Marriage & Divorce - 5 August 2007

This is just a curiosity question, not a personal one, but do you have any deal breakers in your relationship? What, if any, are the lines your significant other would have to cross for you to call it quits without trying?

I wouldn't tolerate abuse of any type, be it physical, verbal, sexual, emotional, or substance. I wouldn't allow our child to grow up in that atmosphere, nor would I allow our pets to take the brunt of any cruelty. That would be grounds for me to leave immediately.

I also wouldn't accept adultery. Affairs--physical, emotional, or both--are something I couldn't get past. I don't consider having female friends cheating, but we also agree on where friendship ends and the next level begins. Same with porn--downloading a video is fine in our relationship, but anything interactive is not.

Major or habitual lying is the other thing. There's simply no need for it. I can deal with anything my other half has to say as long as he's honest.

What are yours?

2007-08-05 09:46:04 · 10 answers · asked by thegnomeofwrath 2

I just got married 1 1/2 yrs ago. The problem is that my ex-boyfriend wants me back and I'm torned between the two of them. My husband is the most wonderful man but kinda not a husband material. My ex was my first serious boyfriend, of course I still love him. But I also love my husband. I don't know what to do! Can anyone give me advices or helps to me?

2007-08-05 09:33:30 · 9 answers · asked by deafgurl 2

So here's the deal. I have a very sweet & loving husband but for some reason he will not take care of things out in the yard. I just want our house to look as nice on the outside as it does on the inside. I wish he wouldn't let the grass get so long before cutting it. Right now, everything is overgrown & needs to be weedwacked desperately... I would do it myself but I'm about 4 weeks from giving birth & would probably pass out from the heat. I don't want to nag him but I'm honestly getting really annoyed. I mean how difficult is it to take out the broom and sweep a little bit? I did it this morning. It's about 100 degrees outside & this is the last thing I need to be doing. BTW, I keep our house immaculate, no matter how hard it is for me to do right now. My 4 year-old helps me more than my husband does! Advice?

2007-08-05 09:33:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I still have my ex-husbands name because I wanted to have the same last name as my kids. Now I'm getting married in a few months and I have not yet solved the dilemma of whether to give my kids my new hubby's name since he's so loving to them and looking forward to being their "dad". He has no kids but treats mine like they are his and their dad barely wants anything to do with him unless he's forced. I want my kids to share my last name and I want to take the name of my fiance. I was thinking of hyphenating but to keep my ex's name seems kinda disrespectful in my mind...What do you think?

2007-08-05 09:18:42 · 14 answers · asked by SmartyPants 5

Unless a woman is proven unfit or doesn't show up for the court date....usually custody is granted to them.

2007-08-05 09:17:19 · 11 answers · asked by Ryan 2

2007-08-05 09:07:22 · 33 answers · asked by big eyes 1

Is this legal? WAS gone for 4 hours came home and all was gone can she take all that? And what should I do? Should I call the police and fill a charge?

2007-08-05 09:05:39 · 20 answers · asked by chumpa 1

I am goint through a very though situation in my marriage and I know it will end pretty soon. Im not looking for anyone at this moment, but I have wondered if there are men out there that are willing to marry and be responsible for a child that isnt theirs. Im currently expecting my 1st baby and unfortunately things arent going anywhere with my husband. I plant to dedicate myself tomy daughter, and maybe later on in life perhaps find a good man that is willing to take me and my daughter. Are there still men that dont care about women that already have a child, or do you men prefer to marry someone that doesnt have any children at all? Im just curious I would like to know how some men think. Thanks!!

2007-08-05 09:05:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-05 09:01:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

She called him early every morning for about 8 months.....left messages like if no cares i do. I ready you can pick me up...

2007-08-05 08:52:12 · 16 answers · asked by kenny 1

My girlfriend refuses to cook. We have been dating for 4 years, and I know this sounds silly, but I need a woman who can take care of my children. And that includes cooking for them. I love her very much, but if she won't cook I could never marry her. How do I approach her about this? It's that time in our relationship where I either break up with her or propose. And if she refuses to get in the kitchen, how I am supposed to propose? Seriously.

2007-08-05 08:40:32 · 30 answers · asked by Fratty Palmetto 1

i live in one state and my wife lives in another state.I found out that both states i can file for divorce without an attorney.I got all the paperwork done and filed with the courts.I've sent the papers to my wife by certified mail and she didn't pick the papers up from the post office and now the post office is returning them to me.I heard that my wife has to receive these papers in order for the divorce to take place.The next step is for me to pay the sheriff office in the state that she lives in to find her and serve her papers.I really didn't want to do all that,but I don't know all the laws about this and I would like to know what are my other options to keep my wife from being served by a sheriff?

2007-08-05 08:36:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do the courts seem to think kids are better off with there mothers than there fathers not all mohers are good parents some of them are deadbeats too

2007-08-05 08:29:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hubby and I argue on this. I refer to a day coming up in the
days to come as "this week". He says, "next week". Maybe I
should say, 'this next week', so he'll maybe understand better?
He'll get confused all the time on what I'm trying to tell him to
maybe mark on the calender an appointment. So what are
your answers to t his dilema of ours?

2007-08-05 08:17:18 · 6 answers · asked by Lynn 7

My boyfriend and I want to get married, but last night he said he said the he eventually wants to have multiple wives. I'm not really against the idea of polygamy, I just never thought it would happen to me. And it's not like he's a bad guy. If he just wanted more ***, he'd be out those swinger clubs. But he doesn't and he always respects me.

I guess I can sort of see the benifets of a polygamous relationship for men and women, but I'm just kind of surprised right now. How would you feel in this situation?

2007-08-05 07:53:30 · 30 answers · asked by Texas Toast 1

I got a tattoo a couple of months on my back shoulder...its just a tribal with a rose in the middle. My husband hates it and never wanted me to get it in the first place. Now I feel really bad about getting it and considering removing it because I made the decision without putting his feeling in consideration. I know removal leaves scars and I am willing to live with them. I am 31 and waited a long to get this tattoo, its something I have always wanted. What should I do? And was I was wrong for not considering how he felt about it?

2007-08-05 07:47:21 · 36 answers · asked by Kristi 2

does anyone think about the court rulings for divorce? if women are equal, why does the court still see them as inferior?? i.e.---alimony, custody, etc?

2007-08-05 07:36:50 · 7 answers · asked by Jeff B 1

Met this guy online while he was in Iraq. Talked to him wrote letters for almost 7 months & things were good. He came home & things started off kind of rocky, but we got past it. Then things got rocky a couple of months later, but we got past that as well. After a year rolled around between him being in Iraq & then home, I felt like he should have been able to tell me were things were going, but he could not. I met someone else who wanted to be more serious with me & I told him I would go with the other guy because he could not tell me & I am still with the other guy. I bought the military guy a few gifts while he was in Iraq & when he came home he gave me a digital camera. Me choosing the other guy happened the last week of January & I had not heard from the military since (7 months). He said he was out of the service in June and moving out of the state. So why did I get a text today saying send me back my camera? Is this to get a response out of me or does he really want the camera?

2007-08-05 07:34:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-05 07:23:07 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

and refuses to sign for them and is then served in person and refuses to sign or accept them, what happens next?

2007-08-05 06:29:08 · 11 answers · asked by #28 fan 2

Met this guy online while he was in Iraq. Talked to him wrote letters for almost 7 months & things were good. He came home & things started off kind of rocky, but we got past it. Then things got rocky a couple of months later, but we got past that as well. After a year rolled around between him being in Iraq & then home, I felt like he should have been able to tell me were things were going, but he could not. I met someone else who wanted to be more serious with me & I told him I would go with the other guy because he could not tell me & I am still with the other guy. I bought the military guy a few gifts while he was in Iraq & when he came home he gave me a digital camera. Me choosing the other guy happened the last week of January & I had not heard from the military since (7 months). He said he was out of the service in June and moving out of the state. So why did I get a text today saying send me back my camera? Is this to get a response out of me or does he really want the camera?

2007-08-05 06:20:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

her and her husband had been separated for some time and now someone is telling her that she won't be allowed to get a divorce if she is pregnant, which makes no sense to me because the baby isn't even her husbands and yet her husband is refusing to sign the papers right now anyway. Any info on this would be appreciated.

2007-08-05 05:17:17 · 3 answers · asked by Corona 5

ok i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me with my friend and i saw my ex kissing some girl...im not going to lie, even though i moved on, it did bother me a bit...after he hooked up with her he was by the bar by himself so i went up to him and said hi and we started talking...after that i saw some guy who i knew and we started dancing and flirting with each other...i saw my ex staring at us that he even came up to me while i was talking to the other guy...after that i walked out with my friend and that guy and his friend and i kno my ex saw it bc he tried getting my attention by grabbing my waste...then he calls me and leaves a message on my voicemail saying "i want you" but ur with another guy" i mean seriously, whats his problem??? its ok for him to hook up with other girls but not ok for me to flirt or dance with other guys? i mean what was that all about?? what do u guys think?

2007-08-05 05:14:40 · 14 answers · asked by fran c 1

I've always been told that the only stupid question is the one that isn't asked.

Thanks,

Flavio

2007-08-05 04:59:09 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3

i'm entertained!

2007-08-05 04:55:50 · 3 answers · asked by letterstoheather 7

im still in love with him

2007-08-05 04:45:31 · 22 answers · asked by 99 1

Yup....was it the bait and switch?

2007-08-05 04:37:44 · 24 answers · asked by ? 3

Our daughter will be 16 in 6 weeks my wife thinks we should sell her the car for $3.000.00 (worth 6500.) I think this is a BIG problem. I want her to be able to use MY car when I feel she should use it, not have the attitude I'll never be home, and I (she) can come and go as she pleases It's my car... Also what do you think about for paying for her insurance, or her paying half???

2007-08-05 04:34:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi, when someone is drunk and saying very hurtfull things to you that they wouldnt say when their sober, is this the truth comming out or is it just drunk talk ?

2007-08-05 04:34:13 · 11 answers · asked by thepainter 4

2007-08-05 04:31:29 · 6 answers · asked by Butterfly86 2