Taking away Christmas as punishment?

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Please go here and read the comments http://www.mylot.com/nr/newcomment.aspx?aid=7361424&qid=1358392
They will not let me cut and paste so I'm posting it here and would like your comments.
You people are evil! I'm not saying what this dad did was wrong, but some of these other comments really scare me. It makes me wonder what else you have or will do to your children. It's like you would not even look at their over all behavior and like you get some kind of enjoyment watching your kids suffer under your wrath. If they did this in the middle of the year you would have to give them different punishments so why not do the same during the x-mas season? I could understand not letting them enjoy their gifts for a set amount of time, but to just cancel Christmas for them and then make them watch everyone else open their gifts actually is very upsetting to me. And the comments about selling everything in the room on top of it, wow!Again what else would you do leave them out in the cold naked

For me I believe punishments should be put on hold on Christmas. Taking away their Christmas completely could stay with them the rest of their lives. How would you feel knowing that your child 20 years later could not enjoy Christmas to the fullest because the memory of what you did will always be there? Now I can understand taking back the present they really wanted, but to say no Christmas at all is wrong. If I was that child even if I did do something wrong I would never speak to you again and then would refuse any gift you tried to give me later on, maybe even smash it after I opened it. No wonder some kids get on drugs, commit suicide, become delinquents. Worst other end of suffering because of their anger. Believe me I’m all for punishment including spanking, but have found that kids who’s parents were overly harsh ended up getting into more trouble then kids who’s parents were fair and reasonable. How would you feel if your child killed themselves?

I know most of you love your children and are just talking all big and bad. If you were put in spot it would be too hard for you to watch your child in tears on Christmas. Even if you did follow through with it the guilt would catch up with you. I think you would need to look at why your child would be smoking dope and what you have done wrong as a parent for them to hang out with that crowd in the first place or at the least resist the temptation.

Sorry this is the right link.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1358392.aspx?p=1

I see the hard a-s-s parents are here as well. I guess you did not bother to read the link. I'm not talking about what the father did, I'm talking about the comments others have left, please read more carfully and stop making your point that kids are out of control these days.

All that I can say is you are a bunch of vengful people who have control issues.

lovelyinkedlady0613, I can not believe you would let your child have a police record for smoking a joint. I can also see your parents harsh treament has made you bitter and mean.

Answer 1

It seems a bit extreme. I would have not let my child have it on christmas. or I would have told/shown him what it was but said he was grounded from it for a certain amount of time

Answer 2

You kids in the "Y" generation really need to grow up. You think that you should get everything your little heart desires, handed to you on a silver platter, and be able to get away with anything you want to do without having any consequences. One Christmas present being sold is in no way cruel or evil. It was just. That 15 year old knew that he was breaking the family rules, breaking the law, and that there would be a price to pay if he was caught. Now he can get a job or save his allowance and buy that video game himself.

There is nothing in any law book that says the parents must provide their children with $100 tennis shoes, $75 jeans, $50 shirts/sweaters, etc. We parents can go to a local dollar store and pay $10 for a pair of jeans, $15 for tennis shoes (if that much), and $5-15 for shirts and sweaters. Anything above that is considered a luxury, including all video games, IPODS, stereos, computers, internet, and let's not forget the I-can't-live-without-my cellular phone. As long as children have clothes on their backs, food in their stomachs, heat in the extreme cold, electricity, water (yes, air conditioning is also a luxury), and a nurturing environment, then the parents have done their job.

Answer 3

It's just one christmas present. The 15 year old kid did something stupid he got punished for it. End of story. It's not like he's not getting any gifts it's just one gift that his father got and decided he didn't deserve it after catching him smoking pot and skipping school. More power to this father I wish a lot more parents were like him when they find out their child is doing drugs and skipping school. Do you think the 15 year old has learned anything from this? I think so! This person didn't cancel christmas they let one gift be sold on Ebay for 9,000 dollars and he's getting his son a game, but something that he thinks his son will remember that the reason why he has this game is because of what he did and now he has to suffer the consequences by playing that game or not playing it.

Answer 4

Hell i would have done a hell of alot more then that. I would have had my son arrested for drug possesion. And no i'm not talking big and bad. I'm sorry i've seen what drugs do to someone. I've experienced the damage it inflicts on families.

And if that is bad then what i'm doing with my son is worse. I'm taking away any fun stuff for christmas. Children this day in age have intitlement issues. They think they are intitled to everything under the sun and forget that for bad actions there are consequences.

For my son who has this issue he's 13, and told his sister who works, that if she bought him something he needed ie pj's that she better save the receipt because he was going to return them. Said to her sister when i asked her to please pass along a message because it's her computer that would be used and asked her to help him, by sending it to me via email. A short christmas list and let me tell you this was the 3rd time i asked for one, after i had already given a due date and it had long sence passed. And he told her that why should he write on if i'm not gonna get him anything he wants. Knowing we dont have a lot of money, and that what gifts you get are very much done so with love.

so for his actions, he is getting socks, and underware, and elbow pads as tonight he fractured his elbow playing on a pogostick out side.........not that he can use those any time soon.

So if that dad is horrible and wrong then i'm right there with him and support him 100% our kids need to be taught that to each of your actions there is an equal and oppisite reaction good or bad.

do drugs lose your freedom to fun.

Answer 5

Well, smoking pot is a serious offense and I respect that punishment of selling one of his gifts. I'm sure his son learned his lesson too! But the way others responded, like the answer I read in the first link is really disturbing. You don't take away Christmas. It's just mean! My son stole a piece of candy at Walmart, and I told him that was stingy and since he did that he was going to have to learn a lesson. I was going to take the gift back and have him put it in a box for toys to give to needy children. I thought about it because it was harsh, got some advice, and made a deal with him. He apologized to the manager at Walmart, and he got to keep his toy.

Answer 6

That would never happen, because I would never threaten to take Christmas away. There's other ways to deal with bad behavior.

I feel that parents should act on what they say though, so if they say "no christmas presents for awhile" or whatever, then they should do it. Otherwise, the children will never think they are serious. but the best way to deal with it is never threaten them with that to begin with.

It's not abuse though. It should be up to the parents. and christmas isn't about presents anyways. punishments should not be put on hold. you hold one day, they get that in their heads and walk all over you. if they need to be punished on christmas day or their birthday, then so be it.

Answer 7

Um that isn't a thank you to handle a foul grade. Did she even ask her why she have been given the undesirable grade? the situation is, is that it became right into a progression checklist and there continues to be time for her to extend her grade. Her mom would desire to have worked along with her and communicate along with her instructor to work out what she would desire to do to convey it up. have been any of her different grades undesirable? the element is isn't any i does no longer eliminate christmas provides away I supply those to my little ones through fact i admire them no longer through fact they did something to get them. i'd whether have appeared on the placement and introduced away television the cellular telephone and or going out reckoning on the circumstances till her grade got here decrease back up. yet christmas come on thats merely hassle-free advise how she did it.

Answer 8

personally i agree with most of the comments. no i wouldn't leave my kid out in the cold naked, but i'd come darn close. the kid needs to learn that smoking pot is NOT ok. and strick discipline is the only way to teach them. my child would have NOTHING left that could be considered a privilege. and it doesn't matter what time of year it is....that punishment would be enforced on birthdays, christmas, or july 15th. the date doesn't matter, the lesson needs to be taught and learned.

Answer 9

I don't believe taking away Christmas for a punishment is right at all...Are you a Parent?Just curious....Everyone has a right to parent their children as they see fit,despite others opinions...and this is an opinion forum here so you can expect some disgruntled comments on everything!

Answer 10

Honestly, I think that the Dad over-reacted and was being an asshole/control freak. I'm 18 years old and I know it's immature but my mom trying to force me into doing anything only pisses me off and I do the opposite no matter what it is. She gets a lot more respect from me if she sits down and tries to talk to me like a person, not treating me like a 5 year old that she likes to boss around.