Parents freak out way to easy? My Boyfriend and I....?

Question

Were In my room tonight just laying down watching movies on my bed. We werent doing anything just cudleing and kissing We had the door wide opened and it was only early. And My mom walks in and starts freaking Like screaming at me. Im 15 grade 9. My boyfriend is the same age. We dated for 2 years and 3 months. Did I do anything wrong? I just dont get it? Can anyone explain?

Answer 1

You are only 15 living with your parents in their house, eating food given by them, wearing clothes purchased by them and pursuing your education and entertainment on their account. It is their responsibility. Right?

WHAT ABOUT YOURS?

Isn't it your responsibility to at least tell them, if not take their permission, before you bring your friends home, especially a boy friend? They have given you the freedom of having a separate room of yours, meeting people, going places.

Have you matched this freedom with responsibility? Now, you want to do anything and question their right to be in your room even when the doors were wide open that too when it was early?

At 15, how did you earn the right to do anything, I mean anything, in their house? What would they do if something unwanted happens to you...abandon you...leave you to your fate?

Look, at your age hormones surge and one thing leads to other. Now, it is kissing & cuddling and later it would be something else. Time wouldn't be far when you would be moving with a bloated tummy and then blaming everyone else, especially your parents, except you.

Come to senses and behave decently when at home with your b/f and respect your parents' concern for you.

Answer 2

You see, parents know how horny teenagers can get, because they were teenagers once, and they got horny and they did the deed in their time too, so they know how easy it is for teens to go further than they had intended to go, so yes, that is why they freak out.....
Now if you did exactly the same thing, but had your little brother or sister there with you in the room, they would not freak. See, its all about not trusting you because they had been there, and had made the mistakes they want you not to make.....
By the way, you will probably not ever marry this nice guy anyway, so do not get too emotional about him.
I know you do not want to hear this, but it is a fact.......
Chances are that in a few years from now, you two will either go to separate colleges or live in separate towns or have a huge blow up and hate each other, so keep in mind that even though it is really nice now, the relationship will probably be temporary...
With that in mind, go enjoy him and the holidays....
Hugs
Clara

Answer 3

It doesn't matter how long you've been dating. You're both at a very sexual age and things go quickly "from 0 to 60 mph" - especially if you're kissing and cuddling while the door is open - what do you do when the door is closed?

It's a sign of maturity to keep your hormones in check - which neither of you showed. Plus a pregnancy can change your life forever - whether you decide to abort, give the baby up for adoption or keep the baby.

I know it's rough, but respect your parents' home and rules until you're 18 (and moved out) and you won't have this problem.

(I know this isn't the answer you want to hear)

Answer 4

Yes your mom was 15 at one time and dated boys her age.....She's got experience as to what goes through their heads. And not always the one on their shoulders.

The fact you were laying down in a bed with a guy is bad enough. To be kissing and cuddling that can very quickly lead to other things.

I remember being about 13 or 14 and standing in the front on the side of my parents house kissing this one guy i had a mad crush on. My dad walking out and catching us, he took off, i walked in the house my dad stopped me and goes don't you know that guy has roaming hands and rushing fingers, and what were you doing kissing him.

I looked my dad dead in the face and said, i wasn't kissing him he was kissing me, and walked up stairs to my bedroom.

I look back on that and think omg, i didnt tell my dad that.

Look parents know more have a more rational sence of thinking even thought we dont always show it.

I'm glad you have a long dating history with this guy, but he may not be the one you marry when you get out of high school and start your life.

Keep activities to groups and in the front room where nothing can happen and you can't be accused of doing anythign you weren't doing.

Answer 5

Well to be honest you weren't doing anything wrong if that's what you mean. But your mom freaked out by the fact that she found you guys in the bedroom together in your bed. I mean she could get pretty bad ideas of you guys being together.

You also have to understand that some parents freaked out because they are protective and don't want us (teenagers) to make a mistake when we are so young.

Well I hope you clear things with you mom and tell her what happened. Good luck!!

*MS.G*

Answer 6

It's going to be very, very hard for a mother to accept her daughter having any intimacy at all. If she is a devoted mother, it is most likely that she has cared for you and put you above everything else in her life (including herself) since the day you were born. She has held you when you were at your most vulnerable, changed your diapers, fed you, taught you everything you needed to know to survive and watched you grow up far too quickly. And as an adult, she knows how vulnerable you still are. She knows how much you have left to learn. She's been there. There really isn't a way for you to truly understand how she feels until you grow up and become a mother yourself. Just try to understand and know that she needs your love as much as you've needed hers. If she's taken care of you and has been a good mother, respect her for it, because it isn't easy.
Depending on the rules in your household, she may have overreacted or you may have inadvertently betrayed her trust. Wait until she isn't busy and has time to talk and approach her. Don't tell her that she was wrong. Tell her that you don't understand what you did wrong and ask her if kissing was not allowed. If she says that it is inappropriate, respect her wishes. There will be many rules in life that you won't agree with, and possibly just as many that you won't understand, but you are not the boss while still living under your parents' roof.
As you start acting more mature, she will eventually notice and probably start treating you more maturely. Try to keep your emotions under control, put serious thought into your feelings before you express them, and be honest with your parents. Lashing out and arguing is immature behavior and only causes more fighting, so avoid it. When you can express yourself and give clear reasoning behind your opinions, they will be more likely to listen to you.

Answer 7

she is just worried its gonna turn into mom...i would have freaked if i found my 15 year old doing that too..and my parents would have too! and trust me 2 years together when you started dating at 13 doesn't mean much these days

i would pull your mom a side tell her nothing was going on you want her to repsect you and your bf...you will keep living the door open like she askes and if she can do that you will let her know if and when you feel the relationship is ready for the next step

trust me wait it out..wait til your old enought to support a baby if it comes to that! good luck!

Answer 8

Yes, parents can freak out on that. Simple, they're your parents and wouldn't really like to see that period. Even if you were maybe 20 years old and doing that! Parents just wouldn't want to see it. It's in their nature.

That's good how you two have been dating for a while, but this may rise questions among your mother. You know... that "is my daughter having sex?" question. Even if you're not! It's just questionable. Not just this, but others. This could be another reason why your mom yelled. Take care.

Violet

Answer 9

You may not have done anything wrong,but the intent that was there was wrong....No parent wants to see their kid doing what you two did on a bed,let alone visualize what it could lead to!Imagine it was your Daughter doing it...or better yet,give her credit for caring so much about you!>=)Relax,someday when you're a Mom you will understand it all..

Answer 10

ah brit my freind..that's the way things get started. first it is just kissind on the bed and that will feel so good, and then smething will pop up and need some attention.then it's rubbing and touching and then something slips out of the hanes and into the most natural place for it to be. and before you know it brit, it will be pooty tang time. enjoy every moment of it, you seem so sensible and seem to be mature beyond your years. talk to your parents about what is going on with you. good luck