Family & Relationships - 23 October 2006

Now that we have equality and everything why should we get married?
People can still be committed to eachother without the ceremony.
Or should we 'update'the whole principles of marriage?

What do you think?

Thanks!

2006-10-23 21:24:46 · 24 answers · asked by kway_tzar 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

It's been two years since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me when i moved away to college. we remained friends w/benefits for the last two years and recently when i found out he was with another girl i told him it has to stop. ignored his phone calls for about 2 weeks and he persistently called me over and over until i finally alled back. he still calls every two weeks...tells me he wants to make sure "im happy" what do you think is going on? if he has a new girl...doesn't want to be with me b/c i live at college 2 hours away...why does he call me so much? do u think he really still likes me but wants me to have fun at college and is using this girl for sex (he cheated on her with me). i just dont get it...he says "i want to make sure your happy...your such a great person..etc." any thoughts or advice? even though i still like him should i play the game?

2006-10-23 21:19:20 · 15 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Singles & Dating

i am married in malaysia from last 6yrs and have 2 kids , my father is posted outside the town and he doing travelling everyday. my one brother is posted out of town too and coming once in week . my babhi is also working and she prefers to be with her parents , my mom is facing from ill health , she is diabetic, hypertension, and many more. earlier my younger brother use to help to take care my mom but now he is goin abroad to study
now my dilema is should i go and stay with my mom to help her . she needs somebody near her
but what my hubby then and my kids? their study will be affected they the need the national language of malaysia for their future.
whom should i stay with my mom , my hubby?
please give me serious reply .
if u were in my shoes what would you have done
thanx for replies and advice

2006-10-23 21:18:33 · 5 answers · asked by may_minu 3 in Family

The law changed in April or May to allow uncontested divorces to go through after a separations of one year rather than two years. Does this only apply to separations AFTER the law changed, or does it apply retrospectively as well?

2006-10-23 21:18:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my friends don't know what im talking about, but i know the second a guys interested by the look in his eyes, they open a little wider and he looks like he stopped breathing for a second, or kinda like hes about to cry...hha..maybe its just me?.. but it has happend with every guy i've had any relationship with

2006-10-23 21:16:40 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

She said that she is intrigued by me & that the best thing would be for me to be her friend right now. i see her almost everyday and she calls me or i'll call her sometimes. we hang out and talk a lot. her ex broke up with her recently after a five year relationship and he is also trying to go out with her, but when he found out about the kissing between me and her he went insane. she says that she still loves him, but doesn't know how much longer she'll put up with his attitude & makes excuses for him. i don't know what she sees in him. he's definitely way uglier than me and more immature. now, that she isn't with him she has no friends at college except me and her ex is back home so i feel like i'm the only one she can count on. if i left her now she would think that i was only after one thing. she said that she would understand if i didn't want to be her friend when i explained how much the situation sucks. sometimes i feel like if i took more action i might win her over

2006-10-23 21:14:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The questions are coming in very slow..................
Am I the only one who can't sleep?
What must we do?
mandy

2006-10-23 21:11:43 · 17 answers · asked by cking_pOise... 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-23 21:09:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

we've been friends for only a few months and just started hanging out. she recently broke up with her boyfriend (a stoner, jobless, doesn't go to school, etc) and since then i feel as if we've gotten a lot closer. i'm not really sure how they even got together. she's the complete opposite of him (i know opposites attract and all that blah blah blah.) i know she still has lots of feelings for him, but sometimes i feel a spark between us. she's semi-fragile right now, and i don't want to take advantage of her situation. what would be a good thing to do at this point? so far, i've just been there to help her through her troubles. i would just tell her how i feel, but i'm not sure if now is the right time. should i just wait for awhile? or is there something else i can do?

2006-10-23 21:08:58 · 10 answers · asked by A L E X 3 in Singles & Dating

my ex-boyfriend calls me every two weeks to see how im doing...says he just wants to be friends. is that excessive and is he hiding feelings he still has?

2006-10-23 21:05:24 · 12 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-23 21:03:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-23 21:03:01 · 15 answers · asked by mahalakshmi C 1 in Family

i recently left him because i didn't feel loved and i felt that the relationship was one sided. after i left, i heard things from my family that they don't like him and that they are happy i got out of the situation. i love him and i wanted it to work. he has worked, over the past three weeks, to change some of the things that i had a problem with. he wants us to have our family back. but i'm not sure if i should go back. i know if i do, that my family will be disappointed and i will have a split life: him and then them. i feel so confused. my boyfriend begs for me to come home and i want to have our family back, but i don't want to have all the fighting anymore. i need some serious advice from people in the same situation or have been in the same situation. i want my daughter to have both of us together like my boyfriend and i both had when we grew up. but i'm worried we will get back together and that honeymoon phase will wear off and it will go bad again. i'm torn. help

2006-10-23 21:02:00 · 12 answers · asked by lost23 1 in Family

I WAS IS MY UNDERWEAR THAT TIME !

2006-10-23 21:01:14 · 20 answers · asked by manisha_sexy101 1 in Friends

I know women take many things into consideration pertaining to marriage, but isn't sexual pleasure the final determining factor most consider when choosing what guy to marry. Women are attracted to power. And nothing symbolizes power more to a woman than a guy who is well endowed and is skilled in lovemaking.

2006-10-23 21:00:48 · 15 answers · asked by manny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my sister in law told everyone she is pregnant! she is only 2 days late from getting her period. and has told everyone when she hasn't even confirmed it by the doctor. i on the other hand am 6 weeks pregnant and havent told anyone apart from my husband. we were waiting to i was at least 8 - 12 weeks before we told anyone. now i feel like an idiot. should i have said something straight away when she announced it to me that she was pregnant? how is going to look now when i tell people! what do i do? do i tell people ASAP or just wait a bit longer. i am further along than her. the way she told me she was pregnant was by saying to me; so are you pregnant yet? i said no, and then she goes i am! everytime she would see me she ask me if i was pregnant yet and i tell her that i wasn't trying. cause i knew that if i told her we were trying that she would. i do however recall telling her last year that i would like to have another late this year. what should i do now?

2006-10-23 20:59:08 · 8 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family

She likes to joke with me but when I show the sign of my keeness in her, she seems to be alarmed and from there on I did not dare do it again.

She is a discreet girl and I enjoy her company and she is unique in my eyes.

I believe she does has good impression of me.

And there is mutual feelings between both of us.

we have been friends for just 7 weeks.

2006-10-23 20:58:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Mine : " I Miss My Friend " by Darryl Worley its a country song.

2006-10-23 20:54:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-10-23 20:53:37 · 36 answers · asked by aclazo979 1 in Singles & Dating

She got angry with me because I’m a private person and she can’t understand why I won’t let people know where I live or give them my home phone number. She said to me, “From the day you were born, I knew you were odd. There’s nothing in you from my side of the family. Don't you think it's strange that you go out with friends and don't tell them where you live?". I cried all night long and left for work this morning. I just don't know what to think. I find it difficult to disclose information about myself that's all.

2006-10-23 20:52:50 · 31 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Family

My daughter is a sr at high school. She has small breasts that otherwise appear to be healthy. She cries to me that "no guy is going to be interested in her "little a-'s". To a point she is right. The most popular people seem to be around the most pretty girls. I've told her that she is who she is, not her bra size, and stuff like that for years. Her mother died five years ago and now it is just her and me. On the other hand, I don't want to be prudish but part of me doesn't what a lot of guys trying to get in to her shirt anyway.

2006-10-23 20:52:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jas 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My first rule of thumb when I go out to eat is turn the cell phone on vibrate and no talking on the cell phone while dining at a restaurant. So my husband and I are at a restaurant eating and his cell rings. He answers it and begins talking (loud). So I give him the "maybe if I look irritated look" he'll explain we're having dinner and he'll call them back. So I ask kindly if he can please put his cell on vibrate. After this I THOUGHT he got it in his head "hey I should put my cell on vibrate and NOT talk at the table while we're having dinner". BUT NOOOOOO, this happens 2 more times 'til I finally get pissed off at him and tell him how rude and inconsiderate it is of him to be talking on the phone LOUDLY while others are trying to enjoy their dinner while his cell rings and while he talks loudly to the person on the other end. He says I'm being ridiculous and that I should STOP worrying about what other people think cause he doesn't give a *uck. So now we're fighting. But was I wrong?

2006-10-23 20:52:16 · 10 answers · asked by SoCalGal75 3 in Family

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I have graduated college and even have a great job. Why hasn't he asked me to marry him yet? And if he doesn't want to commit is he leading me on? I am ready for the next step in our relationship.

2006-10-23 20:51:16 · 14 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Singles & Dating

My mom met my dad 8 years before I was born-they were friends and all. But during this time he was married and also had 4 children. Well in 87' I was born and he came and saw me a couple times. Well we moved from ILL. to MN. when I was 3- And I have never talked to him or had any contact. My mom never really brought him up. And what I know is that he is well to do and a nice guy. So I don't know why he never really tried to contact me. I know he had a family but not even just once in awhile. Well I was thinking about it lately and I feel like I want to know him and share a father-daughter relationship.Do you think I should try to contact him?I am almost 20 and I feel like I'm running out of time-he is getting older-prolly almost 70 yr. old by now.Just I'm courious :| I don't know what to do. I am stressing over this tonight since I found a card I wrote back in 93' during Christmas and It showed I was writing him and sent pics-never was sent.I have no info on him :(

2006-10-23 20:45:08 · 4 answers · asked by foxyteenamh 1 in Family

I was 13 he was 17 when we started going out he was my first for everything, the first boy i kissed. 6 years later we have a 5 month old daughter together and 1 week ago i found out he had been seeing someone else for 4 weeks. I kind of knew it in my heart but didnt want to except it because he was telling me he loved me and no matter what he ever did in 6 years whenever he said those words I LOVE YOU i was blind to anything he did. This time i wasnt he was going out with her the night i confronted him (when i did he laughed in my face) i told him if he went i was gone, he went, i left. now i have to support my 5 month old daughter mentally, emotionally and financially while she is crying for her dad. We have spoken and i cant seem to bring myself to hate him. I have never been with another guy and feel like now i wont ever be. I looked after him for 6 years did everything he wanted is this why he did this to me. Now he is with her they became official the day we split.

2006-10-23 20:44:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

A while back I thought my father had cancer. I called my friend for some support but he never called me back. I'm pissed off that he never called me and I don't ever want to talk to him again. I know that he lost his father when he was younger. I keep thinking that he did not want to be reminded of the pain of loosing his father. Should I be more forgiving?

2006-10-23 20:43:08 · 14 answers · asked by X 3 in Friends

2006-10-23 20:42:55 · 11 answers · asked by suresh 1 in Singles & Dating

how could i get my partner to stay home of a night and spend time with me and our kids instead off doing karate classes 5 times a week

2006-10-23 20:40:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 montshs ago , and theres a dance coming up. I've only ben talking to her recently on msn, and just smiling at her at school. Should i ask her to dance durring the dance?

2006-10-23 20:37:16 · 16 answers · asked by david edwards 2 in Singles & Dating

I am not sure what should I do? My boyfriend told me that he is under a lot of stress and pressure from his work. He does not like his job, he does not get on with his boss very much, he has got to find a new job before his apartment agreement runs out in December. He is looking for a job near my city, which for him is a different country. He told me the other day that he is sorry for me but he just asks for one thing and that is understanding and comprehension and he asked for patience. But I have not been dealing very well with him being distant with me. He is cold and distant when he speaks to me and if I tell him that he gets upset with me and tells me that I do not understand him and I do not support him and he says this is the last thing he needs now to worry about me as well. What should I do? I am worried I am loosing him.

2006-10-23 20:34:46 · 23 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Marriage & Divorce