Singles & Dating - 21 October 2007

I love my boyfriend very much. Since the start of our relationship, we have read self-help books trying to work out our issues that have developed in the past so we don't bring extra baggage into our new relationship.

We have agreed to talk openly about our emotions so to keep his anxiety at a low. This is where the problem resides.

When I talk about my negative feelings, he takes on my emotions and gets depressed. I feel unsupported and he tells me that he doesn't know what to do. When he talks about his negative feelings, I try to consciously become an objective, active listener (he requested this) but yet, despite my efforts, he complains that I don't listen, even when I offer my suggestions and invite him to open up more. This leads him to become sad and me to feel guilty.

What is going on here?

2007-10-21 23:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by Kyoko 2

LET YOU KNOW I DONT LIKE TO LAUGH ON A DATE AND i dont need to take PROZAC i am not depressed okay i am just numb to laughing and crying and any real feeling the last time i laughed was june 11, 4 years ago thats the night my mom died the last person i laughed with was my mother and thats how its going to stay and this my get me kicked of here but you know i DONT CARE

2007-10-21 23:45:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

like all those empty promises and lies

2007-10-21 23:41:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 23:30:20 · 24 answers · asked by candycane 2

this guy claims he didnt see me because i didnt call, but he never called me. is this a polite excuse to break it off?
he also said that i was not around to make time for him so he left, by getting out of town.

2007-10-21 23:20:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He asked me the other day if he should check me at my house, my response was: What were you planning to do??

He got pissed and said i did not answer him properly, why didnt i just say Yes or No, he has cheated on me before and we worked it out.

Now i'm wondering if he's going back to seeing the woman again cause he called again to say he's not coming anymore because i did not talk or respond to him properly.

My question is Did he really want to see me or he had other plans and was just trying to come up with an excuse of not wanting to see me coz i pissed him off??

We just turned a year together and really he's not improving on some of the things we had talked about.

2007-10-21 23:14:41 · 11 answers · asked by Phenomenal woman 2

So............why the hell, why I know this 'relationship' is not going anywhere, makes me feel unworthy of love, makes my feel unloveable......why can't I tell the guy its over. I know what I am doing (again)....waiting for him to wake up and realise that I AM a good person. He said I am so easy to get on with, feels like he has known me for years, never met anyone he feels so relaxed with.....blah de blah. I am too soft aren't I? Give me a good talking to you guys, if it was MY advice I would say dump him, shame I have feelings involved

2007-10-21 23:07:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I met this girl like 2 months ago and since then we have hung out a lot (we go to different schools and live like an hour away)...I fell for her really fast and it is something that hasn't happened to me before....but like when we were watching a scary movie at the jumpy parts she would sorta burrow into me, and a little bit ago we went to a haunted house and it seemed to go ok but afterwards I was texting her friend about the next night (me and the girl I like were supposed to hang out) and she told me that she really didn't want to go (it was to someones house to watch a movie) and I couldn't contact her to find out, and when I replied with a sad face (lol) she asked if I really liked her...well I told her I do and she replied that she likes this guy from her school and she knows he likes her back and so when I told her, I would wait to see what happens with that, she just kept saying not to wait and its ok if I find someone to go with them....she got me so damn confused and now I

2007-10-21 22:55:53 · 3 answers · asked by Adda Badda Slavia 1

i saw a girl and she also saw me at first sight .my intution said we were in love.But when i proposed her, she said its impossible and now got married to some other person.Its just so confusing .I saw her eyes which was full of love and thats what my intution said to me.But she says no.how can intution be wrong?if she dont love me why she has to give me such kiling looks ?or feel shy when she faced me .after this i admit i have lost to find what is real truth in any matter.Bcz what i saw went false, what i felt also false and what my intution said also turned to be false.I regard intution is a voice from god.why this punishment for me .

2007-10-21 22:50:34 · 4 answers · asked by funny b 1

This guy I met last new years in LA came to my city and planned to see me and his sister. For three days we dated, kissed, held hands and I took him around the sights. He kept asking me "what are you thinking" and i gave no answer. I was scared of being hurt by the distance and left him on the third day with a cold wave at the train station. The next day my understanding was that he needed family time and we would meet again before he left (the 5th day) and i didn't contact him until the following evening when i found out he had changed his flight to leave very early rather than that evening. Never heard back. What did i do wrong?

2007-10-21 22:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met this guy he is a Nigerian footballer name Fly works in Cambodia and we hv bin dating for sometime now. Last nite, I saw a text message on his phone, one of his friends told him that he had hurt a lady feelings, name Lyna. Lyna is asking why does Fly hv to play with her feelings and if Fly love her, y does he hv to leave her and marry someone else. Then I check on his digi cam,I saw a picture of him with one lady in a hotel room in Manila, whereby he is topless, the lady fully dress hug and taking photos.

Now I am wondering if this man that I hv been dating is being sincere to me or is he getting married somewhere else. I spent time with him over the weekend. I asked him....."are you playing with my feelings?".Fly reply "NO" and at the airport, i ask him, are you dating other ladies beside me. Fly reply "WHERE?" I answer "Anywhere". Fly said " No baby I am not. U R D only one and I am not those type of man" . He is gentle and never treat me bad but CAN I TRUST THIS MAN???

2007-10-21 22:33:32 · 12 answers · asked by abonoyah 3

2007-10-21 22:22:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

can girls explain this

2007-10-21 22:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

hey i finally gave into a man last year around june after him chasing me for over a year. i then got pregnant very fast by end of july and he appeared happy and ready for the baby. he then promised me we would live together when baby was almost born but when i was 7 months pregnant he asked me to move out of my mothers hse to my hse and he would help pay rent. when baby was born he used to visit almost every day and even sleep but now baby is 6 months he rarely comes atmost once a wk and is not talking anything about our relationship. i have a feeling he is with someone else and am really stressed coz i would want to be in a marriage and have a happy family. should i move back home with my son and just forget about him and hope to meet someone else or do i perservere with this arrangement though inside am unhappy. he never ever mentions marriage anymore and i read an email of his to a friend saying he has never met a woman he can marry. please advice thanks

2007-10-21 22:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Louisa W 3

Can anyone please tell me why a woman will never chat up a man and its always got to be the male that chases?

I was out with a female uni friend last night and the amount of male attention she got (even when i was with her) guys would look her up and down and wink and chat her up. there was one who touched her waist. why does the female never do that to male.

Thanks
Peter.

2007-10-21 22:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by Peter 1

I find it funny, its a total opposite of their behaviour in public life, i mean, its like they are totally in control but when they get to that part, it seems like they liked to be controlled, is there some physcology thing going on in their heads or something ?

2007-10-21 21:51:19 · 6 answers · asked by Hindu-Atheist-Rebel 1

i am 15 this year and a guy online caught my eye.i do not know the guy and have never speak to him before.But i got to see his picture.He is very handsome and it was like love in the first sight.Do i just admire him or i am really in love with him?i do not know but i need to stare at his photo for 10mins before going to bed because he is so charming..

2007-10-21 21:48:18 · 9 answers · asked by chiobu 1

1) Hard to read, possessive, mature, aloof, caring, responsible, leader-type, does things by himself/herself

OR

2) Easily displays emotions, says whatever's on his/her mind, dependent, gets jealous easily, candid, fun, trusting

You find both types physically attractive & both kinds love you

2007-10-21 21:29:40 · 19 answers · asked by guesswho 2

There is a girl, which is a good friend of mine. I've been in love with this girl for 4 years, I mean truely. Well recently I let her know of it, and I recieved a favorable responce. Another friend of ours that doesn't know that she used to "talk" to was flirting with her again. I mean really like pulling her to him. I was "heated" I mean pissed, and ready to have it out. Of course it took no time for her to find out why I was upset. I remained upset for most of that day and the next despite other efforts.

But the thing is I'm not her boyfriend, which makes me feel silly for being so upset. But I need to find out how and what to say to her. I mean I am sure something will come naturally but, any suggestions might help progress. Feel free to talk about the situation too.

2007-10-21 21:07:38 · 18 answers · asked by Remus L 2

Im blonde and weigh 120? good height or do u prefer taller or shorter?

2007-10-21 20:50:05 · 16 answers · asked by bluestar 3

well we have been going out for a year now but a month back she started talking/hanging out whit her ex again i mean i wouldnt have a problem with it but she has left me for this guy before and came back a month later and i just dont want this to happen again but i dont want to be seem like the bad guy or just a jealous boyfriend what should i do?

2007-10-21 20:28:41 · 34 answers · asked by kelly 1

How can we avoid scorning people.

2007-10-21 20:16:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 20:01:13 · 23 answers · asked by love_hissa 1

2007-10-21 19:02:31 · 23 answers · asked by tony s 5

I am 25 and I never had sex. I just went to a couple of dates when I was younger, but nothing happened.

I am decently looking, with a nice job and education, but I am poor. I cant affort to buy nice clothes or to spend too much time being high manitenece.

I am afraid that I am going to be single forever, or that guys will be freaked when I tell then I have that little experience.

What should I do?

I reposted this question, sorry . Just that I have some friends that have been rejected for not having sex before.

2007-10-21 18:53:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

hey yeah so my counselor said i might be a helpless romantic...soo anyone know like the exact definition of a helpless romantic cuz i cant find it anywhere...

2007-10-21 18:52:03 · 12 answers · asked by johnyboy 2

hi

I am 5"8 and the girl is 4"11 . You think i should marry someone taller ....

2007-10-21 18:49:27 · 21 answers · asked by talk to me 1

we arent dating.. [yet] but what does he mean if he kisses me in front of all his friends? is he showing his friends im his? is he being possesive? or is it just because?

2007-10-21 18:40:26 · 6 answers · asked by cutie 2

My girlfriend didn’t show up to school, so I presumed she was sick because she went to a pool party with her friends on the weekend. So I called her house to see if she was alright and her mum said she hasn’t come out of her room since she got back from the pool party. So I went over, and they told me that she doesn’t want anyone to come in her room. So I went around and climbed up to her window and got inside and she was crying. And I convinced her to tell me what was wrong and she told me that she got raped at the pool party. She doesn’t want me to tell anyone, but it’s eating me up inside. I’ve offered to take her to counseling but she doesn’t want to because she finds it embarrassing to talk about. What do I do? I am the only one she has told. I come to her house every day after school and climb to her window to check on her.

2007-10-21 18:28:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just turned 18 2day, my dad droped my sister at work. I started cryin. Then an hour later he came back and said happy b'day. The only reason why he remembed was cause my mum tried to call me. Does he care bout me?

2007-10-21 18:11:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous