close friend is getting married and is having bridesmaids, groomsmen, their spouses, parents of the bride, parents of the groom, brothers and sisters and a couple of uncles. they're already complaining about costs. she asked my opinion so told her it should only be the people directly involved in the wedding, otherwise they call it a reception. am i wrong?
2006-07-20 05:30:07 · 11 answers · asked by kim b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My experience is that traditionally, the bride, groom, their parents, anyone who is part of the wedding (bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearer, family doing the readings) are the only people who attend the rehearsal dinner. The reality is that this will often include spouses or the parents of the kids involved.
Also traditionally, the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner. I went to one rehearsal dinner where the groom's family had enough money that they turned it into a family reunion of sorts. *rolling eyes* That wasn't much fun for those of us on the bride's side, but hey, it is their money.
Ultimately, the people paying for the dinner have the final say, but no one who is participating in the wedding should be excluded. Everyone else (other siblings, extended family, etc.) needs to grow up and get over it - they can all party together at the wedding reception.
2006-07-20 05:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say those invited to the rehearsal dinner should absolutely include those directly involved in the wedding, siblings of the bride and groom may or may not be included, but....if you're including even 1 sibling (on either side), you best include them all, or you'll have ruffled feathers on your hands. Especially if siblings are having to travel to get to the wedding, the bride and groom need to realize that these people are making a sacrifice to attend, missing work/school/etc, and should make sure they're included as much as possible.
2006-07-20 06:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally invited are the members of the wedding party and any direct family (brothers, sisters, parents, grandparents - not uncles, aunts, cousins), and all their sig others. The Children of the wedding do not have to be invited - including ring bearers, flower girls, etc. But if they are, then their parents must be invited as well. The officiant is also typically invited, and his/her sig. other.
If you have the space, guests travelling from out of town are also traditionally invited to the rehearsal. Especially those who are close to the B&G. If they are not invited, then there should be some sort of a function for them to join so that they aren't left out.
2006-07-20 07:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do typically invite family members, too. Especially ones that have to travel to be at the wedding. They would be at the dinner but not the actual rehearsal unless they are involved with the process. And then you have the bridal party and their dates and the bride and groom's parents. We just did ours in the backyard of my in-law's house. It was relaxed and a lot of fun. And they invited 40 people....lol.
2006-07-20 05:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the grooms parents/family pays for the rehearsal dinner. For the rehearsal dinner any one who is in the wedding is at the dinner. And their significant other as well. AND any out of town family that has traveled in for the wedding. But as mentioned earlier, they only attend the dinner. have fun!
2006-07-20 12:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for someone with such a big mouth... u have no way to be contacted... its not that i want anyone to take care of me. i have been in relationships where i supported the guy (2 relationships) but now i have kids and i get jealous when every female i know, stays home with theirs, and i dont know anyone who can afford it. they just seem to know so much about them and i have to ask others what new stuff they are doing. and i am responsible for my past, but when u find out someone is a drug addict and u didnt know. its best to leave than have kids around it. u just sound like a wench...
2006-07-20 08:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by chickie27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wedding party & thier dates, parents, and out of town guests that may be staying with the parents. Dont go overboard.
2006-07-20 07:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the following:
The whole bridal Party
Their families
Parents of both bride and groom
Grandparents
and out of town guests.
2006-07-20 06:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what i understand, you are right, but i would invite my brothers and sisters and his as well. Weddings are exspensive. Even the cheap ones. Tell her to have a BBQ
2006-07-20 05:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by nuschka16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right only bride maid,groomsmen,flower girl and her parents and ring bear and parents and the bride and grooms parents
2006-07-20 05:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by beerfootballgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋