Parenting - September 2006

As women dont you you think we should be happy for all moms? Whether one takes the bus and another drives an Expedition?
Or whether one dresses her kids in hand me downs and another dresses them in Tommy?
As women and as mothers we should be happy for them no matter what their financial status!

2006-09-15 09:14:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

The one Iam looking at is a 1998 Mercedes Benz ML230, price-16,000. Abouta year ago he bought himself a near new Chevey truck that cost about33,000.
He makes a bit over a hudred grand yearly, so money isnt the problem. The problem is, he seems jealous that I want this particular vehicle, and now he is thinking of trading his truck in to get the same thing I want. Before this he had no interest in them. He was perfectly content with his truck until we went to see the suv.
Also since I am a stay home mom and I want this vehicle he says things like "you better be real nice to me" or" this better be worth (something I dont want to do sexually)" I dont think I have to do anything like that, I stay home 24/7 and take care of the house and kid. In the 3 years I have stayed home I could have bought this vehicle had been working.
He is always trying to convince me to get something cheaper and less nice, so his truck is the best.
I think he is being selfish!

2006-09-15 08:55:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have in mind the parents who are passing chips through school railings where the school has recenly introduced a junk free menu.

2006-09-15 08:54:01 · 31 answers · asked by Jason A 2

My Adoption Story: I want to be closer to my birth mom....?
I am 13 years old,almost 14.I was adopted young is all I know.
Supposedly,when my birth mother was pregnant with me,my birth father died,which is true he really did.I didn't know all my life I was adopted in fact I haven't known that long at all!Well my real mom,I have known her as my cousin in the family.She's like a second cousin to my adoptive-dad.So I really am related to them.Nobody,has yet told me what age I was adopted at,but I can remember many things.I love my adoptive parents.But the problem is I haven't always been so close to my "was cousin..now mom".I mean I see her every now and then.Well just last week I saw her again,at my aunt's funeral.And the whole time her and I talked trying to get to remember each other better.I really want to be closer to her so bad! I miss her everday,do you think if my adoptive parents say it's ok it's a good idea to spend the summer with her? Any ideas on things to do,stuff like tha

2006-09-15 08:48:36 · 10 answers · asked by PolishChikka 1

is a job as well as his. He thinks that this is not a job and just something that women do. I am missing out on a career, job, money of my own, friends, a life, all to stay home and raise our boy. I dont hate it, but I do hate the fact that this to him is not a job. I always demand money these days, because before he wouldnt give me any. I guess he doesnt think that doing dishes,laundry, folding, organizing,washing floors,vacuuming, washing windows and walls,cleaning the couch, "babysitting", playing with our boy, educating our son, and the like is a job worth paying for!
I am ready to punch this mutha f'er in the balls if he doesnt wake up and realize that all the above takes as much energy if not more as a real job, plus there are no adults around to chit chat with.
What can I say to him?

2006-09-15 08:41:58 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

or get them a car?

2006-09-15 08:33:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a mother of a very willful and stubborn boy. But I use a technique to subdue him; I spank his butt and “miss” my hand a little further into his nuts. Every time I use this, he does what I told him to do. I only “miss” when needed, and it works!!! Don’t you think mothers should just start using this technique of mine? I mean as long as it works why not?
The problem is, he is now 9 years old, and I think he is starting to suspect I do it on purpose, at what age do you think I should stop using this technique?

2006-09-15 08:16:34 · 41 answers · asked by angelina_hg 1

Am looking for stories about adoption. Positives and negatives. Hubby and I are having trouble conceiving and not sure whether to continue down the fertility treatment route or to try adoption. Does adoption feel like you have your own child or is it like looking after someone elses? How do you cope if the child has regular contact with birth parents/family? Any advice would be appreciated. I am in the UK. Thanks.

2006-09-15 07:50:56 · 11 answers · asked by Boo 2

If your son/daughter grew up and became addicted to a drug, would you feel as though you failed as a parent? If you see an adult who is atticted to drugs--or smokes pot recreationally--do you automatically assume they had bad parents? How about teenage pregnancy--is that due to bad parenting? How much blame can we put on parents?

2006-09-15 07:32:46 · 27 answers · asked by .vato. 6

I taught my two-year old stepson proper genitalia words because he would walk up to random women, point at their crotch and say "penis". (I don't know where he got that from.) It didn't matter where we were, the store, the park, my parents' house, anywhere.

One day I said to him "no, girls have vaginas", and since then, he has stopped. He doesn't walk up to women anymore and say that. I think it was because he would follow his mother, his step father, or his daddy into the bathroom (depending on whose house he was staying in) and see how they pee differently and didn't understand why. Now he does, so he has moved on.

However, his mother is having a big issue with it. She is fine with him using the proper word for male parts, but not for girls. The only reason she knew I taught him that is because I told her that I did.

Was I wrong to teach him that?
Should I have told her, or should I have kept it to myself?

2006-09-15 07:30:46 · 24 answers · asked by Bachman-ette 4

My friend is in her 30's and has been married for years, she has never wanted children. She said she never had the mother desire and had enough nieces and nephews to have her kid "fix". And she is very happy with her life.

I don't think there is anything wrong with not having children, just like there is nothing wrong with wanting children. Its a personal decision.

Why do you think some people choose not to have children?

Did you choose not to have children, if so then why?

What are your thoughts?

2006-09-15 07:24:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are you doing now to prevent future problems for you kids, socially, physically, and emotionally?

2006-09-15 07:00:52 · 18 answers · asked by .vato. 6

My mother in law is raising a 4 year old girl and has been since she was 3 weeks old. It's probable that the mother of this child did drugs during the pregnancy. This little girl can be the sweetest thing and she loves to be hugged on and loves on everyone. But she goes through these stages where she turns into a complete devil. She says the most hurtful things to others, even to strangers, and embarrasses us all in public. She has gotten pretty much everything she's ever wanted and is pretty spoiled but my in laws have always disiplined her. Spankings don't work because they don't seem to hurt her. They've tried taking away her toys and making her earn them back with good behavior and even reasoning with her. All this seems to work for a week or so and then it loses total effectiveness. She is at her wits end and no one else has any advice. Please give me some tips to help her out! Thank you.

2006-09-15 06:54:25 · 5 answers · asked by Phaylynn 5

Yahoo is one of the most popular websites and search engines. Millions of kids are using yahoo daily. How can you let such pornographic dance be exhibited on the front page. I'am sure that in days to come you'll be in trouble for that if you don't remove that immoral AD detail. Thanks for understanding.

2006-09-15 06:48:16 · 5 answers · asked by longembu b 1

All his life I used violence to express myself and to get what I wanted from him. But now that he is getting older (17) he has learned to fight back and he is stronger than me and he can beat the ****** *** ****** out of me and it hurts so bad. How can I just sort of start over with him? I can't live with these beatings.

2006-09-15 06:30:08 · 23 answers · asked by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2

Her dad is portuguese, who are well known for being calm.
Her mum is english, but of irish origin, who are well known for their temper.

2006-09-15 06:28:10 · 35 answers · asked by Hacker 3

to give his dad a bath? I hurt my leg.

2006-09-15 06:16:49 · 9 answers · asked by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2

I can see she doesn't feel like to eat in the morning. Even I said to her " It is very importent you have to eat your breakfast before you go to the school." She takes more than one hour to sit infront of her breakfast and waiting for me to say " We have to go now or we will be late for school. "
She knows eventually I have to take her to the school anyway and with her eating attitude I am getting quite unhappy in the morning.

Any good Idea to have a good morning?

2006-09-15 06:06:33 · 28 answers · asked by Tell me 1

I just read a question about when should a child be allowed to see sex and kissing on television--I don‘t think there is anything wrong with that question, by the way. I have always questioned that and violence. It seems in America it is okay to watch violent things on the television. For God's sake--cartoons are more violent. Why do we take so much time and effort trying to shield our children from sex? In my eyes sex is natural. It is something people do--if you have talked to your kids about sex, explaining when two people love each other they have sex then why is it that big of a deal? Why do I see so many American children watching Pulp Fiction--before they are allowed to watch Titanic? If kids know they are just movies--not to get confused with real life--then why is sexual content so considered much worse then violence? Before you jump to conclusions--no I’m not talking about full fledged porn--just movies with sex scenes.

2006-09-15 06:06:14 · 23 answers · asked by .vato. 6

For my son's 17th birthday I got him a lottery ticket as a "fun gift." The thing is, it won 3800 dollars. He isn't old enough to collect it so I took the money. Am I right that the winnings are mine although the ticket was his? He is upset with me about this. He doesn't know that I'm planning on using the 3800 on his sister's breast enlargement. My son is smart enough to make it on his own, but his sister is not very bright and she'll need this to help her succeed in the business world.

2006-09-15 05:49:39 · 38 answers · asked by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2

i want to work part time so i can stay at home during the day with my sons (1 1/2 yrs and 4 months). i am torn between leaving a good paying job that helps support my family and taking care of my babies, daycare is too expensive and im not happy with our family member who is watching them now. what to do!

2006-09-15 05:38:24 · 21 answers · asked by ErikaCane 2

I never asked for any of them dam ho's to get pregnant, I thought they was takin precautions. Why is it my problem they didnt? They always saying how "its my body, its my body, I decide what to do wit da chile" well if its they bodies, why dont they pay fo the little pests? Is this **** of makin me spend all my hooker money on a buncha kids legal? Man!!!

2006-09-15 05:03:40 · 43 answers · asked by cdrfish7 1

in a house that is only about 900 square feet, has one bathroom, 2 bedrooms and you have 2 kids. Please don't say get a bigger house. We are going to add on, but right now we can not financially afford it. There just doesn't seem to be enough room for everything to be neat and in its place. Are there organiational shelfs or tubs that are useful and don't take up much space?

2006-09-15 04:25:31 · 10 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

my 5 year old has a suprising amount of rage that just wont end. None of our other kids have the anger he has. We've tried every thing but sending him to a shrink. Have any ideas on how to redirect his temper with out hurting anyone or costing a bunch?

2006-09-15 04:11:13 · 19 answers · asked by sarat0 5

I just asked about how to un-enroll my stepson from school. I called the school and they said that I would have to come up there today and fill out some papers and that they would consider him un-enrolled come Monday. They said that our state really monitors children in school and if he was not enrolled in a new school on Monday or Tuesday, that it would throw up a red flag.(Texas) I am off work today so I told my husband I would take care of this, but I can not reach his ex on the phone to make sure that she is en-rolling him on Monday and my husband isn't answering his cell either. If I go ahead and un-enroll him and let them know that his mother is getting him back this weekend, will it now be her responsibility to take care of the new enrollment?

2006-09-15 03:50:14 · 9 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

I work at a convenience store and see many people everyday. I also have a daughter with down syndrome. When I see people with children who have downs also, how should I approach them? I like to see how other people's children are doing developmentally, but am unsure on how to go about approaching a complete stranger. I need some tips please!

2006-09-15 03:49:11 · 6 answers · asked by Jamie 2

A young girl in my boy's kindergarden class habitually singles out my son and another young man to pick on. Each morning when I take him to class, the class is all lined up outside the door waiting for the teacher to arrive, and sitting on the right side of the door. This little priss box finds it necessary to tell my boy and the other young man that they have to sit alone on the left side, by themselves.

There is a basket of books outside the class for the kids to pick up and read/look at while they wait. Every book my son or the other boy selects, the girl has to get up and object to them having. Today's excuse was the books they picked was for girls. Yesterday, they couldn't have any books because "she said so".

Obviously, I'm not going to talk to this little girl. It's not my place, plus I know I'll say something that'll make her cry. So, I've spoken to the teacher. It has not helped. It's worse IN the class when I am not present, and my son tells me. What to do?

2006-09-15 03:43:32 · 14 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4

i just bought my daughter a new puppy for her 9th birthday...

i let her name him, and i guess since she isnt very original she decided to name him "blacky" because of his dark fur.

how do i explain to her that this is completely inappropriate? some people would be EXTREMELY offended at that name, and the dog certainly does not deserve to be given a label like that.

dont get me wrong, my daughter isnt racist, she just isnt very sensitive to other peoples' feelings.

2006-09-15 02:55:30 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Step-parent question re relationship with custodial minor and adult stepchildren being disrespectful got this comment: “You are too late in the game to instill discipline. This would be tough on a step parent trying to do the right thing. But really they don’t have a say. Especailly to a 20 yr old ADULT." I think it would be just opposite. When step kid is an adult the stepparent has a LOT OF SAY! Step kid or not, at 20 yrs old, I now I have an additional grown man living in my home! When the step-kid is 18 + the step parent is no longer put in a position of trying to instill discipline them, but is simply commanding respect from another ADULT. If I don't like the 18+’s disrespectful language towards me I should be able to say so. If I don't want their big, stinky feet on my coffee table I can say so freely. At this age any conflict in the home has zero to do with “discipline”. Conflict now are to let a disrespectful, sponging GROWN-UP know that they are about to be thrown out.

2006-09-15 02:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by zoe_southernusa 1

at what age should i stop bathing my children together? we have a large bathtub, and since my son and daughter were little we would always have them take a bath together.

it saves me time, and water, and no one seems to mind... but since girls mature faster than boys, my son has started asking, innocently, why his sister is growing breasts...

when will he figure this out? i figured his friends would have talked with him about girls by now, and im concerned he might become a homosexual if he isnt informed.

2006-09-15 02:45:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous