my girlfriend is talking to her ex again what should i do?

Question

well we have been going out for a year now but a month back she started talking/hanging out whit her ex again i mean i wouldnt have a problem with it but she has left me for this guy before and came back a month later and i just dont want this to happen again but i dont want to be seem like the bad guy or just a jealous boyfriend what should i do?

Answer 1

If you can't share, she's out of there.

Personally, I do not support jealousy, but I understand that it's difficult for men, because they have instincts that say they want to know who their children are. So I think you have a legitimate reason to say she must choose, and not keep using the two of you as alternate back-ups so that she can "afford" to leave one because she can go back to the other. Frankly, I think you'd be better off telling her that since she does not seem to be able to make up her mind and be constant, you will choose for her: tell her goodbye.

I've known women who acted like this, and typically they are as nasty as they want to be, because they know they've got a backup. I even remember doing this myself when I was very young. What she may not have considered is that such a style will come back to haunt her as she gets older, and the guys just say, "No more."

Answer 2

**** man!!!!! ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This question has pissed me off. Not at you, but your girlfriend, and because I have been in your situation before. So she left you for this guy, came back a month later, and stopped talking to him, but now shes talking and hanging out with him again? This has disaster written all over it. I'm generally a jealous person, so I'd tell her to stop seeing him and I'd ******* get in this assholes face and tell him to back THE **** UP. But you aren't me, and you don't seem to be the jealous person. So for you, I'd sit down with your girl, and kindly and calmly explain to her how your feeling about the situation, that you're worried that she might leave you and explain to her how much you love and can't be without her. Just let her know how you feel. And ask how she feels, and what they've been doing. I really don't know where to go from there. You'll have to post another question once you talk to her. Or you can email me. Good luck bro! If she tells you that she slept with him or cheated on you in any way you need to dump the ***** and tell her.. "One of these days, I'm going to cut you into little pieces."

Answer 3

make sure you clearly let her know how this makes you feel ask her to step into your shoes and would she like it if it was your ex that you were talking to that you left her for. if she can easily leave you for this other guy then it shows that she is not completely over him and unfortunately your going to be hurt. if she doesn't stop talking to him for you then maybe you could start chatting and hanging out with an ex or show interest in another girl and spend a bit more time with her (being careful that you don't lead the other girl on and send the wrong signals) if she still doesn't change her ways then obviously she is not for you. you do not want to be in a selfish relationship where you are giving 100percent of yourself and shes only give 60.

Answer 4

First off, Id say yeah you are being a jealous boyfriend, but when you add the detail that she left you for him before, then that changes the whole situation around. I think that if you guys are dating you should be able to talk to her and tell her that your not comfortable with your past with both of them, with her hanging out with him. If shes happy with you, I see no reason why she would need to hang out with this guy. Talk every once in a while just to check in on each other maybe, but not talk and hang out with every day. I think if you talk to her about it, and express how you feel, she will understand. A big part in relationships is compromise and thats what she will have to do to keep you around and keep you happy. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You're not a jealous boyfriend, nor are you stupid, but you are worth an honest, mature girlfriend who has sense enough to not keep leaving you for her ex. Give her ultimatum, tell her if she wants him, she can have him. Then you can move on and find someone who will stay with you and is worthwhile.

Answer 6

hey man, if she is going backwards ,forget it, she probley is trash anyway.Go forward . remember that story about the butterfly If you love the butterfly and want to keep it forever let it go if it returns its yours forever if it does not return hunt it down and kill it .Kidding , Hey dude there are alot of fish in the ocean don't look to hard for love ,Love will find you do not stress, why put your self in the pain game. If you really need a girlfriend rent one its cheaper.

IF ALL ELSE FAILS DITCH THE ***** AND MAKE THE SWITCH

Answer 7

She left you for him once before?
And she's hanging out with him again?

Tell her how you feel about it (does it make you uncomfortable that she talks to him, sees him?) if she genuinely cares, she'll stop doing what bothers you. If she gets upset and says you're jealous and awful, maybe you should reevaluate the relationship.

Answer 8

you and your g friend need to sit down en have a serious talk,its either you or her ex and she has to decide ones and for all,coz now she treats you like a subsitute lover, oh Lord no one on earth deserves to be treated like this, besides we dont have a whole lifetime to live on trial and error, let her find her true love, if she chooses her ex over you dont loose hope but stand up strong and start with a high spirit.

Answer 9

There is nothing you really can do. You can make her choose between you or him...and she will probably choose you. But I can ALMOST gaurantee that sooner or later..she'll be back to her old ways... it's probably because she enjoys his company..or advice..and you can't really change that. You will just have to love her more..or wait around until she realizes what she is doing.

From my personal experience..and me being in that same situation... I've been in relationships and went back to talking to ex'es.....and the guy could never do anything to make me change it. He loved me as much as he could..but it's MY choice..and he couldn't change that. We get stronger everyday.....

So what i'm saying is.....if you love her..just wait it out, let her realize that you are the one.

Answer 10

make her stop. she's rekindling a flame. im a woman and i know this. i've done this. she is feeling him. you're not jealous and even if you were, you're entitled to it. talk to her and tell her how you feel about this r just give her azz a taste of her own medicine or make up an ex and just go home and tell her you're out with your ex "Melissa" and you two are hanging out. Teach her a lesson.