what are the laws for filing a for a divorce?

Question

i live in one state and my wife lives in another state.I found out that both states i can file for divorce without an attorney.I got all the paperwork done and filed with the courts.I've sent the papers to my wife by certified mail and she didn't pick the papers up from the post office and now the post office is returning them to me.I heard that my wife has to receive these papers in order for the divorce to take place.The next step is for me to pay the sheriff office in the state that she lives in to find her and serve her papers.I really didn't want to do all that,but I don't know all the laws about this and I would like to know what are my other options to keep my wife from being served by a sheriff?

Answer 1

, no! do not deliver them yourself! she can just get rid of them and act as if she never got them,, you you should use the sheriff dept, don't worry , it is a common task for them. this way, she must sign for them and it will be documented. in with the paperwork should be a date where she must have the documents signed and notarized and returned by xx-date,

Answer 2

Just how bad do you really want your divorce? It basically comes down to playing the game by the rules of the legal system or forget the divorce and live happily ever after. She has alegal right to due process of the law which is in essence serving her the papers. You can always file amissing person/spouse divorce in your state which will require posting an ad about pending divorce in the local papers for a certain amount of time then appearing in court on the assigned date but this takes time. Better off just paying the deputy to serve her and be done with it and then get on with the divorce., and that way there is no legal questions or problems later, safest way

Answer 3

If you really want to make sure she gets them make a trip and deliver them yourself. I really don't know the law, but you might talk to your attorney.