Have you ever met someone off the internet?

Question

About a month or so ago I met someone on here. We began talking on MSN and got on amazingly well. Now we've started talking on the phone, and I love him very much.

He is one of very few people I can talk with for hours about random things and not get bored, the silences aren't awkward and when we hang up, I miss his voice and immediately want to talk to him again.

I know one day we will meet, but I seem to just be terrified of the idea. It's not because I fear he could be a murderer or anything, I know for a fact that he is who he says he is.

I just have this fear that if I meet him, things won't be the same. I have an insane fear of people looking at me while they talk to me, so I tend not to talk very much face to face.

Do you think I am stupid to think these things?

Have you ever met someone off the internet who you really loved, and then found it to be totally different face to face?

Please share your stories with me, good and bad. Thankyou.

Answer 1

This happened to me about 2 years ago...I met a guy on the Internet and we got on really well, I thought I was in love but I told myself I will not love him until I met him and he said he understood and he thought the same and we agreed to meet and I was sooooo nervous I could not sleep the night before because all these negative thought were going through my head what if he is not the person I thought he was!
I told him to come to my house and no one was home, and he was the same person I knew on the Internet and that's when I knew all those feelings were true and i did love him!
and we started dating in real life and we to the movies, went out for dinner and it went on for ages, but he had to move away and we decided it would be best to stop and we a now friends and I still talk to him all the time.

Answer 2

i went to a chat meet, years ago. out of 30 people only people I had time for were 5.. rest of them were trying to live up to the net "ego" version of themselves. so kinda avoid them after that.

I've dated a few women from the net. .again very mixed bag.. one had issues as i found out after seeing her for 2 months.. another was very 2 faced gossip... other 2 were perfectly fine and I saw them for 5+ months and NO thats over a long time, I don't date women just because. I kinda don't want to invest my time/energy/emotions on something short term.

I treat people as individuals.. if they are idiots, they will always be that. I'm good at tripping up ppl who lie though, so thats a benefit. It's normally silly things that trip people up.

but yer there is good people out there, just meet in very public places , if u don't feel fine.. just get a phone call from a friend and leave.

Answer 3

I met my current girlfriend on the internet in a trade chat room. We've been living together for almost 5 years now and the party is still going on. I am going to get her a ring in the next week or so.

Nothing wrong with it just be careful and don't rush. Good luck!!

Answer 4

i'll take it you propose, as in... Did you place up a date. In that appreciate, no. I even have not. yet, till now in previous due 1998, I met a guy online. He lived in Tampa. We get on nicely notably lots. (he's gay.) As we've been given to renowned one yet another we grew to develop into solid acquaintances. In mid 1999, He presented me to his mom, who's 10 years older than me. We met in the three-D on Christmas day 1999. My husband and son and that i drove the hour and a 0.5 to their homestead for a Christmas assembly. 10 years, later, we are extra like relatives than acquaintances. Sarah is my suitable chum and that i nevertheless think of of Patrick as my nephew. Sarah to Alaska 9 years in the past and Patrick has been there for 7 years. We stay in touch online each and every dy! and phone one yet another a minimum of as quickly as a month.

Answer 5

I know people on the internet in real life but always knew them in real life first. In my experience their personalities are rarely the same in real life as they are on-line probably because they're more confident to say what they want since they can't see your reactions or get physically harmed by you.

If you've ever got to know someone on-line and then for the first time see their picture when they send it to you and they look nothing like you imagine then it's something like that. I know one person that's the same in real life as he is on-line and that's only because he's crazy.

If you meet him do it in a public place just to be sure until you get to know him in person....you can never be to careful and he should understand because he's in the same situation meeting you.

Answer 6

no, I met someone off the net, went out with her for about 2 months

thought very muchly of her too

I did go down to her house a few times. But nah, it's good, but it is very awkward and complicated because you baraly see them.. only on webcam or once/twice a month etc =/

Answer 7

Yes I did. The guy didn't talk about his mental problems. People who search online for dating is because they are to shy to go out in the real world or the have low self steem.

Answer 8

Well Stephanie, you know what I think having said it enough times - but I hope this will help to quench your fears. I love you. What you just said is so very sweet.

Answer 9

Well, I have only met one gal on the internet, and met her face to face a long time ago, but we are STILL DATING. I wish you the same luck!

Answer 10

i have met people from the internet face to face and they have been as they portrayed themselves so i would have no hesitation in meeting someone again --- you need to get over this fear of talking face to face --- its going to be a major hinderance in your future --- best wishes