Oh - and I *don't* have to take my grandsons in for their last day of school tomorrow and I wouldn't have done anyway - you see arrangements *can* be made if granny is "unwell" - pathetic really.
2007-12-20 19:00:52 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Now listen here Joan.....
Firstly there would be a fair number of your contacts that would miss you, your Grandchildren would be devastated if you didn't wake up again!
This is not the Joan I've grown used to talking, it would be a cold day in hell before she would ever ask a question like that.!
Joan if you ever need to talk then please feel free to e mail me, I may not be able to help but at the least I can lend you an ear.
2007-12-21 04:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
ummm.... this might sound rude, but I will not be sad if you don't wake up... to me you are an anonymous entity on the internet. One of millions.
That said, you need to take some you time. Spend some time with the real people that do value you. If you are looking for love here, it's not going to happen.
Open your eyes, look around you. Go out and get some coffee. Meet some new friends.
That is really all the advice I can give for such a morbid question. Would you cry if I didn't wake up tomorrow?
2007-12-20 19:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ayawi 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
You know what, my mother in law is like this. She doesn't have to do anything for anyone if she doesn't want to but keeps making these stupid comments about "maybe it would be better for everyone if I was dead".
Yeah, that makes everyone feel better.
If you don't want to do it, don't. End of discussion. No one makes you drive anyone to school. If you do it, do it out of love otherwise don't do it. SAY NO. Your grandchildren aren't stupid. They'll know if you hate doing it and if you resent them. Don't tell me you just resent their mother
Same as having them stay with you. Do it with love or not all at. Seriously. My parents have a tough time dealing with grandkids for a long period of time (their nerves just can't take it). I wouldn't want my kids around them for long because they would just get crabby anymore. If that's you (and I'm not saying it is) don't spend too much time with them because kids notice when granny is getting miserable.
Love them, spend time with them when you can but say no if you have to so the grandkids don't grow up thinking granny doesn't like them.
2007-12-21 01:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by pinkpiglet126 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Joan, for the sake of your mental health I really think you need to talk to someone. Your rants about your DIL have become more and more venomous and now you b*tch about your eldest grandson too! There is obviously some deep underlying unhappiness in you and it will only destroy you if you continue. See a doctor, and merry Christmas.
2007-12-21 01:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by spaismunky 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Joan......That's just the drink talking. And yes there are a few of us who'd miss you if you didn't wake up again. Problems and grief are always magnified in the small hours of the morning especially when you have had a drink. Tomorrows another day and although the shite will still be there it's at least another night you've got through xxx
2007-12-21 00:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Beaver Diva Sue ♥ 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sorry you are feeling unwell but hopefully you will be OK for Christmas. Are you going to your sons for Christmas dinner. Half of my brood are going skiing to the Alps children and all and the youngest daughter plus family are coming here for lunch then hopefully the evening will be mine to unwind and rest after a very hectic time at work.
Love to you Joan and hope you feel better soon.
2007-12-20 22:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Joan R you are a wonderful person, who sadly gets put on not out of love for your grandsons but through the children. You must find it hard. i think i would as I'm sure you would want to spend alot of time with them if it was your choice. Your problem is you cannot say 'No' because this could be dictated as not loving your own grandchildren. You have been put on and its been made to be a job and chore.
i really hope you have a good Christmas and i give a **** cos i love your questions nite x x
2007-12-20 19:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Be Vamp 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Joan , you do more than enough for your grandchildren; you are allowed to be ill ( and if is anything like the cold I have just suffered make sure you take some proper time off as this one is very hard to shift ). You are also allowed to feel down at times everyone is ... it is normal.
Joan the more you put yourself out for other people the more people come to expect from you.... I would say make yourself "less available", people soon begin to value what you do then.....
2007-12-20 20:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I've only just seen this question, I know your alright now good else I would of given you a piece of my mind lol enjoy your walk Joan and the other lol Bx
2007-12-21 11:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we all care that you wake up in the morn but if you don't have kids then go girl make the best of it and have a few that will give you a good excuse for being not well live life to the full thats what i say
2007-12-21 03:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by sco7da 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋