what do i do?

Question

my sister in law told everyone she is pregnant! she is only 2 days late from getting her period. and has told everyone when she hasn't even confirmed it by the doctor. i on the other hand am 6 weeks pregnant and havent told anyone apart from my husband. we were waiting to i was at least 8 - 12 weeks before we told anyone. now i feel like an idiot. should i have said something straight away when she announced it to me that she was pregnant? how is going to look now when i tell people! what do i do? do i tell people ASAP or just wait a bit longer. i am further along than her. the way she told me she was pregnant was by saying to me; so are you pregnant yet? i said no, and then she goes i am! everytime she would see me she ask me if i was pregnant yet and i tell her that i wasn't trying. cause i knew that if i told her we were trying that she would. i do however recall telling her last year that i would like to have another late this year. what should i do now?

Answer 1

don't do it asap.
if she is not pregnant, and you announce at the same time, people will start wondering if you also lied or were mistaken.

besides, you don't want to get into a competition with her. you shouldn't even answer her directly when she asks if you are pregnant yet. Just tell her that if you ever are, that she will hear it along with everyone else when and if you ever make such an announcement.

Answer 2

♥♥♥ Congratulations ♥♥♥
Personally, I would not say anything to anyone until the 12 week scan - But that's just superstition on my part.
I think your sister-in-law is being a little premature announcing her news to everyone quite so soon - It really is very early days yet!
Although it's not a race - At the end of the day (unless your sister-in-law has the gestation period of a hamster) you should have your baby a good 6 weeks before her... and all the attention you need! She will have her deserved share of the limelight 6 weeks later when she has her baby!
Tell people when you are both good and ready - It's nobody's business... especially not mine, so I'll go now!
Congratulations again!

Answer 3

You may choose to find something else worth while to worry and fret about. Who cares that she beat you to the punch? Who cares if she is pregnant? Who cares? Does anyone care if you tell the world now or wait for 8 -12 weeks, how ever you came up with that time frame. The bottom line is, no one really cares if you tell or not. Keep it secret, its your choice. The only thing that matters anyway is the health and well being of your newborn.

You have an issue with controlling outcomes. So give yourself a break and lighten up. Get rid of the jealousy and invest your time and effort in loving your own family. They are the only ones that matter anyway. They are the ones that care.

Make a choice, be happy with it and who cares if anyone likes it or not. If you are happy with it, let it be so. Let her, live her own life. Her desires and expressions are none of your business anyway. It is her life to live as she wishes.

And I'll bet a couple of bucks on the idea that you can't even be really excited for her news. It doesn't matter if you do or not. She is excited and in her world that is all that counts. Get the idea?

Good luck and lighten up. When you worry and stress your are flooding your 70 trillion cells with toxic poisons as well as the cells of your new baby. Is that what you want? Love bathes the cells with health and strength. Love is the only answer.

Answer 4

you shouldnt tell people that you are having a baby until you are at least three weeks pregnant. that way, if something happens (god forbid) and you lose it, you won't look like an ***. How does she know she is pregnant after two days late? sounds liek she is having some sort of contest. besides, when you are read yto ttell, tell. you shouldn't feel stupid for keeping it a secret. its your baby anyway!

Answer 5

I totally agree with lemontea. When you and your husband feel its time to let family know, your just waiting until you feel all is well.

Answer 6

just tell people that you are pregnant; it is better for YOU to tell people asap rather than people will know that you are pregnant from OTHER SOURCES. and it will be revealed whatever happens.

Answer 7

Tell everyone when you and your husband are good and ready.

Answer 8

You shouldn't be factoring what she is or does into what you do. She's who she is and what she is, and you're you.

Do exactly what you planned to do originally, and how it looks is how it looks.