Step-parent question re relationship with custodial minor and adult stepchildren being disrespectful got this comment: “You are too late in the game to instill discipline. This would be tough on a step parent trying to do the right thing. But really they don’t have a say. Especailly to a 20 yr old ADULT." I think it would be just opposite. When step kid is an adult the stepparent has a LOT OF SAY! Step kid or not, at 20 yrs old, I now I have an additional grown man living in my home! When the step-kid is 18 + the step parent is no longer put in a position of trying to instill discipline them, but is simply commanding respect from another ADULT. If I don't like the 18+’s disrespectful language towards me I should be able to say so. If I don't want their big, stinky feet on my coffee table I can say so freely. At this age any conflict in the home has zero to do with “discipline”. Conflict now are to let a disrespectful, sponging GROWN-UP know that they are about to be thrown out.
2006-09-15 02:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by zoe_southernusa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would talk to hubby and if that didnt work tell the hubby that his kid has to go i was 16 when my stepmother kicked me out she changed the locks and had my things boxed and on the porch when i came home from school!!!
2006-09-15 03:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think you are right. You are no longer trying to be a parent, but you are trying to get their respect as an adult. Its as simple as that. As for having an idea of something to do to gain that respect, I have no clue. I'm only 25 myself. I hope that sooner or later this 20 yr old will grow up, but for some people that could be asking a LOT.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-15 03:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Genny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse should respect your wishes and help you in solving this problem. If they do not they also do not respect you. A swift kick in the butt is in order.It's not your job to provide room and board to an adult. A few nights locked out of the house may open his eyes.
2006-09-15 03:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by carolinatinpan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your home. If this adult child cannot respect your home/rules/values, he needs to GET OUT. You need the support of your spouse. If you can't get that, I would go to counseling and get this resolved.
2006-09-15 06:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by gator girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's grown- get him OUT!
2006-09-15 04:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you just want to vent.
2006-09-15 03:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋