I am goint through a very though situation in my marriage and I know it will end pretty soon. Im not looking for anyone at this moment, but I have wondered if there are men out there that are willing to marry and be responsible for a child that isnt theirs. Im currently expecting my 1st baby and unfortunately things arent going anywhere with my husband. I plant to dedicate myself tomy daughter, and maybe later on in life perhaps find a good man that is willing to take me and my daughter. Are there still men that dont care about women that already have a child, or do you men prefer to marry someone that doesnt have any children at all? Im just curious I would like to know how some men think. Thanks!!
2007-08-05 09:05:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would be surprised how many men would be a father to a child who is not their own. If that ever happened to me I would be ok with it. If I loved the lady enough I could sure love the kid too.
2007-08-05 09:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes there are guys out there like that, you don't have to wory about being alone. the problem that I have experienced is that no matter what, you have already spent your time and energy on another man in the ultimate of all relationships and now you are about to start on another real hard one called being a mom. You will find a good guy but be very careful, not only with your feelings but with the next man and most importantly your childs. I can say this because I have dated several women that have children but in the end I have had to take number 3 in a relationship and it has always made it harder. So if you go through a divorce try to understand what you might be putting some one ele through.
2007-08-05 09:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by TJ S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are many of us that will take you with your doughtier. Be very careful when you time comes to look. There will be lats of men that have ulterior motives even chilled molesters. Screen them well a chilled needs someone in there life that they can trust and go to with there everyday problems. Children are very fragile. Also watch out for men that look for women like you for some reason they think a women with a chilled is easy and they just want you for sex. Check aversion's background and don't believe anion what they say make them prove it. Take your time don't rush into anything. On the other hand find someone while your daughter is still very young so the man can bond to her more as his own daughter. This makes it harder for a man to betray you or your daughter. Hope things work out in your present situation if not I wish you allot of sincere luck in the next.
2007-08-05 09:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a man but I am a woman who had a child before meeting and marrying. So yes there are men willing to marry women with children that are not biologically theres. Just like there are families made up from adopted children. Its not a blood line that makes you love a child. Its the child that makes you love them. Just dont introduce the child to every man you date. That can be confusing for the child. Also protects the child and man from forming a bond that may not be able to last if the relationship does not last.
2007-08-05 09:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Becka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a wedding photographer and photograph weddings all the time where the bride has a child/ren or the groom does.
Don't fret. Are you certain your husband won't get counseling so that the two of you can save your marriage? I would try that. If not then do not worry about a man wanting you with a child. Any man that does not want you with a child is not worth haveing in the first place. Hold out for the very best.
Good luck with your delivery and future. (Try the counseling!)
2007-08-05 09:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my wife she had a 1 year old girl. We have been married for 2 years and our daughter is 5 now. I just try to raise her as my own. At first when we were dating I wasn't sure what I was getting into but I love them both very much. In my situation her birth father didn't want anything to do with her. For me not having to deal with joint custudy and the other man always coming around was good. I don't know if I would have given it a chance in the beginning if there had been a lot of drama there. I'm sure you will find another guy who will love the both of you. Good luck
2007-08-05 09:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by REX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look like Jessica Alba, you will find lots of men that will be interested in you. However, realistically you must lower your standards and choose an older guy that would love to have some sweet young thing or a guy that cannot marry a single girl as attractive as you.
Basically, it is like any other handicap to marriage such as being fat or less attractive. No guy is going to marry you if he can marry an equally attractive single gal. However, you can compete very well with less attractive single gals or gals that are 5 years older.
If you are a nine, you cannot get a nine husband but you can get an 8 husband. If you are an 8, you can get a 7 and so on. You can easily get married once you accept your new level of attractiveness as a wife.
2007-08-05 09:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this really doesn't answer your question, but this relationship you are in is way too young for you to be thinking of a new boyfriend. You really need to examine yourself on this issue. The problem seems to be more you than it is him. First of all, you may just be going through some hormonal difficulties and some pre-natal depression and anxiety. It's normal for this. Get with someone you trust and talk it out if you can't with your partner. You are clearly too young to have worked all the alternatives before you came to this point, so go get counseling then see how you view all this.
2007-08-05 09:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by blutoadmirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you may be having mixed feelings and random emotions because of your pregnancy (hormones, etc). Your husband is having similar problems (not due to hormones, but due to wondering what to do with a child, and what role he may play in her life, maybe). But you should not give up on your marriage yet. Second, if your marriage does not work out, you should try taking care of your self and your child and not rush to try to find someone to "take care of " the two of you. Before you even think of finding someone else after a divorce, you should find your own feet and stand on them!
2007-08-05 09:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by renee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with a guy that dates women with children frequently. He is recently divorced himself, so he is very understanding.
You must just realize that you have to be a little more open minded yourself towards people you will date. Everyone has a pst, and everyone can grow from their past experiences. Maybe he will have a kid, too. Are you going to be ok with this?
I wouldnt worry too much about it. You love your daughter, and you accept her fully for who she is. You should also accept yourself, too. Sometimes things happen in your life that suck, but just move on and grow as a result. You are worth so much... dont cut yourself short!
Besides, would you really wanna be with a guy who didnt accept everything about you, including your child?
2007-08-05 09:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋