We both love each other more than life itself. but i did something wrong, and as he puts it " it is unforgivable" and now he doubts and questions our love and if we will ever be able to be together again.We used to tell each other that we'd love each other until eternity ends, and he is really amazing, and i really love him. I dont know what to do, he is so mad at me, he has a new gf and is avoiding me,but he still says that he loves me,but hes really pissed. we have both cryed and cryed. there are many tears and alot of pain in our relationshiip, and all i want is one more chance, i understand that it will take time for him to get over it and i will wait for him. but im scared, about whats gonna happen,what hes thinking,about geting my heart broken ,etc.And idk, im really confused b/c this is my first love,and im not exactly an expert at it. help please? i think he should give me one last chance, regarding our pain. Am I right? Or should he just give up on us and move on?should i wait
2007-10-18 12:56:23 · 18 answers · asked by Longhorn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i did something with another guy.
but we wernt together at the moment!
But we were in love..
But i didnt really know what love was.
And i actually dont know if he willl ever forgive me.
He has a good right not to..
but i wish he would. In a year, or two, or less,or more. idkk.
But i DO KNOW that i love him with my whole heart. He has the power to control both our hearts now.
2007-10-20 17:25:00 · update #1
What i did:
There was a boy that i liked at the same time as my love.
My loves name is chace and swain is the other boy.
Chace warned me that swain was a really bad guy and i just didnt see it.
So over the summer i was hanging out with swain at his house.and in a sorta undescribable way he had this "past crush" power over me..i didnt like him and he was nonstop presuring me to do somethings i really didnt want to do.and despite my feelings i gave him a *******. and i wasnt thinking and i felt horrible. and idk how to take it back or fix things. becuase i really love chace. more than life itself and my lesson is learned. but..i want to try again with chace. i DONT WANT to move on..
and chace really hates him before he knew. so now he hates him more and me..hes really pissed at me.
I told chace about a month ago what happened. He got really mad..and thats what i did that is unforgiveable.
2007-10-21 06:30:54 · update #2
i gave him head. oral..sex.
sorry they blocked it out.
2007-10-21 06:31:41 · update #3
Honestly, its up to him. How long have you guys been apart?
That really sucks. I believe that most people deserve a second chance. I recommend giving it time. Try to distract yourself. Wish I had a better answer but I dont think there reallty is one in a situation like this. I can imagine how you feel. If you want to talk about it, feel free to email me. =] Hope it works out for the best!
2007-10-18 13:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by ☼love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if I knew what you did. Some things are unclear in a relationship unless you specify your expectations with each other. You may have thought it was acceptable, and he didn't, even though you didn't mean any harm. Hopefully you can work through it, but if not it will be a good learning experience to make sure everything is laid out so if you make a "mistake" you will have fully known beforehand it was. I could better answer if I knew what it was you did.
2007-10-18 20:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you did that is deemed "unforgivable" and how forviging he truly is. From my point of view, if this "unforgivable" thing was cheating on him then I would give up entirely. Once a person cheats on someone, then I see no reason to trust them ever again, and he will always have that voice in the back of his head wondering when you will do it again. If it is not this though, then I guess it all depends on what you did and what his feelings are dealing with that issue. Just my personal opinion.
2007-10-18 20:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Buckeye Jeff 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I feel like if you truly loved him from the get go, you would've never did whatever you did to him (I'm guessing cheating). I've had strong feelings for guys before and I couldn't imagine hurting them by doing something stupid in the heat of the moment. Maybe this is a wakeup call to you. You may never get him back because of whatever you did. So you know not to do it again. Learn the lesson, grow and move on.
2007-10-18 20:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chantay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't come out and say it, but I assume your unforgiveable transgression was "seeing" someone while you were with your boyfriend. What is it about relationships that make people feel so good that they think they can get away with anything? I'm afraid that is a "no-no" that can not be overlooked. I know I couldn't take you back. Better luck in the future.
2007-10-18 20:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by CBS Network fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think waiting would make any difference. Sounds like he's stringing you along while he has a girlfriend. You made a big mistake, and now it's time to hold your head high and prove that you can be mature and move on. You said that there were many tears and a lot of pain in the relationship, so stop the drama and enjoy your life. It can be done without him.
2007-10-18 20:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he feels it is unforgivable, I think you have to listen. 7 months should have forged your relationship. You do not say what the mistake was, but it almost seems to be infidelity as that is about the biggest cause of losing trust in one you love. If the relationship was solid - and that is what happened...its unforgivable.
Move on and let it go.
2007-10-18 20:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Randy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving each other until eternity ends is very poetic, but not realistic at all...and yes, you should move on. If he chooses to get over what you did someday and try again, that's up to him but I think you're wasting time by waiting for that to happen.
2007-10-18 19:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you did sometimes it is unforgiveable who knows but if he says it is then he is probably right that is why you are supposed to think about what you do before you do it. I am not sure what you did but to see a guy get that mad over it you must have hurt him really badly
2007-10-18 20:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by froggy070386 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want him back because he has a new girlfriend. If you were so in love, you would have thought twice before you did something to jeopardize the relationship.
2007-10-18 20:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋