To start off... I cheated on him and lied for a long time about it... Finally it caught up with me and we broke up in September... I know I'm at fault... I accept that responsibility... I have been taking the steps to correct my actions by attending group anonymous sessions and so forth.....
Maybe a week after we broke up... We both missed each other so much that we spent time with each other... and were trying to work things out... Recently (Not even a week ago) he decided that he hasn't healed enough and thought that it might be best to take some time apart without any kind of communication between the two of us...
I know he has been sleeping with and seeing other people... and I know I have no say in what he does or doesnt do... But I don't want to be tricked or duped at the end of that time when I am still there for him and he has moved on and doesnt want me...
He says he really wants to be with me... but his actions aren't showing that... and I dont want to get hurt ....
2007-01-25 06:04:49 · 12 answers · asked by coxecal69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Things that shouldn't be done has been done. That is a point of no return. I felt that he is trying to let you go slowly and I believe you can sense that. Even if you guys will to be together sooner or later, he will bring this up again when you quarrel. In my opinions, a man's pride is shattered (very serious to a man) and that can never be forgot. Accept the facts when the day come that he may leave you. Be prepare and accept it and move on. Never ever make the same mistake again.
2007-02-02 05:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the time for a re-union. Recovering from a cheating
partner takes a long, long, time. The memory of it lasts a
lifetime and will never go away. There is forgiveness but
this takes an open heart and a lot of maturity. This person
may never really trust you again though he may miss you.
It's good that you're working on your issues of infidelity but
this is a separate, personal decision that has nothing to
do with him. Go forward with your life and be loyal in
the future with other relationships. It's definately up to
him to let you back in, and if he does, respect the distance
he's gone to get there.
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2007-01-25 14:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all human and make mistakes and we who learn from them better our lives and then theres them who take advantage and cant learn to forgive and forget untill they are done getting the best of you, you need to follow this through your heart and find the feelings that tell you that you where wrong but it does not make him right to take you for a fool and break you even more, two wrongs don't make him right, if he had any kind of feelings towards you he would have shown them to you by now either by leaving you or by forgiving you, learn and live, live for you and the ones who care about you whether your right or wrong. Be free to live and love once more don't give up on 1, when there is 2,3,4 or maybe even more.
2007-02-02 14:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by GRANPA1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have hurt him and have broken the trust he has/had given you. Once a trust like that is broken, it's really hard to get it back. If he does decide to be with you again...there will still be issues when it comes to that. It may be best to just move on....your relationship will never be the same again.
2007-02-02 07:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait one question before i tell u what i think... how was ya'll realtaionship before u cheated on him????
your the dumb one because how are u goin to do that when the realtionship has just begun??? he does like u its just that he is tryin to get back at you for what you did to him. dont talk to him for a good while and i bet u that he will come back to you when u least expect it. Know where he goes and what he does tho so that when he goes to the mall the grocery store etc. he see's you that he WONT forget about u loose all communication with him but still see him and when u do smile at him but dont talk to him...
2007-02-02 13:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by saraipalacios1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need a long break...talk it over with him ...maybe make another date to talk in about 2 mo. and then the two of you make a decision ...until then no contact of any kind... sounds like you learned your lesion...that's good...things will get better for you in the future ..just remember what you learned here.
2007-02-01 16:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you've got and remember what you had.
Always forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
PEOPLE CHANGE, THINGS GO WRONG, but just remember life goes on.
remember this one it's good advice!!!! move on!! for your own good k cuz he will never let you live that one down you kinda screwed the pooch on this one he's gone!! sorry but it's true move on!
2007-02-02 13:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will never be the same. If you stay he wiil throw the whole cheating issue in your face so just let it go and move on.
2007-02-02 14:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOnestly, he will probably never get over it and he knows it. You have ruined the relationship when you cheated on him.
Best if you just move on and let him move on.
2007-01-25 14:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by The Don 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably trying to get back at you. what you need to do is chalk it up to learning and find someone that you wont' cheat on and care for and apparently hes not the right one.
2007-01-31 21:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋