My first rule of thumb when I go out to eat is turn the cell phone on vibrate and no talking on the cell phone while dining at a restaurant. So my husband and I are at a restaurant eating and his cell rings. He answers it and begins talking (loud). So I give him the "maybe if I look irritated look" he'll explain we're having dinner and he'll call them back. So I ask kindly if he can please put his cell on vibrate. After this I THOUGHT he got it in his head "hey I should put my cell on vibrate and NOT talk at the table while we're having dinner". BUT NOOOOOO, this happens 2 more times 'til I finally get pissed off at him and tell him how rude and inconsiderate it is of him to be talking on the phone LOUDLY while others are trying to enjoy their dinner while his cell rings and while he talks loudly to the person on the other end. He says I'm being ridiculous and that I should STOP worrying about what other people think cause he doesn't give a *uck. So now we're fighting. But was I wrong?
2006-10-23 20:52:16 · 10 answers · asked by SoCalGal75 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutely not. For some reason people think etiquette is only for others. This bs about not caring what others think has gone too far. It's called consideration and cell phones in restaraunts is one of the biggest complaints nowadays. You're more thoughtful than he is not only to him but to others. If he doesn't care about the others the least he could have done was care about you.
2006-10-23 20:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its wrong for you to not want someone talking on the cell phone at the table with you but you could have been nicer about it. I dont mind people talking as long as I can still have a conversation at my own table and not have to talk over them. If you listen, sometimes people say funny stuff. Its not something to fight about though. Its done and over. Just ask him to respect you about the phone and others in the restaurant by going to the lobby or outside.
2006-10-24 05:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by BJTD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...."My" first rule of thumb when "I" go out..... The last time I checked, there was no "I" in "team", which is what you and your husband should be by now, seeing as you're both not just dating anymore, you're married. Ya gotta' talk with each other, not at each other. The crazy cycle will eat your marriage for lunch if you both don't get control of your own pride. Pride always comes before a fall. When you're tired of hurting each other or getting hurt for no reason, try some mutual love and respect. Treat the other person like you'd like to be treated. Try it, it works. But you gotta' learn it before ya can try it. Enjoy the journey, here's the source......
2006-10-24 04:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by gloop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in any relationship there should be truth on how you feel.I know how you feel-and it's not bad that you expressed yourself. He needs to learn more manners while out-and at dinner should be zoned into conversation with you or with any other people who may be with. Not on the phone talking loudly. Thats juss being a jerk. Unless it was a very important call-ok and than go outside and talk. Doesn't need to spoil your dinner or anyone elses. Hope things get figured out!
2006-10-24 04:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by foxyteenamh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ... you're not wrong. Your husband was not only rude, but inconsiderate as well. Cell phones constantly ringing, while others are trying to have a relaxing meal ... are the next best thing to having a screaming baby cry ... non-stop, for your entire meal. Your husband was being extremely selfish.
2006-10-24 04:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong about the cell phone etiquette, itself; but I think you may be wrong to take it upon yourself to worry about whether other people are frowning on his behavior. If they do its their problem and his problem.
I, personally, don't really care if someone in a restaurant talks on his phone. I may think it would be nicer if he wouldn't, but I can't say I care much. Let him talk at the top of his lungs. Its a public place. That's how I feel about cell phones, and although others feel differently there are also people, like me, who don't care who does it. (I'm a "silencer" of my own phone, but I don't care if someone else wants to piping off in her own conversation so the whole place can here. It will stop eventually.)
So, I think if he doesn't give a rat's bottom about what other people think, and if he wants to take his chances on being asked to put the phone on vibrate, that's his right. Again, you weren't wrong about the cell phone etiquette; but you were probably wrong to try to tell him what he ought to be doing.
I think you should offer a simple apology and tell him you were just trying to protect him from having people think he was too loud. I don't think you're even necessarily wrong to consider what others in this type of situation may think (about you). What they think of him is his problem, though.
2006-10-24 04:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
''cell phone '' dont fight for that .what kind of job ur husband doing it depends .caller dosent know u r on dinner tabel ,talking loudly is someones nature u just reammber them that u r in public place politely .dont fight for this ............please
2006-10-24 04:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You whining controlling individual you are lucky he is still with you. It was probably the mistress anyway
2006-10-24 03:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, but I think you're married to a jerk
2006-10-24 04:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dun think u r wrong...............
2006-10-24 04:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋