2006-07-20 08:53:00 · 15 answers · asked by hchin412 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, unless you have a emergency or valid reason. "I have to get my haircut" isn't valid, nor is "My son has a soccer match". "My mother in Duluth is in the hospital and I have to fly home to see her" would be. As would "I'm nine and a half months pregnant and on bed rest"
If the wedding is still a month away, then call them and say that something has come up, that you are very sorry, but that you won't be able to attend. And send a large gift.
If the wedding is in the next few weeks, then you have to try your best to attend. If you know that you can't, call them and do as above. And send them an even larger gift.
Despite some of the horrid advice from forever singles on here, DO NOT "no-show". That's just about the rudest and tackiest thing you can do. Give them notice so that they can try to contact the caterers and get their money back.
2006-07-20 12:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all know things come up, Somethings we can not HELP so no it is not proper, But If you can not be there then any mature person would UNDERSTAND. Now If you are not in the wedding then just mention that you had something come up that is why you could not attend. On the other hand if you are needed in the wedding LET THEM KNOW NOW NOT THE DAY OF THE WEDDING That you can not attend, AND LEAVE IT AT THAT.
2006-07-20 15:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not neccessarily proper, but it happens all the time. I just got married on June 10th and a lot of people that said they were coming ended up not showing up, then again some people that never responded did show up. It all balances out. If you know that you will not be attending it may be helpful to the bride and groom if you politley let them know that something has come up and you will not be attending. They will understand that life happens and people have things going on, by telling them they can then adjust the catering numbers by that much! It doesn't sound like a lot but I'm sure they would appreciate the information!
2006-07-20 15:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by jessicamarie0572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phone who ever it that is accepting the RSVPs and tell them that you regret that you will not be able to attend as originally planned. Most caterers need an approximate head count two weeks before so they can order food, and an ACCURATE head count 48 hours before for charges. Just call in enough time to let them know. Regardless of the reason they will think of it as thoughtful. Some people wouldnt even care. Its very considerate of you to inform them. Send the couple a simple wedding gift in the mail from their registry and a card wishing them the best that says you wish you had been able to attend.
Its ALWAYS proper to be polite.
2006-07-20 16:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, it happens. Just let the bride and groom know ASAP and tell them why. If you don't have a good reason, then make one up. I had one person tell me a couple of weeks before my wedding that they couldn't make it. And I had one person not show up at all, but her mother-in-law was on her death bed and she did pass the message along to a friend so I would know why. Just send them a nice gift and apologize. Don't listen to the person that said you have to send them money for your food. You usually don't give the caterer a final headcount until 2 weeks before the wedding and one or two people isn't going to effect the price that much.
2006-07-20 16:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have a legitimate reason such as an emergency, illness, or death. The head count is based upon the rsvp's and food and reception arrangements are based on the number of yes replies.If a caterer charges $40 per person and 10 people did not show it would cost the couple $400. If it is absolutely necessary that you can not attend, please call and let them know. Common courtesy applies.
2006-07-20 15:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good reason, yes.
Simply say, "I'm sorry, but something has happened and therefore I can't come to your wedding." You may give a reason if you want to. Be sure to send the couple a nice card, and a gift if you want to.
2006-07-20 17:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an important reason, yes. However, let the bride & groom know why you can not make it, and apologize. One reason for RSVPing is that caterers need to know how much to charge. They charge per plate/person.
2006-07-20 15:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's rude, especially if it's very close to the date of the wedding. They paid for your dinner already.
2006-07-20 18:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but if you must then make sure to send a card with enough $$ to cover your plates that they will still need to pay for.
2006-07-20 15:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋