I have two sisters, (one of which I was in her wedding and my other sister was the Maid of Honor) and 4 best friends, and two almost step daughters, one of which will be 15 and ( the other one [9] will be flower girl). I am stuck on this one, and I don't want to offend anyone, and make anyone mad...what would you do? HELP!!! Thanks in advance.
2007-01-25 06:00:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have your married sister be the Matron of Honor, your other sister be your Maid of Honor (I'm assuming she is not mairried) and the 15 year old step daughter be a Jr. Maid of Honor or a Jr. Bridesmaid. Then your 4 best friends can be bridesmaids, or other positions open, like the registrar for your brides' book, or opening the gifts and logging them into a log book with descriptions and gift giver's name.
The only other way I know of is to break someone's heart in the family or amoung friends.
2007-01-25 06:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by shari w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could hold auditions and let America decide... Just kidding... Trying to help you smile a bit...
The thing that everyone has to remember is this: It's your wedding day. It's about you, not t their ego's or the decisions that you made along the way (music, dresses, colors, maid of honor)
Myself, I would pick the sister who wasn't a Maid of Honor yet... That's just because that one of them already had the opportunity... This way the other one gets a chance to organize the bridal shower, get everything set up for the bride, do a LOT of work and make sure you look gorgeous on your big day...
I know you care about everyone involved, but you have to think about what makes the most sense... That way its a clear decision based on what you need rather than what everyone else wants...
Hope that helps you... Take care... And Congratulations on getting engaged!
2007-01-25 06:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by coxecal69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well--you could pick one of your sisters--or you could pick a neutral person--everyone else will get to be a bridesmaid, right?..Your sister wasn't afraid that you weren't the maid of honor, right?...This is your day and everyone will be there to support you--I don't think people will be petty and fighting about who is the maid of honor..pick who you want--or if everyone wants to be the maid of honor--and will really feel bad about it--pick someone neutral--like your step daughter-- (not a sister and not a friend)--and say that you are moving into your new family life etc--she would be really excited and would be thrilled to play such an important role---hopefully--and the little girl can be a flower girl--and all of your sisters and friends can be bridesmaids...just an idea...
In the end-pick who you want..go with your heart--it's your day...
2007-01-25 06:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding, so hopefully no one would get offended if you pick someone else as a maid of honor. It is about you, not them. But, I can see how someone may be a little disappointed. I was in my mother and father's renewal of vows ceremony, which was performed almost EXACTLY like a wedding, and my mom had a hard time choosing between me, her sister, and her best friend as maid of honor. I told her to pick her sister, but she ended up picking me. It was very meaningful to be my mom's maid of honor simply because we don't normally get along and this was a once in a life time chance. She said it meant a lot to her to have me as her maid of honor as well. But, that is just my story. I say go with your heart. Sit them down and talk to them all together when you have made your decision and let them all know that they are individually equally as important to you and you wish you could have 7 maid of honors, and hopefully they will understand.
Good luck!!
2007-01-25 06:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by *CaRpE*DiEm* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have two maids of honor b/c I couldnt choose. If you want to be really technical and only have 1 maid of honor, you can ask the sister who just got married to be your matron of honor. This way both of your sisters got to have the honor atleast once. Then the last sister to get married can have you be her matron of honor. I would then have your 4 friends and 1 step daughter & remaining sister be bridesmaids.
2007-01-28 12:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the person that is going to be the one who will be the most supportive and keep it all about you on one of the most important days of your life. That ought to be the same person you know that you will be able to talk to in confidence when you are married. The Maid of Honor is the Brides Best Girl. Who is yours? The person that you can count on for life. You are lucky to have so many women in your life. The almost step daughters are not good choices it should be a person close to you in age.
2007-01-25 06:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close to your sisters then include them both. If one is married she can be the Matron of honor the other, if not can be the maid of honor. As far as the friends I would say use them as bridesmaids, true friends will not be offended but rather happy that they are included on your special day. The step-daughter would work well for a Jr. Bridesmaid. That way there is not offending and everyone is included. But ultimately remember this is your special day so surround yourself with people that will help make it special.
2007-01-25 06:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who's the first person, besides your fiancee, that you would go to when your excited or mad or just feel like bitchin'? Most people have that 1 truly special person that you can tell anything and everything. I have an older sister but my best friend was my made of honor. We were just always on the same wavelength. Ask others to be part of the wedding party or do a reading, handle the guestbook, etc. As long as they feel part of your special day noone should get upset.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 06:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by ninainpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with a sister or your closest friend. Make all the other ladies you mentioned part of your bridal party. From what I understand, maid of honor's have a hell of a job when it comes to planning the wedding... so make sure it's someone you trust and someone you know would enjoy the task. Also, what about sisters of your fiance? She/they should probably be included, if you guys get along.
Congratulations! Happy planning!
2007-01-25 06:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Winette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing as you have two sisters one is going to feel left out if you dont pick her to be the maid of honor so best to make them both the same and just bridemaids. Have one of your best friends a maid of honor there will be three left and they wont feel left out. Pick the one that you are with most and known longest. I am sure no matter who you pick they wont be upset as long as they have some part of the wedding to help you out they will be happy.
2007-01-25 06:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋