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I would like to know if you released butterflies at your wedding or went to a wedding where they were released. Did the majority of them live? Was the effect awesome? Was it worth the money? Did everything go fine?

My fiance and I are looking into it to do at our wedding. We are getting married in a garden, so the butterflies would be perfect and they would have plenty of wonderful flowers to eat from once released. We just want to make sure that it will be worth the money and any input from experience would be very helpful!

2006-07-20 05:38:17 · 9 answers · asked by denise2orderavon 3 in Family & Relationships Weddings

9 answers

First of all, to address some of the other answerers, there's nothing inhumane about raising and releasing butterflies - shame on you! But, moving on to my real point:

Yes, I had live butterflies released at my wedding. This is just my experience, I'm sure it varies!

I had a couple friends pick up the butterflies the day of the wedding (they were at a "butterfly farm" an hour away). They arrived in decorated shoe-box sized boxes, and we put them in the fridge as we were told. As per instructions, we set them outside in the warm sunshine about half an hour before the ceremony so they could begin to wake up and be ready to fly. I had my flower girls release them as my husband and I walked back down the aisle at the end of the ceremony (this was outdoors, in a Botanical Garden).

As for the success: despite the fact that I had told my flower girls not to shake the boxes if the butterflies didn't immediately fly...little girls will be little girls. Only about half the butterflies immediately flew, so it wasn't a really large effect, but my guests did get the *idea* of our intentions and thought it was sweet. In fact one butterfly flew up and alighted on my cleavage, and another on the back of my dress, to the delight of *some* of the guests...

My girls (I had four flower girls) resorted to trying to pick the butterflies up out of the box and *throw* the ones that didn't immediately fly...*sigh*. So I would not so much recommend having children do the releasing.

And while it was *kinda* cool, don't expect a beautiful perfectly-coordinated mass take-off of butterflies rising up through the air. It just doesn't work out how you picture it. Not that it isn't cool, but like most things at weddings, it's not perfect! I didn't mind at all, but I'm not sure it was worth the money we dished out for 3 or 4 dozen critters.

Now it's possible that we didn't let the butterflies warm up for long enough or whatnot - but as most brides-to-be aren't butterfly experts, I don't know how you would be able to ever plan it perfectly. Still, my guests got the general gist, and in fact I used butterfly imagery as one of my wedding themes (invitations, etc.)

I know this isn't a very definitive account but hopefully it gives you a better idea of what to expect. I really don't know whether I would recommend them or not - certainly not if you're a perfectionist! Whatever you decide, I hope you have a wonderful wedding, and don't fret the small things! =)

2006-07-20 13:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

I'm not married lol and i have never been to a wedding that did that but i have heard of it!

i think that was look to Amazing and Beautiful since its a garden wedding in the summer! So I would have to say YES on the butterflies I think you should release them behind you guys when:
1. when you guys have your frist kiss as husband and wife or
2. when you are pronounced husband and wife or
3. when you start walking down the ails as husband and wife

that would look wonderful!

(make sure that the butterflies are in a box or something that has tiny holes so they can breath and wont all die)

Good Luck
Congrats... have a GREAT wedding!

Also Thanks for answering my Chocolate question for the reception!

2006-07-20 12:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by BL 2 · 0 0

I went to a wedding (outdoors) where the bride and groom did this. The guests were each given a smallish "envelope" which obviously wasn't sealed with the butterfly in it. I believe some did die, but most didn't. It was pretty cool, different. I personally enjoyed it.

BTW, time of year makes a difference in this, this wedding was held in KS in October. I think it wouldn't have worked in the super hot summer, or dead of winter.

Also, the butterflies were not a rare variety, they were your garden variety monarchs...

2006-07-20 13:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0 0

I was recently at a wedding and they did that. Let me tell you... I don't think they should have paid for that. The Butterflies (those that lived) had to be flicked out of the casing to get them to fly. Those that did fly were too few and far between, We guests expected a big production but only got a little show

2006-07-20 21:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes and it was beautiful!! I loved it. They mostly all live. only 1 died. You just order them and a day before you release them you put them in the refridgerator to stunn them so they dont try to open there little paper thingy in the box and escape. Then you just hand them out and the ppl open them and wait for there wings to warm up. Then the butterflys fly away when they want to. It is really very amazing. And it is also humane so dont worry. Most of them live.


Also Sparklythings_4u I dont think that they put them in a refridgerator. They need to keep cool you know. And it is also to keep them safe. If they try to fly while in the "envelope" then they will get hurt. But if you put them in a refridgerator they will not try to fly. They will be stunned. No it does not hurt them.

2006-07-20 14:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kayleigh M 1 · 0 0

I would leave if I were handed an envelope with a butterfly in it. And, I would take my gift with me.

Personally, I wouldn't want dead butterflies associated with my wedding. To me, that's bad karma.

Go with something more traditional and less cruel - rose petals, bird seed, sparklers, bubbles, etc. I just don't think that live animals are meant to be used as decorations.

2006-07-20 13:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i think it is cruel, they are live creatures, not put on this earth to be a wedding accessory. Also have read many stories where they came to open the box and they were all dead. Do you really want to risk killing hundreds of beautiful and rare creatures for your wedding? If so that's an extravagant waste of money and a few hundred butterflies closer to extinction.

2006-07-20 12:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0 1

I think that would be SO romantic, esp outdoors, and it's a beautiful idea and so original.

2006-07-20 13:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 0 0

its a sign of death in my culture

2006-07-20 12:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 0 1

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