I am 26 years old and been with my boyfriend for 8 years, but I think I may have feelings for someone else.?

Question

I love my boyfriend , but he always puts me last, and this guy that I have feelings for, is total opposite from my man. What do I do?

Answer 1

dump him...let him down gently. but you are young!!!! you deserve someone that will cherish you and want to do anything for you, as well as you for him:)

Answer 2

If you truly love your boyfriend then you would not have put yourself in a situation to where you could have developed feeling for this new person. There is apparently something lacking in your current relationship for you to be attracted to someone else. You really need to ask yourself what it is you want for yourself and how will you get it. Will it be with your boyfriend of the last 8 years or could it be there is something else out there that you may not have found yet? You've been with your boyfriend since you were 18, therefore I'm thinking you may not have a lot of experience with other men and possibly the "grass is looking a little greener on the other side". Or you are growing up and changing what it is you want out of a relationship. These are only questions you can answer for yourself. But maybe it is time to take a break from the boyfriend, see other people and sort out your feelings. Good luck, I hope this helped some. Its a tough spot your in.

Answer 3

While the general opinion might say you need to move on with your life, I think you need to realize one thing. Eventually, everything becomes routine. All relationships, especially relationships of eight years will probably seem a little boring at times. This biggest mistake I think you could make would be to let an instant emotion effect a long-term decision. In the 8 years that you have been with your boyfriend, I am sure that you have made some good memories together. Based on the little that you typed, I would be willing to bet that most of the memories are good. New relationships always have an flare and appeal that makes you second guess the relationship that you are in. Chances are, you will end up just as bored of the new guy. You have to ask yourself this question. If the relationship with the new guy should grow as boring as the relationship I am currently in, then would I look back and wish I hadn't made the decision I had made? Be careful not to make a decision you will regret. I am sure there is a way to rekindle what you once had with your current boyfriend. If nothing works, then you would be justified in pursuing happiness elsewhere.

Answer 4

Ask yourself this question-do you want to live like this for the rest of your life if it goes into your 80's? Then you already know the answer and frankly when the current boyfriend panics and says let's get married remember the duck-walks like a duck, talks like a duck, born a duck? Still a duck. Won't change and you will still be unhappy a year from now. Stop it now. But remember we all seem to like a certain kind of person so the new one might just be the old one in disguise! Careful! Seems like you started with the old one young and probably didn't date too much. Maybe you need a break from having one boyfriend and need to explore several before you choose one next time!? Be cautious and Good luck honey!

Answer 5

If you truely have feelings for this other person, then it is time to move on from your current relationship. Also, if you have been with someone for eight years and there is no engagement or talk of marriage going on here, then def move on. Sounds like the two of you have taken each other for granted snce you have been together too long. Once your together to long without making any steps toward the future, you turn into friends who are to afraid to leave each other because you have been together so long. Before you do anything drastic, take some time to really think whether or not your current relationship is truely fulfilling you. Also remember, that when you date someone and committ yourself to them, you are telling everyone, this is the best I can do. Is this huy your with right now, the best you can do?????

Answer 6

th eonly reason this new guys seems so awsome is because is somethign you havent experience, like a flint nothing else trust me...talk to your BF be straight and tell him whats going on, talk like adults and if may be you guys can work it out try it. If you leave and go with the new guy eventually you will realized that you could of done things better, and if this guys is what is mean to be for you then it will all work...
Talk, explain and express your self, the rest time will take care.....


you and your BF are just bored of each other tired you can say, but some talk and time off and be there for each other might work, but dont run to another mans arms because that will only affect you emotionally and your BF...give your self time

I hope this helps

Answer 7

Ask them if they are into 3 somes... JOKING!

After spending that much time with someone you may start to get bored with them. But hey if this new man takes good care of ya and has some money.. then go 4 it. If guy one really wants you he will wait on ya or make sure that you will never come last in his life again..

Answer 8

Nobody can expect to remain the same person their entire lives, if we did, we would all still be in diapers.

You've grown and you've matured and you now know that you should be valued and appreciated and if this nimrod does not get that then; yes, it might be hard but it's time to move on.

Me, I had a rule if a guy could not remember my birthday (the most important day in my life) then he did not truly care for me. My husband was the only guy I dated that remembered and I only had to tell him when it was once and guess what he is still here and he has never ever forgotten my birthday, anniversary, or other events in our life.

Answer 9

Ultimately it will be YOUR decision, and yours alone.

But be fair and let the boyfriend know whats going on. If you love him then respect him enough to let him know whats going on in your head.

Your not wrong in wanting to be happy, but think about this...your boyfriend may not be happy either. Maybe that's why you feel he's putting you "last".

"If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry."
-Dalai Lama

Answer 10

8 years is a long time. Maybe its time for you to move on. Just because u've been with him for 8 years doesnt mean u have to stay with him forever. I guess you are so used to having him in your life that it seems wrong to let him go but if i was would, i would rethink my relationship with this man before making a move for the new

Answer 11

OK, 2 things.
1) Hello, eight years? Don't you think if this was going somewhere you guys would be married by now? I can see if you were in school still or something, but you're 26.
2) You just told me that he puts you last. That's gonna need to stop.
I'll let you figure it out from there.