Etiquette - November 2007

2007-11-19 12:51:38 · 64 answers · asked by Adriano 3

I was the first one of our BIG group of friends to get married. We are all very close, we're just a big family. Several of us live out of town, so each year we get together for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We always held the events at our house (my husband and I) as a way to get every one together. We do lots of decorating and cooking and really enjoy this as the "main event" of the season.
This year, one of the girls is getting married and has asked if she can host Christmas in the future. I really put a lot of effort into this each year, and we invite other people she doesn't know.
I feel like this will make every thing inconvenient. The girl who is getting married causes a lot of drama most of the time and I feel it just wouldn't be the same if we broke tradition now and started swapping up every year. There's so many of us, (close to 20) if each of us hosted it once a year, we would lose track in a few years! How do I handle this politely?

2007-11-19 12:45:40 · 9 answers · asked by SouthernBelle 3

I would reallu like to help my dear friend out, today he mentioned that life is throwing him a lot of financial curveballs & when I asked if he needed help he jokingly asked if I had $1000 just laying around.
I know he wont give me a straight answer if I asked how much he really needs so I thought about stopping by his work "to visit while I'm in town" & handing him a envelope; good or bad idea? Got anything better??

2007-11-19 12:41:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do mean squeeze, and it hurts too.

What do some people do that? Are they stupid? Or are they trying to hurt you on purpose?

2007-11-19 12:31:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is this no longer socially acceptable? It just seems like society is so rude and in such a hurry all the time? Is this due to technology, i.e. the internet? Should manners fall by the wayside because we are all high-tech now? I am not "Miss Manners" by any means but it just seems like common courtesy is no longer.

2007-11-19 12:10:36 · 16 answers · asked by MiMi 5

About six months ago, we got a new office manager in our branch office. I feel like she never does anything in the office to help with our sales, but is quick to pile on the tasks for everyone else!

She'll make us do sales calls after hours, but rarely (if ever) makes her own calls.

Whenever I approach my office manager's desk, she's always idly clicking away on the computer with her chin in her hand, seemingly doing nothing while everyone else is running 90 mph... and she doesn't offer to help!

Today I drove home crying because I was so frustrated...

So how do I approach the branch manager (my boss as well as the office manager's boss) about the situation?

2007-11-19 11:04:47 · 9 answers · asked by Kenzie 2

I was waiting in the for the bus and this guy was sitting in the bus shelter smokin a black& mild and everyother second he was spitting. Like people want to sit in the bus shelter with him while he spits. I have noticed too that people are spitting anywhere, with no regards for how disgusting that is. Doesn't that spread disease? What is wrong with our society?

2007-11-19 10:59:11 · 8 answers · asked by Miss 6 7

After that same person has given you praise for your work but because you are not bendding backwards and have to deal with best practice in the industry and third party vendors, calls you names behind your back. You hear about it. Give him a piece of your own mind and then are sacked??? The customer is US (well half Greek half French) and the boss is UK (provincial).

2007-11-19 10:55:55 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is 11 and he said he got annoyed so he & his friend kicked a car (left a dent in it,).. threw mud over it and also pulled off wcn wipers. Passers-by caught them in the act and they called the police. Police talked to me and to my dad and my brother is now getting an official reprimand. this is the second time i have had to deal with the police for him. he does everything worng and sometimes i just feel like our family would be a lot better without him. he has damaged our garden shed (broke the windows 5 times), he keeps the windows dirty by kicking a dirty football at them for hours, he plays football so much we have no grass left in our garden, he tried to dig up my dead hamster.. he swears alot.. has a filth girlfriend.. walks on the carpet with his dirty trainers on.. and breaks everything he gets his hands on, he has wiped his butt with a towel, peed in cups, broke his football net, broke his PSP, xbox 360, ps1, etc etc.. HELP?! HES THE BROTHER FROM.. wel i aint even gonna say!

2007-11-19 09:48:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are there so many people that say when people are nude at home, yuh, im calling the cops, etc. Why are people so uptight about things like that. They reakon it is primitive and yuck. It is 100% natual, it is not healthy to wear clothes all the time. You need to let your skin breath.

2007-11-19 09:24:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i went to a gas station cause i had to take a dump and i had dirrhea. but by the time i got to the bathroom it was too late...i ended up pooping all over the floor. i never told anyone...i just left. should i write them a note or something? i did leave a pretty stinky mess for them...

2007-11-19 09:15:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Guys have a tendency to check me out, or stare at my breasts or legs when talking to me- Even if I’m wearing just a plain tee and jeans.
SometimesI find it really amusing and it cracks me up- it’s like they can’t possibly grasp the idea that I’m noticing them doing so, and they won’t make eye contact throughout the whole conversation… however sometimes it’s perverted. But what can I do? I mean I can’t say “quit staring at my boobs/legs/*** already!” or can I?...

2007-11-19 09:04:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

there was a line for a tip???
Are you supposed to tip when you order pizza now???
I dont get it...

2007-11-19 08:20:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister just became engaged a week ago. She is now in the throes of planning her wedding. She lives several states away. She just called me, and wanted to talk about her wedding plans. She asked me for my boyfriend's number, because she just assumed he would be videotaping her wedding (he is a videographer) for free, and that he would come with a multi-camera setup and do full editing for this. That is about a $4000 proposition, and she just ASSUMES he is (not only going to do it) but to do it for free.

I thought that was about the rudest thing I have ever heard, and declined to give her his # if that is the only thing she is going to use it for. If she wanted to just call and ask politely, or have a conversation, I would have given it to her - but not so she can demand things.

I told her I would tell him what she said, and give him her # if he wants to call.

Did I do the right thing?

2007-11-19 08:14:45 · 14 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

Hi! I'm an italian girl and on ''Yahoo italy'' They can't telling me because you english people drink a cup of the at 17.00... Can you tell me it? thanks! I'm sorry for my english!!

2007-11-19 07:33:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

A co-worker's father just passed away, and everyone in my office was passing a card around to be signed. The co-worker and I were friends outside of work, so I sent him a card on my own. When I told co-workers this, they seemed upset. Doesn't it mean more if it is a personal card, rather than one with people you don't even know signing it? Whether it be for a funeral, birthday, or whatever the case may be.

2007-11-19 07:30:34 · 11 answers · asked by Springer 5

I'm of the impression that unless someone tells you they respect you or that they don't respect you, you really don't know.. I think typically you try to interpret their actions as respectful or not, but that's always subject to misinterpretation. I'm a man, in general women are pretty terrible about jumping to conclusions about someone just based on how they feel, but they may not have considered all the possibilities, and I find that even though I am a man, my personality is more of feeling personality ENFP so I have times when I do that too. But you can pretty much piece it together.

examples
you put your medic alert tag in front of you - the person grabs it and reads it without your permission.. disrespectful?
person makes criticizes you publicly? disrespectful?
person speaks against you to others - disrespectful?
person pretends to like you but you find out later he wanted your wife..
see what I mean?
but none of these people would say they don't respect you

2007-11-19 07:24:16 · 7 answers · asked by art_flood 4

If someone found a necklace worth $250,000 but instead returned it to the owner and got 1,000,000 $ reward what is that philosophy called.?

2007-11-19 07:11:24 · 4 answers · asked by JJ DonJuan 2

I think the superficial women who participate in cliques are simply the same girls who had them in high school that never quite grew up. I find their behavior insulting. I run into this every day at my child's school. They actually stand in a group out front of the school, and although they squint and say hello briefly in passing (I have nearly stopped returning these fake greetings...why BOTHER???), they ignore you if you are not part of their little group. I am not the only one frustrated by this. It wouldn't be so bad if my daughter hadn't lost her best friend because I wasn't good enough for her mother (they are no longer allowed to play outside of school)!!! I don't know if it's because I'm WAY prettier than her and weigh about half of what she does, or if it's because I am self-employed and she is just now re-entering the workforce, but her attitude make me want to HORK....

2007-11-19 07:01:15 · 16 answers · asked by thinkaspell 4

What SHOULD she have done?
Friend "A" (white) was at my house for a party and I guess she dropped the N*bomb in front of friend "B" (black) and the room just got quiet for a minute and she changed the subject. From what she told me (and from what I know of her), she didn't say it in a mean way or with any hate in her heart whatsoever, it was just one of those things where it's like, "I've seen the movie 'Friday' ONE too many times" and I guess it just kind of came out. Also, friend "A" is closer to friend "B" than me- that's how I know friend "B".
I wasn't in the room when it happened...but had I been, is there anything I could have said or done to fix it and not destroy the mood of the party? What should friend "A" said? Friend "A" said that friend "B" didn't say anything, but friend "B" is really quiet and easygoing anyway. Any thoughts?

2007-11-19 06:52:16 · 9 answers · asked by artsyfartsy 4

Do you think having your decorations in your front room all that time is a bit OTT
I know the stuff has been in the shops for some time but come on

2007-11-19 06:47:12 · 21 answers · asked by Pedro B 4

I was out doing a bit of shoping earlier today and as i was leaving one shop i could see a women on the other side about to enter. I opened the door, steped to the side and said "after you love". She walked past and gave me a really dirty look as if i had just insulted her then didn't even say thank you, the cow. I then remembered that when i've called other women name's like love, darling, babe i've often had the same look. So what's a good name to call women you don't know, where they won't feel your being sexist, slimey or rude ?

2007-11-19 06:46:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

He just told me today that his jeep broke down & is very distraught about it though he was acting like he was joking. Whats the best to offer him money without making him feel small?

2007-11-19 06:29:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

you know somone with no manners or doesn't know it's impolite because they been brought up that way,learn it from someone or don't know if they upset u as it difficult to know when one moment being rude as u take it that way maybe u are wrong and then the next moment being nice.i thought if you were impolite it meant u didn't like the person .is it possible to be rude and still like u.like a rude nice person,after all it does take time to know someone really well to decide that,nobody perfect

2007-11-19 06:05:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-19 05:47:30 · 5 answers · asked by Red 1

I'm a freelance photographer, and I have an appointment at 2:30 today. It's about noon now.

The people I'm photographing are not paying me- I'm doing it as a favor to them because I got connected to them through a charity organization- they've never had a family portrait done, and they were nominated by a family member for some free gifts and services. I'm working today for them at no cost. Not a problem for me at all.

The problem is MY babysitter just flaked out, I can't get a hold of anyone else, and I can't get a hold of the people I'm photographing. While I know it's not ideal, do I take my kids along for the session and just apologize when I get there? I know it's not professional at all, but I really have no other option than this or just don't show up- and I hate for them to come all this way to meet me for their session and then find out we can't do it.

2007-11-19 04:51:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

(strangers not just family) you can never do anything correct or fast enough for them . anyone else come across this problem?

2007-11-19 04:25:05 · 17 answers · asked by a.y. 3

My daughter's first birthday party is Wednesday. The party is at our house at 5:30pm. I can't make it any earlier due to working family members. We want to take our kids out to dinner around 7pm. Is there a nice way to get everyone to leave by then? Everytime we have these family members over to our house they act like its a family reunion and want to stay 3 or 4 hours. We would like to enjoy the rest of the night with just us and out kids.

2007-11-19 04:20:21 · 18 answers · asked by honeybear 5

I'd like objective opinions, since mine would be, ya know, subjective. Or something.

2007-11-19 03:33:28 · 19 answers · asked by Brandon's been a dirty Hore 5

Ok, here's the story:

I have just been accused of screwing up by a work colleague. It wasn't my fault. The mistake was made by SOMEONE ELSE in the department, when I was off sick (this person has now left) and only discovered now.

Basically this guy called me over, gave me a hard time about the whole thing, wouldn't listen to me and then when I told him it was someone else's mistake he told me he didn't give a ****.

Should I have to take responsibility for another person's mistakes? Was he justified in behaving this way, or is he just a w@nker.

2007-11-19 03:09:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous