Started business with spouse . . it's hurting our relationship . . help!?

Question

I started a business with my husband about 6 months ago, right after we got married. It really seems to be hurting our reationship and it seems like we're more co-workers than husband and wife. It's just the two of us and it's not as easy as hiring someone else to do what I do because it costs $$ and I wouldn't trust someone else to do it . . . any ideas? Thank you . . .

Answer 1

you 2 need to be able to separate work and marriage and only communication can do that make sure you 2 take time for yourselves without bringing work to the equation, i know is hard i am doing it right now but i tell my husband everynite as soon as we get to our garage dont tell me anything else about work until the morning and it has work we have dinner and take long baths together and just talk about each other and how we feel****

Answer 2

If this business is hurting your relationship then it's not worth any money you may make from it. You need to sit down with your husband and talk about it. Maybe between you, you can come up with a solution to the problem. If not then think seriously about your life and whether the business should be put ahead of your marriage. You have to trust someone else to do what you do if you can't work along side of your partner, or, i hasten to add, he has to. Good luck and I hope you can work it out before too much damage is done!!

Answer 3

Not sure what you do...accounting? If what you do can be done from home, do it there. Going into business with a spouse can be very difficult, as you have discovered. You need to agree that work can ONLY be discussed in the workplace, even if that place is just a separate room in your home. Your home (especially your bedroom) is a place of refuge where the only thing that's important is your relationship.

Answer 4

You might be going through an adjustment period, and you are not yet at a stage when you can balance your work and marriage, but it is possible. You are both working for your future and make sure that you are not neglecting your romantic time together, as in, go to a nice dinner and a movie, go to a spa together, a weekend at a resort, make a pact that when you unwind you do not discuss business AT ALL. Till it's time to get back to work.

Answer 5

Why is it hurting your relationship?...You are probably seeing different aspects of one another--new things in your personalities are being revealed--Look at it like this--you are learning more about one another--how you both do business together--yes--your relationship is changing but that doesn't mean it is bad--you are adjusting to new info about one another-it might get more difficult at first as you see things you might find unpleasant in one another--but if you wait it out--your relationship will be even deeper and stronger because you will have gotten to know even more about one another--

maybe make special time--set aside time for doing more romantic activities or things that you used to do together--even just talkng about it might help--I think many husbands and wives work together and enjoy it--not all--but it can be done--Think of why you wanted to work together to start with--it probably seemed fun--you'd get to be together--both of you excited about your new venture etc...try to get back to that energy--yes--the daily details of work can get frustrating and in the way--but you can learn about one another and actually get closer...

Good Luck...

Answer 6

Oooohhhh.... I would never go into business with a family member. I have rental properties and I don't even rent to family members. My motto is "It's nothing personal, it's just business."

Answer 7

Learn to work better together.

Answer 8

have sex at work or try to lighten the atmosphere.