WOW...Why do moms get so jealous of other moms who have nicer things?

Question

As women dont you you think we should be happy for all moms? Whether one takes the bus and another drives an Expedition?
Or whether one dresses her kids in hand me downs and another dresses them in Tommy?
As women and as mothers we should be happy for them no matter what their financial status!

Men encourage othe men, but women just get all jealous and catty!

Answer 1

I wish women could bond as easily as men. It's true that men bond with each other easier because they are not trying to compete. Women on the other hand tend to be competing all the time.

My theory is that most mom's want the recognition of being a great mom and each mother goes about getting the recognition in different ways.

Personally, I'd rather sit with my mom on a bus talking with her than a gas guzzling SUV with the music blaring and not a word spoken.

Answer 2

people get jealous of other people who have nicer things. It has nothing to do with being mom. Maybe if you interact with mom most of the time, you think it's exclusive behavior.
I am not a mom, but I can tell you that it's ubiquitous. Men do not encourage other man- have you ever seen the look on a guy's face when a guy with a very nice car drives by?
Or when his boss talks about his fantastic vacation with his attractive young wife?
Or any professional (male or female) when a colleague of the same rank gets a promotion?
People are people- envy is a natural human feeling.

Answer 3

I agree--- but it should be that way with everyone. Women tend to express it more I think, but kids, and even some men tend to get snippy about others who may have something nicer. Or worse yet, look down on those who don't have all the material things. I figure that as long as I'm happy and my family is satisfied and cared for, what difference does it make if we're driving a Lexus, or a Volswagon?

Answer 4

I'm guessing you are a mom on the nicer things side.
I don't think that women are actually unhappy for the moms with alot more, I think its kind of a jealousy thing. These moms wish they could have those things, mostly because they don't have those things and probably never will. I'm on the moms with not so much side, mostly because I'm a single mom, and its very hard. I work in a educational book and toy store, and when moms come in with their kids and can drop $100, on books and toys for their kids without batting an eyelash, It hurts deep inside because I cannot do this for my child. Yes,Ive made my choices in life, but it still hits you. You have to look at it from all sides of the coin.

Answer 5

It's certainly odd. I've seen mom's brag about how their child only has the best of everything and would never let hand-me-downs near their kids in front of others who use second hand things and shop in charity shops, and I think it's sad. People should be more focused on the children rather than where their stuff comes from.
You're right! Financial status shouldn't enter into anything to do with children.

Answer 6

there are various assets you're able to do because of the fact something which you do would be favored. whilst i grew to become into 7 I wrote my mom a letter saying that i admire her. basically the standard techniques like flowers and enjoying cards are severe high quality. I many times write to my mom on mom's day this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days i'm doing a sonnet for her. with the help of how, basically giving your mom a hug and a kiss on mom's day is actual favored.

Answer 7

Who's jealous? I may not be able to buy the best things for my children, but I am able to be a SAHM, my husband is affectionate and provides for his family. My children all have clothes on their backs, a roof over their heads, food in their bellies, medical care, and schools to go to that I don't have to worry about them when they are there. I am grateful for the things that I do have. I guess that I really personally (not speaking for everyone else) could care less about who has what. How about you? (P.S. I drive a 1996 dodge caravan)

Answer 8

Great question, and I agree. I admit there are times I wish I could buy afford to buy my little girl things from Pottery Barn Baby - but then again, the time I spend playing with her and talking to her is worth more than any cute bedding set I could buy. I guess for some women, it makes them feel like better mothers. Maybe spending so much money on their kids somehow makes them feel less guilty for whatever brings on the guilt (working too much, yelling, etc.)

Answer 9

I do think it's human nature to be envious of each other. As moms, maybe it's a matter of wanting the best for your child, and not always being able to afford it. Really I think it comes down to insecurity (although kids - esp. young kids - don't care about brand names). As long as you're doing your best for you kids, hold your head high!

Answer 10

Yes but most of the time (not all, but most of the time) the mothers with nicer things tend to brag without actually bragging. It's a talent that comes with the SUV I guess...