I’m 19, 20 in Dec and I’ve been with my fiancé now for about 4 years. We lived with his mom briefly to save money for our place. Unfortunately- we needed some space to see where our lives were going and if it was what we really wanted or not. It was. So I moved out of that house. Now I live with my mother in a 1 bdr apartment- not by choice- she can’t afford anything more. She’s a single mom that does the best she can. I’m supposed to be getting my own apartment soon- however my credit score isn’t high enough because I’m so young. So in the meantime- my fiancé and I spend time at his place. Away from my mom- we don’t get along. Anywho- I get a phone call from his mother today who’s known me since I was 14 years old. She says: I don’t want you to take this the wrong way but things have been better since you left. There’s not as much “friction” in the house, and Mike spends more time with his brother now. Ugh. Ok? So what does that have to do with me? I always helped out, paid her rent, and watched her kid. She doesn’t want to wake up and see my car in the drive way anymore- and if he and I don’t “follow” the rules, I’m not allowed over period? Huh? Did she just automatically get controlling or what? She basically said she doesn’t want me to move in like before- I have way to much pride to do that. It hurts that the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, his mother, dislikes me for some reason out of the blue. She says everyone’s made comments about how “calm” the house has been. She keeps saying that there was tension when I was around we argued and what not. Ugh. I always felt like it was competition between me and her with her son/my fiancé. I just want things to go back to the way they were- it’s like she doesn’t want us to be together and I’m getting frustrated. What do I do?
2006-07-20
06:31:46
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Jessica S
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