stay at home mom?

Question

i want to work part time so i can stay at home during the day with my sons (1 1/2 yrs and 4 months). i am torn between leaving a good paying job that helps support my family and taking care of my babies, daycare is too expensive and im not happy with our family member who is watching them now. what to do!

Answer 1

follow your heart

a biological mother or father won't care, they just make babies

a parent and caregiver will do what is best in interest of the dependant

if you don't care for them now, they will not care for you later

do it right, or else they will never leave home and be a pain in your side for life, possibly you will bury them, not fair

Answer 2

I know what you mean... I'm having the same problem except a little twist. I'm a stay at home mom now. My husband encourages me to stay at home, he's happy that our son is learning so much and can have indiviaul attention. Daycares to expensive and even if it was an option i wouldn't do it because I know that he needs special attention. But we need the money i could earn if i went back to work. I'm torn between either working 3rd when he's asleep (and never getting any sleep) staying at home and cutting WAY back on our already tight budget. It sucks...

Answer 3

well if your last resort was daycare which is very expensive..you would have to consider if you would be working just to pay for daycare!if your husband makes enough money to support the family i would just stay at home and be a mommy...i am lucky to be able to do so and be with my children everyday all the time and not have someone else watching them!if you really need the income from you and your husband...try to find a private babysitter instead of daycare..this is usually cheaper..just make sure that you do background checks and look into the person that you get to watch your babies!!good luck!

Answer 4

That's hard I'm sorry!! And you don't have any other family member to watch them? I wouldn't look at it in that point of view because if you think that it would be more expensive to stay in work and put the kids in daycare than stop and only have one income then go with the one helps out more!!

Answer 5

I feel that family always comes before work. If you could manage working part time to be home with your kids it would be much better for your family. Even if it means cutting back on some of the luxuries that you're used to such as eating out etc. I would much rather be home with my kids than working. You will never regret the time with them, but you may regret being without them. They are only young once, and the best care they can have is from mommy. If you can manage it financially, that's what I would do.

Answer 6

Its hard to say, I used to be the full time employed spouse in my house. I did pay all the bills, and work full time. But when it became time for me to quite working(my situation is similar to yours, my dad was watching my kids, and he was not acting like an adult) but I have not been working for 7 months. It is hard to get used to that, but I have a 4 and 5 year old girls, and am pregnant with a boy. 20weeks. And I have found a new bond with spending time with them!! I am glad that I took some time off. Just remember as soon as they all go to school, then you will be able to work full time again. But for Now i suggest that any moms that get the chance to stay at home with there kids, DO IT!! It is a great experience to spend alot of time with them. Remember in 10 years they will have better things to do then snuggle with you and tell you about a cool cartoon!!

Answer 7

I was in the same situation as you and I work full time. If I were you I would look into rather finding another family member or close friend to watch your children or simply go to your local DTA office and see what you are eligable for. Also I would look into low income daycares in your area. Good Luck

Answer 8

I must say we do look a lot alike and we have the same first name if that is your name. Anyhow I would say work part-time, sometimes we get caught up in wanting that good paying job we miss out being home with our children. Eventually the children will get older and be off to school and then you can get another good paying job. Good luck with whatever you decide and I'm sure your husband will be supportive.

Answer 9

You might find it more difficult financially,but it sure is worth staying at home with your kids.And if the extra cash is needed you could offer to babysit for a friend.Yes I know , dacare is very expensive if your not making top dollars.Or if it works with your husbands schedule, then you could work afternoons so that he would watch the boys then. But that is hectic at times. Good Luck! the best option is to raise your own kids,not at the sitters all the time.

Answer 10

I choose to stay home with my daughter they are only this little once in there life.Yeah money is sometimes tight but our daugther always has everything that she needs and wants.She is 4 months now and she changes so much everyday. I will go back to work when she is old enough to start preschool but untill then I am content being at home and taking care of her and watching her grow.

Answer 11

You do what you feel you need to do for your family.

Take out a sheet of paper (or a few!), and list your income and expenses both with your job and daycare and with you being a stay at home mom. Also, list the drawbacks and benefits of both.

I know for us, daycare would be prohibitively expensive. Even if it wasn't, we believe that the best place for our children (only one now, hopefully more to come) is at home. I know I would be miserable if I had to put our daughter in daycare.

Do what you believe is right, and best for your family.

Good luck.