divorce rulings???

Question

does anyone think about the court rulings for divorce? if women are equal, why does the court still see them as inferior?? i.e.---alimony, custody, etc?

you usually don't see men getting alimony, nor do you usually see courts just nullifiying the divorce. why are women usually the ones granted alimony?

Answer 1

Women are seen differently by the courts because laws have not kept up with our changes in social thinking. Many judges who are still on the bench come from an era when women were the home caregivers and men were the breadwinners. It isn't fair, but many things in life aren't fair. I think it is important for divorcing couples to try and mediate outside the courtroom. Once they end up in court neither side feels like they got a fair shake.

Answer 2

Because it is usuall the woman who stays home with the children and fogoes her career. So women are not equal. Once you are out of the work force for more the 5 years technology and the way companies opperate have changed drastically. A woman cannot get a job that will afford her the lifestyle that she was accustomed to during the marriage. As children grow expences grow to, alimony and child support a vital in helping children live a good life. As for custody many judges are ruling shared custody which is fantastic for the children in some ways, they get to see both parents equally, but when they have to stay 4 days here then 3 days there it can become difficult for the child. If the father is found unfit or the mother unfit usually the "fit" parent has full custody.

Answer 3

I don't think the court sees women as inferior when it grants alimony and kids' custody to them. That just means that before the eyes of the law, husband and wife are equal and therefore, the divorce order should contain provisions to do justice to both parties.

Answer 4

Good point! Yes, it does depend on the state. Wyoming is much more conservative. I have a friend who was a stay at home mother and had to flee from her physically abusive husband, and with three kids she only got $800 a month in Wyoming. Rediculous. In the state of Oregon it would have been 3 times that. I know a co-worker paying around $1300 a month for one daughter in Oregon. However, Oregon goes to the oppositve extrememe. For example, I had a friend who had his wages garnished by a woman who falsely accused him of being the father of his child. They garnished his wages before a paternity test, along with three other men. Now how could three men possibly be the father? That is theft in my opinion. He had to get a lawyer to prove the child was not his, and of course once it was discovered that he was indeed not the father, never received his wages back. So it goes both ways. I understand that to protect the minority from the majority, certain legislation needs to be in place, but for those seeking equal rights they need to be careful to not overextend into special privelages and special rights. Many times overcompensation is not the fault of those seeking equality but the fault of overzeoulousness in those responsible for recompensing prior wrongs.

Answer 5

Didn't know that many woman get alimony these days, of course none of my friends make that kind of dough to have to fork over alimony.

Answer 6

I can tell you one thing it sure wasn't equal in my divorce, even my lawyer said I got shafted.

Answer 7

depends on your state and lawyers. i agree, though.