we've been friends for only a few months and just started hanging out. she recently broke up with her boyfriend (a stoner, jobless, doesn't go to school, etc) and since then i feel as if we've gotten a lot closer. i'm not really sure how they even got together. she's the complete opposite of him (i know opposites attract and all that blah blah blah.) i know she still has lots of feelings for him, but sometimes i feel a spark between us. she's semi-fragile right now, and i don't want to take advantage of her situation. what would be a good thing to do at this point? so far, i've just been there to help her through her troubles. i would just tell her how i feel, but i'm not sure if now is the right time. should i just wait for awhile? or is there something else i can do?
2006-10-23 21:08:58 · 10 answers · asked by A L E X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you be a friend. You know she's going through things os now is not the time to be telling her how you feel. What you do is be there for her emotionally and do whats best for her not yourself. Now when things calm down and you do what I have said then your friendship will grow and then that's the time you tell her how you feel and what are the advantages that you give to her if she goes out with you. Then after you express yourself say that if it's too early think about it and until then, we can be good friends still.
2006-10-23 21:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Young Vito 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say give it a little more time. Be there for her, flirt with her a little, let her know that you are there. Help her to see that you can be more than a friend, but don't come out and tell her how you feel just yet. You can try to give her a kiss on the cheek sometime, hold her hand every once in a while, get her a gift or two. Those gestures might help her to see you in a different light, but are not so obvious that she would get turned off.
2006-10-24 04:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying you have feeling for a friend. she broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago. I am sure she is ready for you to make the next move. Try asking her to get together and get to know her better and viceaversa. I am pretty sure she has had a lot of time to think about what she wants. go for it before you lose your chance. Good luck.
2006-10-26 22:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on being a good friend. Friendship is the basis for the BEST relationships.
If you really feel you must hurry things along, you could take her out for a meal to cheer her up, and see how things develop from there. (But still be conscious of not taking advantage - it will at least put her into the scenario where she has a chance to see you as a potential date)
2006-10-24 04:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay a friend for too long that's all you'll ever be.If you want to take the chance on being rebound guy,go for it.Just remember that as rebound guy everything you say and do will be compared to the "ex".You will never meet up to his high points,and she wont remember the bad ones.It's an uphill fight.Make sure she is worth all the effort.
2006-10-24 04:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you are doing the right thing by helping with a shoulder to cry on. Time heals all and at some point she will realize what you have done for her. I think you are correct in proceding cautiously until her hurt goes away. Go slow, continue to show your concern, involve her in your life as much as you can (invite her for coffee, dinner, theater or whatever seems appropriate at the time), and love will have a chance to blossom. You are absolutely right in the approach you are taking.
2006-10-24 04:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her that she may only look at you as friend; but, the truth of the matter is that you would settle for friends in hopes of more without losing her to distrust with failed relationships she is experiencing. That regardless of your relationship you will be there as a friend first and formost.
2006-10-24 04:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude stay either friends or make the leap and kill the friendship.
If you are attracted to her and you not a loser than she will just want to be friends and want you around to catch her everytime a loser takes her for a ride. or she will be just fine with you but will not know how to act because needs a loser
2006-10-24 04:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by RENO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a staring contest with her. If she starts smiling and breaks out into an annoying flirtatious giggle, she's yours. Green light.
2006-10-24 04:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My tip is this: Don't ask her out yet. It's probably too soon for her. You don't want to be the rebound guy. It never works out for the rebound person.
2006-10-24 04:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋