I brought flowers home the other night and gave them to her, complete with rubbing shoulders and (trying to) kissing her. She said "thanks" and left them lying on the kitchen table still wrapped and went to bed. No action that night.

Does anyone else see that people go out and have affairs and get away with it, or if they get caught their spouse forgives them anyway?

What is the point of staying faithful when it is getting me nowhere? I could live with this (at least until the kids are grown up) if I had some sort of outlet. It seems like I could go do whatever and I would have the same kind of marriage anyways.

At the same time I feel awful for thinking this. Does anyone else find themselves thinking like this? Just be honest please....I'm pretty sure I won't cheat, just venting..

2007-01-25 05:58:15 · 20 answers · asked by SuperDude 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am really attracted to women who wear suede/velvet/leather flats. I think they r sexy, and I really love a woman who is not afraid to be comfortable.

2007-01-25 05:57:39 · 5 answers · asked by fuji 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-25 05:57:16 · 15 answers · asked by ronald w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

no not sex,but what else?

2007-01-25 05:55:37 · 79 answers · asked by sunny 4 in Friends

Either in Vegas or San Antonio. Vegas would be a blast, but San Antonio is our special place we go to get away. We want to do something different with just us two there. We've both been married before so we don't want a big wedding. Been there, done that kind of thing. Which place would you recommend and what kind of ceremony? I'm 29 and he's 40. We're both single parents raising our kids on our own. We are both into 80's rock big time. I don't know if that info will help you answer or not, but there it is anyways! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

2007-01-25 05:55:30 · 18 answers · asked by tx girl 3 in Weddings

so i met this guy iworked with and we hit it off really fast.great friends.about a year ad a half ago we started to hang out, we would kiss and cuddle, then a month later came the sex.but we worked together then, so we were just friends.well he came back into my life about 9 months ago, he calls all the time, we go places with our kids.and he is happy just sitting and watching tv at one of our houses.just hanging out.our sex is still amazing, the most inportant part of it is kissing.he would do anyhing if i needed it, however we havent had the relationship talk.i asked him the other night what i was to him, and he said you are jessica, and im gene.i went to bed mad, it just seems like he is araid of that conversation, even though i really feel that it is a relationship, and i hope he loves me.i know i love him.what should i do?does he love me or are we still friends in his eyes?

2007-01-25 05:55:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

During "that time" my wife refuses intimacy, I have told her that it is her responsability to satisfy my needs and if she can't take care of me I would find a woman on the side who could, do you think this is wrong

2007-01-25 05:54:50 · 27 answers · asked by maxexposure2003 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i tell him i want to travel,i tell him i want to study,im bored of being a housewife,my children are older now,how can i make him listen without hurting him?and sometimes i feel i do spiteful things to get his attention,just like my children are naughty to get mine,any advice from a man?

2007-01-25 05:52:59 · 10 answers · asked by reddas 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-25 05:52:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you say or do anything that upsets my sister in law, she ignores you. She and I don't see eye to eye, but I have always keep my mouth shut. She lives with her parents and her 3 kids, doesn't have a job and doesn't do much around the house. Because of this "lifestyle" she gets on my nerves, but I say nothing. Last year she accused me of ignoring her, I said that I wasn't, didn't know what she was talking about and left the room. Since then, she has ignored me! My husband tried to talk her, but she is blaming me for not talking. I once apologised to her because her parents insisted, even though they knew I didn't do anything wrong, for something that I STILL don't know what I did. So, this time around I am standing my ground, I am not apologising for something I didn't do. But, the family is divided now, we don't go over to my in laws anymore, we don't see her kids, I think it's sad. Any ideas about what can be done?

2007-01-25 05:52:15 · 5 answers · asked by doodles 3 in Family

i just want 3 this was a question asked on the radio station out here in LA and i wanna know what everyone thinks... and im asking this on the singles one because its more people on it...

2007-01-25 05:51:51 · 8 answers · asked by Godson 3 in Singles & Dating

Hi everyone Im Mel im 28 i would say im reasonably attractive i dont have a problem in attracting men im a bubbly outgoing person some would say the life and soul of the party i go out at weekends quite a lot and very often come home with new numbers in my phone but yet when i meet them they are prats arrogant men that are up there own butts and full of lies.Why cant i meet a decent guy im starting to think that its something i do wrong i just want to meet someone nice surely that isnt to much to ask is it?

2007-01-25 05:51:36 · 20 answers · asked by JANIS B 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-25 05:51:13 · 10 answers · asked by babykins 2 in Marriage & Divorce

This girl has been giving me some wierd signs but i dont know if u should act on the!

2007-01-25 05:50:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating