Are there any stay at home moms whose husbands will NOT give them any money?

Question

or get them a car?

Answer 1

lol, sounds like we are living the same life. I'm in the exact same situation, car and all!!!!

Answer 2

I think you will find this "Dear Abby" letter and answer interesting.

● DEAR ABBY: I need your help with something. My 16- year-old grandson seems to think that all his mother does is stay at home. He conveniently "forgets" that she is a housekeeper, gardener, cook, teacher, nurse, driver and mediator. Could you please print a breakdown of what a stay-at-home wife should be paid? — Vivian in Colonial Beach, Va.

DEAR VIVIAN: According to the Census Bureau figures for 2004 — which are the most recent — there are 36.7 million mothers of minor children in the United States. About one-third of them, 10.8 million, are stay-at-home moms.
According to an article penned by Al Neuharth, the founder of USA Today, in its May 11, 2006, edition, "Salary.com compensation experts estimate that stay-at-home moms work an average of 91.6 hours a week." That's more than double the number of hours the average office worker puts in. He went on to say, "That should be worth $134,121 annually."
He quoted the compensation analysts as figuring the lowest-paying parts of a mother's job are "housekeeper, laundry machine operator and janitor. Higher-paying categories include computer operator, facilities manager, psychologist and CEO." With a 91.6-hour work week, 52 weeks a year, it works out to be $28.16 an hour.
It should go without saying that a mother's love is priceless, so tell that grandson of yours that $28.16 an hour is a bargain.

Answer 3

I have a car so I can take the kids to the doctor's office but as for money, NOPE!
He doesn't give me any money. The only time I can use his card is to buy grocerys, thats it. My son needs winter clothes really bad but I have no money to buy him clothes.
When we first decided that It wasn't worth me working since child care cost to much, he said he would give me an allowance of $60 a month. That never happened, not even once.
he thinks nothing of it.
I hate it. I hate not making any money. I hate not being able to buy my kids what they need. It's a good thing my family and friends give me hand-me-downs.

Answer 4

i truly feel for you ...my partner just bought a new van for the family it may be in his name but it is my van...he does handle the money in the house but after the bills are paid and things bought that are needed in the house....he gives me some "mad money" to do with as I wish...and as you other ?? about the house he is very understanding and helps out on the weekends and will do dishes during week if I ask...the only reason I am a SAH is it would cost more for child care for me to work....then to stay home

Answer 5

GOD NO! Im a stay at home wife right now and my hubby doesnt even cash his own check- I pick it up- I sign it- I cash it- I pay all the bills- and he gets $20 a week to play with! I figure he cant run away with only $20 lol

Answer 6

My exhusband was that way. His paycheck went to his mom and she gave me an allowance or else bought what she thought we needed. She paid our bills although everything was in my name.

However with my current husband HIS paycheck goes into MY bank account. of his own free will.
I stay at home and take care of all its aspects therefore I take care of the monetary aspects of it as well. This works out well for us and we dont fight about money as he knows that everything is taken care of, since he works 50 to 60 hours per week if not more he knows he cant do it all. And he doesnt try to.

Answer 7

I would not stay married to a man that didn't understand that my job (staying at home w/ kids) was just as important as his job (providing $ for the family) The $ my husband makes is for the family; it belongs to him and me equally.

Answer 8

my hubby is pritty good that way. But my car is my car. I bought it when i had no kids. He is the one who gets mad because I will not let hime drive my car. But he does take care of the money, he just makes sure I have what I need and puts gas in my car for me. It makes my life very low maintnance. But as far as your situation is concerened, tell him that it is abuse to not let you have money, and the option to leave the house if you need to.

mabey print this out and leave it laying around. !! good luck

Financial Abuse

Financial abuse can take many forms, from denying you all access to funds, to making you solely responsible for all finances while handling money irresponsibly himself. Money becomes a tool by which the abuser can further control the victim, ensuring either her financial dependence on him, or shifting the responsibility of keeping a roof over the family's head onto the victim while simultaneously denying your ability to do so or obstructing you.

Financial abuse can include the following:
preventing you from getting or keeping a job
denying you sufficient housekeeping
having to account for every penny spent
denying access to cheque book/account/finances
putting all bills in your name
demanding your paychecks
spending money allocated to bills/groceries on himself
forcing you to beg or commit crimes for money
spending Child Benefit on himself
not permitting you to spend available funds on yourself or children

Answer 9

WHAT!! thats nuts, you need a car what would you do if something happened and you needed a er?!?!?! And besides that, you deserve to have money, Stick up for yourself and DEMAND some!!!!!! or get out cause his controlling will only get worse!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

No, my husband bought me a new car and i control the check book. i'm not bragging or nothing, he just doesn't want me or his kids to be without.