My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8mths. He is the most wonderful man I have ever dated. I have a history with a couple of bad relationships under my belt and he has been so patient with me. He taught me how to love and trust again after so much pain in my past relationships. I found true happiness when I found him. My problem is this.....I used to be intimate with him 5-10 times a week. I couldn't get enough of him. NOW...I just don't want it. I still do usually at least once a week, but I know that he wants it more than that. He never gets upset with me when I don't want to, but I know that it is disappointing to him. He does everything in his power to make me happy and 99% of the time he makes sure that I am satisfied before him. I know how lucky I am to have him in my life, but don't know how to want it more....Please help with any suggestions.
2007-08-10 08:02:36 · 11 answers · asked by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 27 and he is 29
2007-08-10 08:09:59 · update #1
I don't want to go into much detail, but spice is not the problem, we are both very open and try new things all the time as well as bring toys and such into the picture.
2007-08-10 08:11:19 · update #2
Changes in your sex-drive are natural. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Always keep the lines of communication open and be honest about how youre feeling and why. Like some of the other people suggested, try spicing up things alittle...it might spark things up for you again. He's in the relationship for you, not for "getting some." It's you he wants, don't sabotage things by over-analyzing. The sex-drive will come back!!!
2007-08-10 08:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you started on birth control recently? Not trying to be too personal but, I know that until I got married, I would not take the pill unless I was being sexually active. So, if you recently started taking the pill once you two got together and began having sex that could be the reason for the decreased sex drive. The hormones in it decrease a lot of women's sex drives.
2007-08-10 15:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your life situation is like. I know I can get like this at times. Usually in my case it is depression.
I don't feel like being touched or talking. I want to isolate myself.
It could also be a hormonal imbalance, I've heard of my friends going through this after having a baby.
If you have a lot of stress in your life, you may need to relax and take time for yourself and then ease back into love making.
2007-08-10 15:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You could be hitting an age. I am 24 and do not need it like that. I can handle once a week. Of course my fiance wants it more, so I give him what he thinks he needs and I go to sleep.
I have been like this for a while. I do love being with him though.
2007-08-10 15:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 to 10 times a week? This guy has burned you out. He's made use of your body, until you have no more desire. If anyone's lucky, it's him; because he's found another fool who doesn't know he's playing games. The man is screwing the life out of you, and you think it's wonderful. Awesome!
2007-08-10 15:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. Tell him what you are feeling. It sound to me that you want quality time now, not quantity. In your past relationships, did the guys want sex a lot? That would set a pattern in you that all guys want alot of sex. Just talk to him. be open and honest. If he loves you, he will understand.
2007-08-10 15:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that i can think of is that he's too nice. there is no chase and no challenge for you there. he's kinda become your door mat. maybe tell him to be more aggressive, even though that may not be what you want. this is kinda why girls are drawn to assholes/bad boys is because they're always exciting and a challenge. it's clear that there is no challenge here.
2007-08-10 15:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be hormonal....go see a doctor.
2007-08-10 15:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's probably making it all too easy for you that you've become bored. sure you love him, he's great, but you;re bored. try spicing up your live life.
2007-08-10 15:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just lay there and take it. Turn so you can see the tv.
2007-08-10 15:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by kitty cat 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋