Marriage & Divorce - 10 August 2007

My husband I have been together for a long time, but only been married a few years. He has always been the type that needs to be taken care of and I am getting fed up with it. He refuses to help me out with anything. He is a good father and does help me financially, sometimes. Because of this I have fallen completely out of love with him and am ready for a divorce. How should I approach this?

2007-08-10 08:46:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am college educated, but she has a high school education and is beginning college this year. How do I tell her she is not as smart/educated as me and is not allowed to go out with me?

2007-08-10 08:43:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

HISTORY: my STB ex-husband & i have been separated for a few months. he has a pregnant girlfriend whom he lives in another state with. when he comes here to visit our daughter, we have our own little fling going on (you know what i mean). i'm the person he calls when he needs to confide in someone. i'm the person he calls when he's down and depressed. and i'm there for him like a good person should be regardless of the situation. he's human, he makes mistakes.

QUESTION: anytime he gets frustrated with something, he calls me up and vents to me as well (as above). i'm taking about when he totally looses it & yells & screams & cusses. he always acts like it's my fault then later will call me back & act like nothing ever happened. i dont get it. WHY DO I GET THE BRUNT OF HIS FRUSTRATION??? why does he call ME to get angry?!?! & everytime he talks about killing himself. what i want to know is why he chooses me to be the person he takes it all out on? i just dont get it

2007-08-10 08:42:34 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I went out drinking last night and got totally hammered.

I woke up this morning with a painful rectum. And I saw a strap-on on the floor. While we were drinking last night my wife was joking about duking me in the butt. I guess she was serious.

I think it was a trap.

I couldn't control my bowels this morning and my doodoo just slipped out.

I called in sick to work this morning.

I didn't say anything to my wife because she leaves for work before me.

I don't remember anything. But she was really happy this morning.

Did she slip me rufies too?

How can I ask my wife about what happened last night?
Will my corn hole ever be the same?

2007-08-10 08:41:02 · 7 answers · asked by hershey highway road thug 2

A co-worker comes by my office and sees pictures of my kids, wife and me. First she asks if the kids are my nephew/niece...I answer "no, those are my kids". Its clear as day that those are my kids. Then see stares at my wife and says "your wife is pretty". Is there any hidden meanings behind her words. Background information: She came up to me and introduced herself and later I find out that she is married and has a son. Also, this is like the 3rd woman to look at my pictures and say nothing about my kids but seem more interested in how my wife looks. WTF???

Sorry its so long.

2007-08-10 08:40:29 · 24 answers · asked by rob h 1

choose work time over family time.

2007-08-10 08:30:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just because I stole her husband away. They were having problems anyway; and I love living in her house raising her kids. But she stands out there on the street every day with her little bum sign and crying. I don't know why she is so sad? She's a free woman now!!

2007-08-10 08:28:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

At 8mos. pregnant my husband had just started a new job, about a month into it he started acting strange. He was picking fights with me, being distant, and even disappeared a few nights until the next day...eventually I found proof that he was having an affair. We talked it over and decided to try to work things out.The morning after our talk, I found "her" name and # in his wallet. He went hysterical, trying to get it from me. A few weeks later he left me, moved to his mom's, and then in with the other girl. I ended up having our daughter without him, he didn't even see her until she was 6 days old. All the while, I was recovering from a csection and taking care of our 3 other girls.I still loved him though, and continued to beg for him to come back. The day after mother's day, he came to visit and stayed. At first I was happy, now I'm uncertain of his motives.The "affair" called later and told me she was pregnant with twins by him, dates don't add up,but I'm still confused and hurt.

2007-08-10 08:26:47 · 25 answers · asked by rollings83 2

My fiance & I have been getting along well lately after some rough spots. I just text messeged him "You make me happy and I love you". He responded right away with one word. "Ditto"
What the hell? Is he being a smartass or is that an acceptable response from a man? Lol, maybe I'm reading too much into this....

2007-08-10 08:23:21 · 20 answers · asked by SugarFreeRedBull 1

i liked this guy (Daniel) from when i was 4until several months ago, which is bout 10 years.
he always knew i liked him and played hard to get. when i was 11 i found out he'd liked me when we were younger. then it was obvious he still liked me, but he never said it, and i was too dumb to catch on. now, i'm 14, almost 15, and he found out i like this other guy and he likes me back so he (previous crush)goes tellin him i'm easy and i like everyone blah blah blah, a bunch of crap like that.
that was in may.
in april a mutual guy friend (Jerome) of Daniel and myself, he calls me and we talk on the phone alot, well, in april jerometells me that daniel likes beyonce and lyndsay lohan, and when i ask y he told me that, he says "cuz daniel said that and i was like, ooh, i'm gunna tell (me)" and daniel says go ahead i don't care, so then jerome tells me.
and that same day on the phone jerome tells me he was following me around cuz daniel ditched him cuz "i stole his girfriend" by the way i

2007-08-10 08:07:09 · 33 answers · asked by Zoe 1

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8mths. He is the most wonderful man I have ever dated. I have a history with a couple of bad relationships under my belt and he has been so patient with me. He taught me how to love and trust again after so much pain in my past relationships. I found true happiness when I found him. My problem is this.....I used to be intimate with him 5-10 times a week. I couldn't get enough of him. NOW...I just don't want it. I still do usually at least once a week, but I know that he wants it more than that. He never gets upset with me when I don't want to, but I know that it is disappointing to him. He does everything in his power to make me happy and 99% of the time he makes sure that I am satisfied before him. I know how lucky I am to have him in my life, but don't know how to want it more....Please help with any suggestions.

2007-08-10 08:02:36 · 11 answers · asked by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4

Tonight my wife an I have a couple over to dinner. How can I propouse to do something herotic?

2007-08-10 08:00:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-10 07:38:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8mths. He is the most wonderful man I have ever dated. I have a history with a couple of bad relationships under my belt and he has been so patient with me. He taught me how to love and trust again after so much pain in my past relationships. I found true happiness when I found him. My problem is this.....I used to be intimate with him 5-10 times a week. I couldn't get enough of him. NOW...I just don't want it. I still do usually at least once a week, but I know that he wants it more than that. He never gets upset with me when I don't want to, but I know that it is disappointing to him. He does everything in his power to make me happy and 99% of the time he makes sure that I am satisfied before him. I know how lucky I am to have him in my life, but don't know how to want it more....Please help with any suggestions.

2007-08-10 07:35:46 · 2 answers · asked by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4

His wife and him (both around 40 yo) have no sexual relationship at all, no contact for over a year.. he wants it she doesn't, they have been to counselling (3 months).. all talk, no action still... and he's not a jerk, she just has no drive and tells him that all the time. How long should he go without sex before making a choice to go somewhere else for it.

2007-08-10 07:32:07 · 25 answers · asked by n_maritz 3

People vicariously experience life in books and movies by pretending they are the main character what does that say about porn?

Are men watching it to pretend they are the stud?

Are women watching it to pretend they are the vixen?

If this is the case then women should not have anything to fear from the women in the movie, because in all truth men are focusing on the man in the movie. Think about it! Why else would the guy have to be hung like a horse, because their hero can't be less of a man then them.

Can I get any intelligent thoughts on this?
Or
Are you all going to be so caught up penis size to not even understand what I wrote?

2007-08-10 07:19:11 · 3 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

life sucks because:

I work with a cancer causing chemical
i'll probably get cancer
my girlfriend left me for my roomate
i ended up in boot camp
now i spend my weekends with the military
i'm going back for another degree i can't afford
i'm moving out of the parents house to a smelly room of a three bedroom apartment
i drive a hyundai
i work 60-80 hours a week, including fri night and sat
i strike out with women even through fricken eharmony

2007-08-10 06:47:01 · 15 answers · asked by steveo 1

I've notice that in porn movies the men at usually well endowed. If straight men are watching this stuff why aren't they just average? Is it that like in action movies men are in fact fantasizing to be the lead actor and thus larger than life (please forgive the pun)? If this is the case woman would have little to fear from the women in the porn movies, because they aren't the true focus. So is the main appeal of porn the fantasy that to be the type of man that could get a woman to do blankity blank kind of sexual act, because in reality they could never get their wives or S/O to do it?

What do you think?

2007-08-10 06:43:17 · 18 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

its wrong to fall in love with your ex-brother-in-law?

2007-08-10 06:38:35 · 10 answers · asked by Angel_0000001 1

I am currently divorcing my husband who still is in the home, he finally after 5 months received his papers and he refuses to leave, calling the cops wont work, he is verbally abusive to my two daughters and is making home life MISERABLE> I filed in Feb and now that he has recieved the papers, his number 1 mission is to make my life a living hell. He doesnt work, doesnt pay the bills, he is a BiG TIME FREELOADER any helpful suggestions would be appreciated. We have no lease, it is a verbal agreement between me and my former boss. Im not looking for criticism, Im in need of good advice EXTREMELY MISERABLE AND IN NEED OF GOOD ADVICE.

2007-08-10 06:38:33 · 8 answers · asked by kittykitty 2

I have a male friend who is going through a divorce right now. He and his wife were going to use the same lawyer, but after a few rifts, she decided to get her on. She agreed on a lump sum of $60,000, alimony/child support of $1,800 a month, and the house to settle out of court. He seems to think this is fair and doesn't want to take it to court. What do you all think? Should he fight it?

2007-08-10 06:35:37 · 14 answers · asked by msbritesid3 1

2007-08-10 06:32:49 · 18 answers · asked by pravee 3

I tried to tell my husband last night that something he did was irritating me, and he interupted me and said "i think we should go to bed". I asked him why he would interupt me when i'm trying to tell him how I feel and he said " If I didn't, you would have went on all night and wind yourself up".

today at lunch, I told him that upset me, and his first response was "This is going to carry on into today? Oh, I bet this is going to be a 'wonderful' weeked" [sarcastically]

Everytime I try to tell him that I'm upset, he says we are arguing! So what, am I never supposed to tell him when I'm unhappy? I can't keep it all in, i'll explode..


I thought your husband was the one you're supposed to be able to vent to. Because if I don't vent, how am I supposed to get over it?

2007-08-10 06:32:30 · 9 answers · asked by October Sky 2

2007-08-10 06:25:17 · 14 answers · asked by The Rock & Roll Doctor 6

Ok so I don't get along with my sister inlaws (5 of them) AT ALL! They don't like me and vice versa. My husband has never stood up to them for me which makes me mad.. finally I just cut them loose (about a year ago). He said I don't have to go to any family things.
Well about a month ago I went off on one SIL (just couldn't hold it in) not the right thing to do, but its done...and even told her she (and her fam) was the reason I want to divorce my husband (15 yrs)because I would rather not deal with anything anymore. NOW, she is getting married this fall . My husband wants me to go...Knowing they have been talking about me for years, knowing I will get attitude and smirks all night long... what should I do?

2007-08-10 06:21:08 · 28 answers · asked by meme 5

Am I wrong to think that my marriage of one year is over just because my husband has called me names before? He really hurt my feelings, and this is really starting to ruin my happy feelings about our marriage. He has apologized, but sometimes when we argue, he calls me names again. He never calls me these names when we are not arguing, but it still hurts bad. He has never hit me, but he may as well have, the way I feel. Please help!

2007-08-10 06:12:41 · 8 answers · asked by Lynne M 1

I feel betrayed by my fiance. He didn't necessarily cheat on me, but he was DEFINATELY flirting with another girl [on myspace, telling her that she's beautiful, etc.]. I told him that it hurt me and that i feel it's disrespectful to me, and he agreed not to do it anymore. So I'm trying to get over it and just trust him, but i'm having a really hard time doing that. I keep thinking about it....i try really hard not to, but everytime he gets on the computer i think about it, and just at random times during the day/night.

Has anyone else had to deal with this before? If so, how did you stop thinking about it? Is it just one of those things that takes time?

2007-08-10 06:01:18 · 18 answers · asked by Kristabella 2

she haS LOST HER SEX DRIVE

2007-08-10 06:01:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-10 05:50:08 · 26 answers · asked by GleamingChristine 1

just wondering if that private bit of information is something that women share with their best friends....

my hunch is "yes", which makes me a little nervous b/c I am "small"!

So, is my little secret a secret?

2007-08-10 05:46:47 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous