This is getting worse and worse every time she visits. She is a preschooler, very young, and she visits our home often enough that I think she knows we aren't going to just leave her behind.
Here's the problem: She is very attatched to me (future stepmom), too attatched I'm afraid. When the visitation is over I can hardly describe her reaction. I usually do her hair or some type of activity with her to try to delay her freak out. She's figured it out and everytime she looks me dead in the eye and says "I'm not going to my mommy's house." When it's time to go its HORRIBLE. She has the grasp of death on me, she knows I can't drag her around on my leg, she screams and cries and says she won't leave. She won't let her father or me put shoes on her and when we pry her off of me she hides under the dining room table!
We resorted to flat out lying once, I left and her father told her they were going to meet me. We hoped she'd calm down once she saw her mom but it was by far the worst screaming/crying fit ever. Not to mention it felt terrible to lie to her like that. It takes about half an hour for me just to calm her down enough to get her in the car without kicking and screaming.
I've been around over a year which might seem forever to her but its not like I've been spoiling her rotten. I give her attention and do my best for her but this is insanity. We don't speak badly of her mother, nor do we let anyone else. We certainly don't encourage this behavior either. I don't want to make her feel that she isn't welcome here but we can't just keep her, the law doesn't work that way lol. I don't know where this is coming from but I can't even imagine how this makes her mother feel. I love this girl to death but this is a very stressful and an odd situation for me. How do you handle this?! What can I do???
2007-12-20
18:52:01
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Toddler & Preschooler