Hi everyone Im Mel im 28 i would say im reasonably attractive i dont have a problem in attracting men im a bubbly outgoing person some would say the life and soul of the party i go out at weekends quite a lot and very often come home with new numbers in my phone but yet when i meet them they are prats arrogant men that are up there own butts and full of lies.Why cant i meet a decent guy im starting to think that its something i do wrong i just want to meet someone nice surely that isnt to much to ask is it?
2007-01-25 05:51:36 · 20 answers · asked by JANIS B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are a few of us out there keep looking good luck
2007-01-25 05:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as several people have already commented, it's true that if your screen name is any reflection of how you show yourself in real life, nice men won't be interested in you. Nice men are interested in relationships, not sex. If that's the kind of man you want, dress and act in a way that says that's what you want too. Don't leave too much of yourself showing. Secondly, nice men tend to take things more slowly. So when you say that you're looking, once you've found one are you prepared to wait a while for things to get involved with him, or if nothing's happened after a week will you move on? And to get a nice man, you have to be a nice woman. Do you lose your temper easily? Do you complain or insult a lot? Do you always want your own way? These are all things that would be sure to stop a nice man from being interested in you.
2016-05-23 22:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mel, For a start, stop being so hard on yourself. You sound like a very nice lady and I'm sure that your not doing anything wrong. Unfortunately it's very hard to meet a nice man these days, most of the good ones seem to have been taken, but I reckon there will be one out there somewhere, just waiting to find you, so don't give up. He'll be there when the time is right. It was the same for me, when I was younger, but my man did arrive eventually. Best of luck. Shiela. !! x
2007-01-28 13:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I could suggest is that most of us "nice blokes" are quite often, but not always, shy (is that an acceptible word for a man?) and withdrawn. We spend most of our lives looking for or imagining a partner that is a little like us, and maybe that is what your subconscience is doing, picking up on similar traits. Beer is a dangerous medium to meet men under, as it impairs your judgment and alters the other persons personality, so they seem brilliant when you've had a few, but in the cold light of day...complete to*sers!
2007-01-25 06:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be meeting the wrong type of men depending on where you meet them.
I heard somewhere that there are many more eligible women than men as womens expectations have risen and mens have not as much.
Try a different venue or shut your eyes to bad faults you can easily live with. I am also 28 and have been happily married for over 2 years.
2007-01-25 06:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by jupiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think quite a few guys could write exactly same as you have but from their perspective...
perhaps you just need a change.. start going out to different places, join an interesting evening class like art or whatever you're into etc... maybe do a little volunteering... but make a few changes to your pattern of behaviour, which'll mean you'll have new opportunities to meet different types of guys...
maybe even go for a bit of a makeover yourself.. makeup, clothes, haircut etc... if you're attracting a certain type of 'guy', the way you dress might magnetise them towards you... so, perhaps a different look will attract a different type of guy etc... initially, we can't judge somebody's personality when we first meet, its all done by visual stimuli, thus change how people outwardly see you... good luck...
2007-01-25 08:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi mel. your still young. you should not be in any rush to find a guy. the right one will just turn up. think i will be in your shoes now. im a single dad with two kids 5 and 7. and im only 35. so if your having no luck ive got no chance. you should stop looking and just wait. live the dream xxxxx
2007-01-25 06:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess you probably need to re-evaluate what your definition of a decent bloke is. Alot of the qualities you probably find initially attractive may be tied to other characteristics that aren't so attractive.
It applies to us men as well. I have the same problem!
2007-01-25 06:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by jeffe55106 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
''they are prats arrogant men that are up there own butts and full of lies'' Your words. Maybe this outlook or attitude is there in your mannerisms???? and you make them act like they do, maybe you should give ''men'' more than one chance, .they may be OTT because of your attitude.
I'm not saying it is totally your fault, believe it or not I am trying to help, what I'm saying is, have you looked at it from that side, maybe you frighten them a bit.
2007-01-25 06:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Branded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem here, they are all obsessed with getting us into bed quickly, and they don't seem to make any effort into getting you to actually like them. I've come to the conclusion that men don't start to seriously look for girlfriends until they are in their mid-thirties and have gone bald, and can't play the field so easily.
2007-01-25 06:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rotifer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, heres the real deal on life. its because ur attractive that u get the jerks. guys like the ones u describe r only into looks and u being so outgoing eggs them on. if u want a good guy hus into personality, tone it down cuz he might just feel intimidated and out of your league. get to know him before getting his number.
2007-01-25 06:11:17 · answer #11 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋