Why is it that so many people?

Question

choose work time over family time.

Answer 1

cuz kids gotts eat einstein

Answer 2

I understand what you are saying, but I think in most cases, people don't CHOOSE work over family time, but rather, don't have any other option. I am a divorced mother of twins, and I do not recieve any alimony or child support from my ex. (we both make about the same amount of money, have joint custody, and I want him to be able to afford a decent place for when the kids are with him.)

I work full time an hour away from home, with a commute that can take up to 2 hours. Trust me when I say that I truely wish I could spend more time with my children. However, there are bills to be paid, a mortgage, etc., etc. So I have to work!

Because of this, I make sure that ANY free time I have is devoted to being with my kids. (sometimes this means the laundry can wait, or the house isnt as clean as it needs to be.) But I would rather have the time with my children than a spotless house.

Answer 3

Because they obviously have not found that separation between work and family time and their priorities are definitely out of wack. Jobs come and go, family members come and go also, so which memories one chooses to retain, the ones with co-workers who don't give a damn about you but just wish for the day you are terminated and they can take your place, or those with family, the people who care, love and will be there for you while you work and when you no longer have a job. The option is to live to work or to work to live. God Bless.

Answer 4

It seems as though the older generation defines themselves through work, they basically live to work! Even if they are on salary they seem to want to stay hours after the day is done - not sure what they're proving?? LOL to me I see a poor husband/wife/father/mother, etc. when I see them spending that much time away from home and they don't need to. Life is way too short. I am the youngest in my building by atleast 20 years and find this so true.

I, on the other hand like to work hard and play hard! I work to live and that's it - realizing how important time with your loved ones outside of work truly is....... Why are we working in the first place? To provide a good environment for our loved ones, love and attention is also needed to achieve this though. I believe in balance and can't wait til all these other guys retire!

Answer 5

They feel pressured to over achieve at work to keep up with all the workacholics out there. I had many bosses over the years like that. They would easily work 80 hours per week. The are over-driven by the need to succeed and don't realize that their family time is the most important time, not the money they make.

Answer 6

Because they are 'buying into' the idea that money means success and they will wake up one day and see that they missed out on what was most important to them; their family. TV, movies; the media instruct them that happiness is buying a new car, having a big house, etc. .... these people need to dig deep inside and find what is really important in life; it's not money - time they will never get back.

Answer 7

Because they think that money will solve all of their problems and If you are at work then someone else has to deal with the issues at home. They think that if they work harder or longer that they will be respected and admired by their peers. Unfortunately, most people have to have a tragedy in their lives before they figure out that they have to like themselves, money doesn't necessarily bring you happiness and nobody says "gee, I wish I had spent more time at work" they say, If only I had spent more time with my family."

Answer 8

I'm answering on my wife's account here

FOR FIRST ELEVEN YEARS !!!!!

I found for my wife to be a home mom, (extremely hard work), I had to work six days a week. No time off, well, took one weekend vacation to Monterey,Ca. ( Three hours away) in that time.

The reward ??? I kept the 15+ year old cars reliable, heating/AC, eating out (sometime), Internet access, AND the kitchen was ALWAYS well stocked. My wife HATED this arrangement, yet _______,_________. Fill the blanks, some of you know them well.

Rough neighborhood, but I knew one day it would be better.

You know, To have in my home ( mentioned above) is only available to about one percent of the world. To give your children the best opportunities available, present them to every possibilities, you need education that people pay well for or a desire to work you *ss off. I'm just smart enough to keep my head above water , BUT, our girls are really smart. They got from their Mother and I'm doing everything to get them the best shot. There are some really cool people on this site and every parent KNOWS what I'm saying here.

Last year my former boss suggested I apply for a job she heard about from her sister. I did, and I now make almost double the $.

I am very aware of the missed years with my family and enjoy my "mini"retirement as I need only to work 40 hour week. I take the girls fishing, go to museums etc. My wife is so happy now, she told me she likes me...pretty cool as we hadn't had time to spend together. We were talking divorce cause we only argued most of the time. But now we spend time and talk about things, many things people here ask about.

I could have said " put food on the table, Einstein", but my heart reaches out to all the moms and dads that make this very difficult choice and try to find a balance.

The thinking by companies, in this country seems to be get most productivity with little thought to the family unit, and its a terrible loss to our children. Maybe some day this could be different but I doubt it.

Answer 9

For not for work there will be no family time,you'll be in crisis time looking for a way out.Some people balance the 2 real well.Most people make time for family when time is available,and won't affect there jobs.It takes money to make the family balanced and fed and happy.

Answer 10

It is simple...today society places more value material objects than on our families. That is why kids are raising themselves because mom and dad are both working 50 hours a week, when they could easily live off of one income...only then, they couldn't keep up with the Joneses. It is sad but true. Kids, spouses are simply an inconvenience of family life.

Answer 11

Because it is much easier to leave home to go to work then to face the everyday world of raising children, cleaning house, etc. If the person would rather work away from home than be with his/her family then maybe he/she should stop running away and face it. Get family counseling, find answers, don't run away or bury your head in the sand.