let me start by telling you a little about me, because it might help to solve my problem. I'm a very happy person who loves to talk! Whenever I get into a fight with my bf I have to tell my three bestfriends, more for advice purposes than gossip...or at least that's what I like to tell myself. Anyways he always finds out that I'm discussing what he likes to call our "personal business," and he hates it. Is it bad that I tell them about our fights?
Also when I'm with him I know I talk his ear off, even if it's just pointless silly talk, and sometimes he'll tell me to shut up, nicely I suppose, but he still wants me to shut up. Normally I don't take him seriously and I continue being silly, but today he got upset, reminding me that he told me to be quiet 3 times and I that I never listen. Everyone says he's totally in love with me, but I wonder if he's actually inlove with my face, thinking I'm better seen and not heard.
2007-10-18 13:26:51 · 15 answers · asked by Optimism 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One I will say it's kinda of wrong telling your friends about things you two disagree on ..But for him telling you to shut up is rude really..My wife loves to talk..I mean she loves to talk about every thing there is. And I listen to her..One because I love her and she is my best freind..Sounds like you need to find a nice guy who loves to talk much as you do...and who treats you with respect...
2007-10-18 13:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you two aren't a great match. Some people are talkers, but others are excessive and chat when they aren't really saying anything as if they have a fear of silence.
Unless you want to continue on with someone who constantly asks you to stop talking (and apparently you don't) and he's willing to keep seeing you in spite of your running mouth, then consider going your separate ways.
Or maybe you should see a therapist and find out why being quiet is so difficult for you.
2007-10-18 13:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you hit it right on the nail. He seems to be in love with what's on the outside, not...well, not YOU. If he really did love you, then he wouldn't have the nerve to talk like that to you! Even the slightest things a guy says to a girl could be offensive. If you don't like him telling you to shut up, then do something about it. Either tell him, or just break up. If the guy can't accept you for who you are, then what good is he?
2007-10-18 13:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by More Dead But More Alive 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're a talker by nature, he knew this from the beginning. Yes, if he's asked you to be a bit quieter from time to time, you should try to respect that - but telling you to Shut Up is not a nice way of putting it. Either he accepts you for who you are or he doesn't. You have to decide if you truly want to be involved with someone who can't.
2007-10-18 13:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kiki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking is not a bad thing, until it becomes pointless silly chatter. it can become really annoying. maybe instead of shutting up you could try to talk to him about whats going on in his life, or something he is interested in. I'm sure he would like the change..you know have his opinion or something.
2007-10-18 13:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ammie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him! There's much nicer guys out there than ppl that try to shut you up. A nice guy would appreciate that that's how it is. and if he doesnt want you to repeat fights, serves him right, he shouldn't be fighting with you in the first place. some guys need 2 learn to treat girls nicely, its a privledge to have a gf
2007-10-18 13:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm agreeing with you on him thinking that you're better seen and not heard. Ask him if he has a problem with you, and say that if he's tired of you talking, maybe he should talk more once in a while.
2007-10-18 13:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is your business...
You shouldnt talk about your stuff with all your three bffs...
That's kind of .. awkward.. Not only for your bf but for your bffs, its ok if you need advice, try to sum it up so you can get some advice, but like don't tell them everything.
Maybe you do talk a lot, try talking less... if not you'll lose him for a .. stupid reason.. Maybe he wants to talk about HIS stuff too.
2007-10-18 13:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and find somebody that loves you the way you are. Telling you to shut up is only going to be the first sign of abuse.
2007-10-18 13:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him that you can talk and that he can NOT treat you that way! Youtell him that he is never going to be a good person if your telling someone to shut up
2007-10-18 13:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by dollkelsey1997 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋