I want to have 2 maids of Honor, the two girls that i am closest too, however My fiance is only having one Best Man and i feel like i should have my very good friend, but we live farther apart and in the last 2 years have not been as close as we were. Do you think it will hurt her feelings if there are two and she still isn't one of them? And do you think the other 2 Maids of Honor and only one Groomsman will be ok. How should i go about things, or should i just ask them and let it go from there?
2006-07-20 06:04:11 · 7 answers · asked by nuschka16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have 7 people standing up, it will be a larger wedding, 300 - 350 people, mostly just family and friends. The bridesmaids are my 2 sisters, old best friend, college roommate, his sisters and my new best friend. His sister and my new best friend and i are all VERY close. I want to ask them to both be my maid of honor. My old best friend moved far away and so we still talk and get together but in the last two years are not nearly as close as we were. I don't want to hurt her feelings and she is still in the wedding party, but i am not sure if i should go ahead and have the two MOH. Although i don't see how i can ask one girl and not the other. Also my fiance is only having one best man. Can anyone help me out? (amended version, hopefully this is less confusing! :))
2006-07-20 08:02:51 · update #1
I think honoring your friends as part of this wedding, and the celebration of your marriage, is more important than matching numbers. If your husband doesn't want a second best man, the best man can escort a maid of honor on each arm!
Also, if you have one less bridesmaid than he has groomsmen, the numbers will match up anyway. But don't cut out a bridesmaid just for the sake of numbers! (Remember the 13th fairy in Sleeping Beauty?)
If the friend who lives far away really wants to be your second maid of honor, include her. If she would rather not, have her as an ordinary bridesmaid, or just invite her to the wedding.
Enjoy!
2006-07-20 06:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Have as many of whoever as you want - I don't think your far-away friend would mind as long as the two MOH's are your sisters - I had a couple girls I would have loved to make my MOH, but instead I just made my sister the MOH because (a) it is a wedding, after all, family first! and (b) it's easier to explain that you wanted your flesh-and-blood to have the honor. As long as your far-away friend is still a bridesmaid and it's clear that the MOH positions only went to sisters, I think everyone will be happy. In fact I think it's a pretty cool idea to have more than one MOH! If there aren't as many groomsmen as bridesmaids, just put one MOH on each arm of the best man. Good luck!
2006-07-20 12:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by SecondStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not 100% sure I understand this question, but I'm giving it a shot...
Personally, you should have as many or as few bridal attendants as you want, and not worry if there's 1 more than the groom is having. I wouldn't think you should have to apologize to anyone for not asking them to be in your wedding party, it's your wedding. If you're debating about asking someone who lives further away, realize she may not be that much help to you in wedding planning, etc., and that's generally the purpose of bridesmaids.
As far as designating 2 maids of honor, I've only seen that done in HUGE (and I'm talking Princess Diana/Price Charles size) weddings, where it necessitates having a large bridal party, but again, do what you're comfortable with.
Check out www.theknot.com, they have a Q&A section, someone's probably asked this type of question already, and it's been answered by a wedding etiquette specialist.
Congrats and good luck!
2006-07-20 06:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since there is only one best man i would pick the girl you are closest to as your maid of honor and then ask the second girl you are close to to do a speech. Or ask them both to be your maid of honors and then let them decide who is more comfortable doing a speech and the other can stand next to you. If you don't feel you are as close as you used to be then don't ask the third. A bit of advice, it is hard on the bride to have a maid of honor who lives far way, especially if you will be counting on them for a lot of help. Good luck.
2006-07-20 06:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by rose t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about Bridesmaids or maids of honor? This is reall confusing.
If you are talking about MOH, then you usually only have one.
If you are talking about BM, then have as many as you want. Nothing says it has to be even. One of my BM flaked out 6 weeks before the wedding (the dresses took 8 weeks to order), so I was down a person. It was no big deal.
2006-07-20 06:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that making them part of your big day is just a special. It shouldn't matter what they have to do in the wedding. As for numbers, it doesn't matter how many you have, you can make it look really good with different numbers.
Good luck!
2006-07-20 06:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. You can have the one best man walk both MOH's down the aisle, one on each arm. I've seen it done before.
2006-07-20 06:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋