2007-01-25 05:51:13 · 10 answers · asked by babykins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to live with a hermit, I've been there. Generally, I'd just go without him. But if this is a sudden change in your husband, or accompanied by general poor spirits, he could be depressed for some reason. If that's the case, encourage him to go for therapy. With my boyfriend, it was because he was depressed from not having dealt with some issues from his childhood. Sometimes it can be as simple as something not going well at work.
2007-01-25 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is antisocial and that's too bad. Do not let it stop you from going, though, because if he is so dysfunctional, you need all the friends you can get. That is part of living on planet Earth, you are part of the human race, and if you don't like it, feel free to get off the planet. As for you, have a blast at every social event that comes your way. Who knows, maybe you can find yourself a potential new people-lover husband?
2007-01-25 14:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have become less social as the years have gone by, I think. In the past, I would have felt insecure about my wife attending social events without me, but I feel secure now, and sometimes it's not worth it to summon up the motivation to force myself. For my part, it has to do with a predisposition toward depression, which, for me, is mostly under control, but which can flare up when I expose myself to a lot of stress.
2007-01-25 14:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that there is an underlying reason to his reclusivness specially if it's new or sporadic. Maybe he just doesn't want to go to the places you like to go, find something he likes to do and split it up sometimes go here other times there. Hopefully he can be dignified/ man enough to accompany you on occassion and not be a sourpuss (baby) about it.
We're near the shortest day of the year and depressed people often get out of whack in the winter.
2007-01-25 14:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have married him for a reason, in spite of his antisocial tendencies. I'm the same way, but I don't insist that my husband not go, as long as it's a productive function and not just drinkin' with the fellas, and he understands that I can't. If it's part of your career and being with your circle of friends surely he can understand why you want to be there, even if he can't. But his feelings are his feelings, and certainly not worth cheating on him or divorcing him, so please don't listen to people who give you that advice.
2007-01-25 14:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love him where he is at and let him stay home and i would go to the social events and have fun.
2007-01-25 14:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate crowds, too. But, when I'm with people I'm comfortable with in a place I like, I can usually enjoy myself.
2007-01-25 14:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
L eave him at home and go alone. Don't become him, if you want to go then you should by all means go, even if it means going alone. Maybe if he sees you are going with or without him, he may change his mind and go with.
2007-01-25 14:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go without him.
2007-01-25 14:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too me too.
2007-01-25 14:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋