The one Iam looking at is a 1998 Mercedes Benz ML230, price-16,000. Abouta year ago he bought himself a near new Chevey truck that cost about33,000.
He makes a bit over a hudred grand yearly, so money isnt the problem. The problem is, he seems jealous that I want this particular vehicle, and now he is thinking of trading his truck in to get the same thing I want. Before this he had no interest in them. He was perfectly content with his truck until we went to see the suv.
Also since I am a stay home mom and I want this vehicle he says things like "you better be real nice to me" or" this better be worth (something I dont want to do sexually)" I dont think I have to do anything like that, I stay home 24/7 and take care of the house and kid. In the 3 years I have stayed home I could have bought this vehicle had been working.
He is always trying to convince me to get something cheaper and less nice, so his truck is the best.
I think he is being selfish!
2006-09-15 08:55:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Actually there is reason to include the prices and yearly wages, its so you understand where I am coming from. Otherwise you might think, they cannot afford these. Im not bragging, but details are important here.
2006-09-15 08:59:43 · update #1
PPL, Can you please leave out the fact that gas cost alot, Im not worried about that. A tank of gas would last me all month in my case.
Whether its an suv or piece of ****, they both take gas.
I have had my days of driving junkers, I think I would like a nice vehicle now.
Esp after I was promised it and now he wants the same one I do, the only one on the lot that was that price.
Its just funny.
He knew I wanted it, and now he does.
2006-09-15 09:04:24 · update #2
Wow. You need Dr.Phil and Oprah. Out of my lane.
2006-09-15 08:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, there are multiple ways you can approach this situation. I'm sure since he is providing most, or all, the family income, he should have a small say in what you guys get. I don't think it is selfish for someone to like a particular vehicle over another. That is why people have different cars. The world would be very different if everyone drove the same type of vehicle. As far as an SUV goes, is there a particular reason you want an SUV? As for SUVs, these aren't exactly the most fuel efficient vehicles out on the market. In fact, they are probably one of the worst. Have you opened your window to other types of vehicles, such as a hybrid or something more economical for your case? I feel that if you want to go get a job and work towards something that you REALLY want, you should do that. There are plenty of jobs that offer day care services if your child is of a small age. If not, I'm sure you can get a reputable recommendation of a great place in your area. As for his aspect, I see something like this as normal. When someone wants something newer or better, other people have a tendency to put it in their mindset that that is what they want to, so they don't feel left out or discouraged. It is sort of like two kids at Christmas time. Both kids open their presents and get different things. They see that each thing is different and they automatically want to have what the other kid has. From my take of this, he probably feels that because he is making the most money, he should have the best vehicle. It's a typical pyschological thing. What I would recommend is to keep looking for other alternativees and maybe you can find a vehicle that you both can agree on that would be suitable for you
2006-09-15 16:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by C_Ras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know this girl (me) that was rear ended in a small compact car and had to be flown shock trauma to the nearest hospital. If my children had been with me, they would have perished (even though being buckled) since there was nothing left of my back seat! Since you will be driving your children around in this vehichle he does not want your children to go through this or risk being killed cause he has an ego problem. This is for safety sake and you will do what you have to, to get this vehicle. If he wants you to do those acts on him then tell him that he needs to sign the papers and then you'll oblige. If he wants the SUV then tell him to find one for himself and sell his truck though every family should have a pick up truck it is so beneficial! We are in the same predicament here. I do get the SUV all day while he takes the truck to work. Gas is not a problem cause I don't travel that much, but when I do travel I want to be 100% clear my children will be safe in case of an accident. And the way traffic is nowadays you really need to think of safety first. Also tell your husband to grow up and start thinking of his children before himself!
2006-09-15 18:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by colleen3273 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want such an old SUV? its almost 10 years old. Anyway it dose sound like he is throwing a fit just a bit. I wanted to get my wife a new Porsche Cayanne but she drives like crap so she cant get one till she drives better (shes 21 and a stay at home mom as well) and I drive a Dodge quad cab which status wise the porsche is the upper end and I would have no problem with that (I would also drive it anyway) try to use this to your advantage and get something newer. When you get to these kind of cars they are just status symbols to impress people, anyway they do the same thing as any other SUV. So from my point of view if my wife drives something like I mentioned above it makes me look better in the eyes of people who judge your status
2006-09-15 16:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by DIRKDIGGLER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there's no need to include prices and yearly wages here. Second, I think your husband is right. Why can you have a Mercedes and he can't? I think you are the selfish one here. If you truly wanted an SUV, it wouldn't matter what brand it was.
Say what you want, but there's no need to include prices here. Nobody would have cared less how much your husband's truck cost or how much he made a year.
2006-09-15 15:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that particular Mercedes isn't that big of a deal and it's only 16,000 so when your husband says get something cheaper or not that nice i think he has never seen extravagant like he is trying to make this SUV. So people should get off your case about it being a "MERCEDES" There is jettas that cost more and way older. Oh and trust me there is nothing to brag about!
2006-09-15 16:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by britt3m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being selfish and a pig!!! Why should you have to "do favors" for something you want? Your husband is pissing me off and I don't have to live with him. Tell your husband to be nice to you, give you the car you want or you'll have half his money and the f***ing car you want!!! Now that I got that out of my system, lets get real. Your husband does not respect you or what you do for the family. He sounds a bit immature and controlling. Remember you have more control than you are giving yourself credit for. Tell him to stop being immature and selfish and you don't owe him any sexual favors. Be firm and say it like you mean it. Tell him his behavior is having the opposite effect on your libido and attractiveness to him. Why in the world would he hold things over your head like that? Tell him you are hurt, insulted and will not tolerate this any longer. Then refuse to discuss the matter further with him until he can apologize for his selfish behavior.
2006-09-15 16:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by JenUs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're both selfish. I think SUVs and trucks that cost tens of thousands of dollars are ridiculous and digusting, and a perfect symbol of the utter greed and sense of arrogant entitlement that so many people display these days. Perhaps you and your husband should try and think of something more meaningful to do together than compete over status symbols.
SUVs are an obscene waste of gasoline and resources. No spoiled suburbanite needs a giant vehicle like that to drive to the stupid mall with. If you have kids to haul, buy a minivan. A used one.
2006-09-15 16:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you want the SUV because you would feel safer in one and that cars are too low to the ground and god for bid that you are in an accident .. you would be safer in an SUV!! If you guys share the bills and share the payments go trade it in and get what you want.. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 17:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like y'all have deeper problems than the car. Start by trying to find those problems and solve them for the kids sake.
Or if you live in a 50/50 state, divorce him and buy what you want.
2006-09-15 16:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by fedup_dwn_south 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How about you just turn in your license and walk? We don't need anymore SUV drivers causing accidents
2006-09-16 20:53:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋