A while back I thought my father had cancer. I called my friend for some support but he never called me back. I'm pissed off that he never called me and I don't ever want to talk to him again. I know that he lost his father when he was younger. I keep thinking that he did not want to be reminded of the pain of loosing his father. Should I be more forgiving?
2006-10-23 20:43:08 · 14 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Overreacting....and you are probably right, too painful for him to deal with.
2006-10-23 20:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of a women who had a long term friend relationship with another women much old older than her. The relationship saw so deep that they thought of each other as Mother and child and when the older women broke both wrists in a fall the younger went to her every morning to make sure she had everything she needed to make it thru the day. Than went to work. After work she returned and gave the women a bath. cooked and cleaned for her., than went home to her own family. this took place everyday for 6 weeks. Now, when the younger women's father died she went to be with her family for the furrel. all in all it was 5 days, When she returned her older friend told her that she felt very upset that the younger did'nt even call. the 16 year relationship ended. who was at fault? was it worth it?
2006-10-24 04:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your sign Aries? If not, you must be some kind of fire sign!
I understand how you feel. If you can't trust your friends for support who can you trust.... BUT... friends are people too! Don't be mad, ask him why and tell him it hurt you... then move on. The only way that you can know a real friend is if you go through the tough, pissy times aswell! You'll laugh about it in a couple of years..
2006-10-24 03:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Superstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe so. Last year a good friend of mine's brother died. I knew him very well. A few years before this, he had moved out of town & so did I. Well the funeral was held in the town we used to live in, so I drove there with his sister. I stayed at another friend's house for obvious reasons. When it was time to go to the funeral home, I just couldn't do it. His entire family loves me like I am their own & I feel the same way about all of them, but I just couldn't bring myself to attend this. Both my parents died in a violent way and so did he. Another friend of mine died in a violent way & I just became overwhelmed with everything right then and there & broke down. I did finally make it to the funeral home, but could only stay for a short time. Every once in a while I feel some guilt about this, but I really couldn't help myself. I am forgiven.
2006-10-24 04:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by cola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are overreacting. Its not right for you to give up a friend b/c of what u are going through. Yeah friends should be there for support but its not a requirement and its no reason to act childish and say u'll never speak to them again. I mean I dunno about him but I am a horrible person at giving support, b/c of my personality its just hard for me to sympathize like one would need a supporting person to.
2006-10-24 03:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by wcbaseball4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have our problems and ours always seems worse than the other person. When my dad died my best friend did not come to the funeral and this was after i told her that she needed to be there..that i needed her. It took me about 3 years and I finally confronted her and told her that i was really really mad at her... blah blah blah.. we cried and made up. Bottom line.. confront him soon and get it out in the open so that your friendship can move past it quicker. And forgive him.
2006-10-24 03:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are overreacting. If you have never lost a parent, it is devastating. And if you have, I'm sorry. I have lost both of mine. People naturally don't like to be around illness either.
O'hock
2006-10-24 03:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably brought up feelings that he still isn't ready to deal with even now. Give him another chance. When my grandmother died, I just couldn't talk about it. I was afraid that I'd start crying and never stop. I was also afraid that my talking about her might hurt other's feelings. But, yes, give him a second chance.
2006-10-24 03:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ofcourse. You should understand his situation and how painful it must have been for him to loose his father.
2006-10-24 03:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by KD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u r overreacting. First make know about his problem.
2006-10-24 04:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋