I think the superficial women who participate in cliques are simply the same girls who had them in high school that never quite grew up. I find their behavior insulting. I run into this every day at my child's school. They actually stand in a group out front of the school, and although they squint and say hello briefly in passing (I have nearly stopped returning these fake greetings...why BOTHER???), they ignore you if you are not part of their little group. I am not the only one frustrated by this. It wouldn't be so bad if my daughter hadn't lost her best friend because I wasn't good enough for her mother (they are no longer allowed to play outside of school)!!! I don't know if it's because I'm WAY prettier than her and weigh about half of what she does, or if it's because I am self-employed and she is just now re-entering the workforce, but her attitude make me want to HORK....
2007-11-19 07:01:15 · 16 answers · asked by thinkaspell 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People who form exclusive cliques do so because they are insecure in themselves, and see the "need" to alienate others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. And yes, it is immature. My simple policy with regard to cliques consists of two words: STAY OUT. By getting involved, you are actually bringing yourself down to their level- not to mention that you risk getting backstabbed somewhere down the line. It is better to have a few good friends than a bunch of pseudo ones. True friends of yours will be comfortable enough in themselves that they won't have to pull stunts.
2007-11-19 10:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cliques bother me. I used to be in a very closed off group in middle school and I hated that some girls in the group would exclude the other girls for whatever stupid reason (wrong hair, clothes, etc.) I basically told them that I was through with that way of life so I left and found some nice, REAL friends.
2007-11-19 16:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, cliques themselves are not necessarily a bad thing, and not everyone in a clique is a b-i-t-c-h. Can't a clique be defined as just a close group of girlfriends? I was very close friends with 3 other girls in high school. We were inseparable and did everything together. You could probably call us a clique, but we weren't mean to other people.
2007-11-19 16:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Katie G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what high school girls need to do: ignore them. And find a way to discuss cliques with your daughter without being too negative & catty about the women in question. This sounds like it could be a mean school and your daughter needs to be able to talk to you.
2007-11-19 15:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by noname 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women have so much drama in their lives? Even after high school... I think it's because of all the meaningless social attributes gained in HS whist among the superficial girls.
2007-11-19 15:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Adam S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, yes, I was in a clique. But as a 30 year old woman I think it's childish.
2007-11-19 15:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally dislike cliques. But it's human nature to form groups and judge other people, whether it is in school or in politics. It's sad, isn't it? Sometimes human society really sucks.
2007-11-19 15:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy ♥ - semi retired :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea, they are called CHURCHES..
ever wonder why you have all black, all white, all people all the same in churches? all whatever? it's because people only want to people they feel comfortable, people like them.. so they don't get outside their comfort zone, and they only befriend people like them, and they bring to church people like them, and then after a while the whole church is full of people that are all alike. I have been to churches in Tampa with no Cubans or Greeks, churches in the deep south either all Black or all white, churches in Montana with no Indians.. church in Iowa where nearly everyone was an engineer.. churches where nearly everyone was a former missionary.. etc.. etc..
I've attended very few diverse churches..
it is like churches try to see if you fit in a box andif you do you are accepted and if you don't you aren't.
I don't seem to fit in anyone's box.
2007-11-19 15:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by art_flood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate them. But I do have to admit, I secretly enjoy watching people that are in cliques behave - stupidly, usually. It kind of cements my opinion that these people have no life - no thinking of their own. The greatest masterpieces have been created by loners.
2007-11-19 15:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They're everywhere. I deal with them at my job, among my friends, even in the Lion's Club I belong to. I refuse to be a part of them. They're childish and immature. And strangely enough, refusing to be a part of them does not affect me negatively in the least.
2007-11-19 15:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Erin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋