Singles & Dating - 18 October 2007

Ok I have liked one of my guy friends (lets call him Ben*) for awhile and I finally told him and he said he only sees me as a friend. I know I should stop liking him because its pointless, since obv. we wont be together. Its hard though, hes this great guy, I mean hes absolutely wonderful, hes everything a girl could want in a guy, so im having trouble getting past my feelings.

Ive recently started seeing his friend (lets call him Matt*), we've been out a few times and im just not sure if going into a relationship with Matt* will help me get over Ben*.

Matt* and I went out last night and saw a movie and we cuddled up the whole time but after the movie we went and hung out with Ben* at his job. It got me thinking that I might not be ready for a realtionship.

I finally told Ben* I liked him Mid-August and well its now Mid-October, should I have gotten over him by now?

One more thing, the reason it is so hard to get over Ben* is like I said before hes the perfect guy, he is still one of my good friends so I see him alot, and my family and friends are convinced that Ben* likes me but is afraid so say so because I am younger than him by 5 years. He may say he sees me as a friend but hes constantly complimenting me, hugging me, and tells me he truly cares about me, frequently.

Basically what I want to know is:

1. Should I be over Ben* by now?
2. Should I try with Matt*?
3. Could my family and friends be on to something with Ben*?

2007-10-18 14:04:30 · 12 answers · asked by RebelPrincess 6

what is the most romantic spot u can think of and give details

2007-10-18 14:03:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not sure where the relationship is going but she really flirts with him bad and i know im only 18 but i've been through some really tough relationships and she's the one to ruin them most of the time i don't know how to make her stop or tell him how I feel and what's happen in the past Plzz help any information would be nice thanks

2007-10-18 13:44:17 · 10 answers · asked by luvbug_letmeluvyou 1

that you have never even seen, let alone met?

2007-10-18 13:41:37 · 11 answers · asked by BOX 4

let me start by telling you a little about me, because it might help to solve my problem. I'm a very happy person who loves to talk! Whenever I get into a fight with my bf I have to tell my three bestfriends, more for advice purposes than gossip...or at least that's what I like to tell myself. Anyways he always finds out that I'm discussing what he likes to call our "personal business," and he hates it. Is it bad that I tell them about our fights?

Also when I'm with him I know I talk his ear off, even if it's just pointless silly talk, and sometimes he'll tell me to shut up, nicely I suppose, but he still wants me to shut up. Normally I don't take him seriously and I continue being silly, but today he got upset, reminding me that he told me to be quiet 3 times and I that I never listen. Everyone says he's totally in love with me, but I wonder if he's actually inlove with my face, thinking I'm better seen and not heard.

2007-10-18 13:26:51 · 15 answers · asked by Optimism 2

was it hard to find a man who loved your child like if he was the real dad. im going through problems with my husband n seriously thinking of divorce but im scare of the fact that in the future if i do move on my son will not feel loved. i rather b alone than have sum guy mistreat my son. also i dont want no babydaddy drama if i do find a guy that will love me n my son. my husband cheated n im only thinking of forgiving him so my son will be raised with a father, and ofcourse i do love the father but my main concern is my kid and his happiness. i would sacrifice in every way for my son to be happy. i was raised by both my mom n my dad i have no clue how is it to grow up with a single parent, or a step parent

2007-10-18 13:21:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

The first date was more her Idea. She basically said we should go have dinner sometime. I took her number called and set a date. I felt that the first dinner date went smooth. Before the evening was over I ask to take her out again. She agreed. We set the date for the following weekend. We stayed in contact thru the week by phone.(no conversation problem) We went again to eat at a family/fun type resturant.
So, (as it happens to most of us ) I found that I was unable to be my true self because of my attraction toward her. Even if she did not have as good as time as I did, I don't feel she would have told me. Since then the phone conversations have died off, and I now only leave messages with no return calls. I realize that she has lost interest, I'm just curious as to why.

2007-10-18 13:21:21 · 5 answers · asked by david 4

I love my boyfriend , but he always puts me last, and this guy that I have feelings for, is total opposite from my man. What do I do?

2007-10-18 13:17:46 · 37 answers · asked by miran 1

This boy I knew, but didn't like has pinned me to a wall and kissed me, wat do i do if he does again? He doesnt seem to care if I call for help, and he just wants to MAKE OUT with me!!! Im thinking im starting to like him and want to kiss him back, but the whole PINNING thing...

2007-10-18 13:17:38 · 25 answers · asked by sexy baby555 1

Many times we've gone to visit a couple in our neighborhood, my wife sits on the porch, and my neighbor sits in a lawn chair - so he's pretty much at eye level with my wife's crotch.

I noticed that her shorts are so short that the way she sits provides some nice glimpses of her panties and the contoured parts of her crotch (very sexy to me).

Anyways I told her that's why he sits there, cuz he is getting a nice view. And I really don't like her teasing him like that. He always wears sunglasses to hide the fact that he stares. She said I'm crazy - 1) you can't see anything and 2) he's not interested.

Well, I guarantee 1) he can see it and 2) every man in that situation would look.

Why would she do this knowing that it bothers me?

2007-10-18 13:15:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-18 13:09:05 · 1 answers · asked by i'm a girl not a boy... 1

it is hard for me because i am afraid and even afraid to workout in a health club

2007-10-18 13:08:06 · 3 answers · asked by Madmen22 1

Would you date a girl who is pretty, healthily skinny, but a very small chest? I have never had a boyfriend and i am 16, im not being conceited but i think i am pretty and people (even guys) tell me I am, but ive never had a boyfriend and im just wondering if its because i have really small boobs? since that seems to be a guy's center of interest...but whyyyy?

2007-10-18 13:06:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am dating this guy and we have been on and off for about 5 years. We keep coming back to each other and I love him and I know he loves me. I just want to know how do you know if it is the right love for you. I think he is but want that big sign to let me know that he is the ONE!!!

2007-10-18 13:02:55 · 1 answers · asked by Samanth33 1

Well, technically, I'm 17. But I will be 18 in a week. My parents said I'm not allowed to date until I'm 18. But, what am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to ask a guy out the day I turn 18? Not like any guy would ever ask me...

2007-10-18 12:59:44 · 9 answers · asked by Sergeant Lauren 5

what you you think about 6th graders dating? my little sister has a boyfriend and she wont tell me so i made this excuse and said that she was too young. what do you think

2007-10-18 12:59:19 · 14 answers · asked by Black Leopard 2

2007-10-18 12:59:03 · 4 answers · asked by cassell126 1

About a month or so ago I met someone on here. We began talking on MSN and got on amazingly well. Now we've started talking on the phone, and I love him very much.

He is one of very few people I can talk with for hours about random things and not get bored, the silences aren't awkward and when we hang up, I miss his voice and immediately want to talk to him again.

I know one day we will meet, but I seem to just be terrified of the idea. It's not because I fear he could be a murderer or anything, I know for a fact that he is who he says he is.

I just have this fear that if I meet him, things won't be the same. I have an insane fear of people looking at me while they talk to me, so I tend not to talk very much face to face.

Do you think I am stupid to think these things?

Have you ever met someone off the internet who you really loved, and then found it to be totally different face to face?

Please share your stories with me, good and bad. Thankyou.

2007-10-18 12:58:09 · 12 answers · asked by cosmicmoon 5

people keep saying that i lost my virginity to my hand and that pisses me off im not into that stuff i dont whackoff

2007-10-18 12:57:34 · 11 answers · asked by John 1

We both love each other more than life itself. but i did something wrong, and as he puts it " it is unforgivable" and now he doubts and questions our love and if we will ever be able to be together again.We used to tell each other that we'd love each other until eternity ends, and he is really amazing, and i really love him. I dont know what to do, he is so mad at me, he has a new gf and is avoiding me,but he still says that he loves me,but hes really pissed. we have both cryed and cryed. there are many tears and alot of pain in our relationshiip, and all i want is one more chance, i understand that it will take time for him to get over it and i will wait for him. but im scared, about whats gonna happen,what hes thinking,about geting my heart broken ,etc.And idk, im really confused b/c this is my first love,and im not exactly an expert at it. help please? i think he should give me one last chance, regarding our pain. Am I right? Or should he just give up on us and move on?should i wait

2007-10-18 12:56:23 · 18 answers · asked by Longhorn 2

i'm new to this kinda thing haha. so yeah, to avoid embarrassing myself I'd just wanna know. where can a condom be found at walmart? would it be in pharmacy? or somewhere else? like what kinda product would the isle sign say that it would be under?

2007-10-18 12:55:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 24 years old Me and my Bf have been together for about 3 years. Im always in the mood and he is never in the mood. Lately ive been feeling really pushed away and rejected and it hurts... He goes out everyweekend He lies to me I have caught him in so many lies its unbelievable. Im starting to think that he may be cheating on me maybe all the trip to the gym before and after work means something else i dont know. I feel hurt and sad and Im about 2 seconds away from having an affair myself because quite frankly im just tired of feeling hurt i know i should leave but i really do love him and to top it of im not working right now im looking for a job so i feel like i have to keep swallowing all this crap until i get on my 2 feet and can b able to support myself what do i do? Please and be sincere and nice no one with smart *** answers please

2007-10-18 12:49:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

see this boy i have a crush on has a girlfriend,and my friend lisa and her nefu willy i walk with them after school and i told wil not to say anything and ussuly he listens to what you tell him but today he didnt he told my crush i liked him! and my crush was like her!?!!?!?!? and then i ran after and i dont know what to do becase i have to go back to school tommrow im glkad he isnt in my class and his scedual is a lil bit differnt then mine so if i whant i could probely avoid seeing him but what do i dod if i happen to see him!!!, idk what to do someone please help!

2007-10-18 12:43:28 · 4 answers · asked by jennifer d 1

I dated a girl for 10 months at my school and it was great. However, 3 days into the new school year she broke up with me for no particular reason. She tried to make it seem like my fault but i was always so good to her. She has serious lying problems and also cheated with her ex a few days after we started going out. 2 weeks after we broke up she started going out with a guy who she hadn't seen in a year and barely knows. She tells him that she loves him which is of course ridiculous because they have been together for 3 weeks. Even though she left me she is still very protective of me and tells me shes not over me etc. She has even taken to telling any girl she doesn't want me talking to that i talk bad about them which isn't true. She wont let me move on. She texts me non-stop and calls me. I go to a small private school (about 200 people) and shes in my first 2 classes of the day which is terrible cause i have to start my day looking at her. how can i get over her? I'm so attached.

2007-10-18 12:41:45 · 1 answers · asked by nknk 1

I get street attention & on Yahoo i have had 35 emails in 3 days?

I dont get it?

2007-10-18 12:38:54 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 21, and I've only had sex with one guy so far. When we do it, it usually lasts 5 -10 minutes (after a bit of foreplay). Yet, I've overheard some of my girlfriends talk about some of there experiences in bed, and it seems like most of them enjoy longer sex then I do (like 20 minutes or more).

I'm not that experienced, and I'm just wondering if there is an average amount of time that intercourse typically lasts for most couples. I know that you can do things to prolong sex, to make the guy last longer, but I'm talking about the kind of sex that's constant (where the guy keeps thrusting continuously without starting and stopping - not really fast or slow, but just steady, and constant). I think I read somewhere once that studies said 10-15 minutes was average, but I have no idea if that's accurate or not.

I think some guys tend to exaggerate about how long they can last inside a woman.

Looking for responses from people with more experience then me. LOL!!

2007-10-18 12:32:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just take a look at my avatar picture. I have given it a thought to go on with online dating (which I'm doing for a year by now without success) or even ever asking a nice girl out for a date, but just thinking of my face...maybe I shouldn't. I'm too ugly and girls deserve a better person than me. What do you think of it? NO INTELLIGENT answers please, JUST right WHAT YOU THINK. You can't hurt my feelings anyway...after all the thoughs I have had about myself. Please be honest. Thanks in advance.

2007-10-18 12:27:47 · 6 answers · asked by seafish 1

me and this guy have been talking for a while now..we spent some time together and he told me he really likes me and I really like him..so i was then wondering why he wasnt asking me out..so at first I thought it was because he knew it was going to be hard to see each other since hes always busy and...we dont exactly live close to each other..But then recently i found out he has a girlfriend!!..which he never even mentioned before!!..so i was kind of upset because he didnt tell me the truth..so I basically thought that he has been lieing to me all this time!!..and just playing around with my head!!..but when I confronted him about this he said "he really meant everything he said to me" and that he never lied to me about his feelings..I really dont understand!!HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!Why was he still talking to me(i really dont think his intentions were bad).why didnt he tell me the truth?Does he like me more then her and maybe the reason he hasnt made a move is because of distance??

2007-10-18 12:22:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, so there is this guy that i met at school last February and he asked me out in May (I said no cuz i didn't like him) and since school started, he has been following me and touching me. I've asked him to leave me alone and I've asked him not to touch me and I've even told him to go away (my friends even heard me say this to the guy!) but nothing seems to work. Recently, I've been down to my counselor at school and he told me that they would handle it (nothing has gotten better yet) then, i went down to the counselor again to fill out an incident report to get it taken care of (still nothing has happened) and I've gotten to the point where I just ignore him and he still doesn't go away. Any advice?

2007-10-18 12:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by McFly fanatic 2

tomarrow is a football game and my bf is going to be there. i want to make this extra extra special for him... and us becuase i haven't had a chance to be with him for awhile. any flirting tips.... or kissing tips... or something cute.... or something that would turn him on?? lol.

2007-10-18 12:18:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous