So here's the deal. I have a very sweet & loving husband but for some reason he will not take care of things out in the yard. I just want our house to look as nice on the outside as it does on the inside. I wish he wouldn't let the grass get so long before cutting it. Right now, everything is overgrown & needs to be weedwacked desperately... I would do it myself but I'm about 4 weeks from giving birth & would probably pass out from the heat. I don't want to nag him but I'm honestly getting really annoyed. I mean how difficult is it to take out the broom and sweep a little bit? I did it this morning. It's about 100 degrees outside & this is the last thing I need to be doing. BTW, I keep our house immaculate, no matter how hard it is for me to do right now. My 4 year-old helps me more than my husband does! Advice?
2007-08-05 09:33:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Reality check- We all have to do things that we don't LIKE to, it's called being an adult! Do you LIKE to scrub toilets? Probably not, but if you want to live in a clean home, it has to get done.
2007-08-05 09:48:59 · update #1
As always we all enjoy being rewarded and I know you should not have to reward your husband, but it works. Let him know that after he mows the lawn or what ever the issue, that you will have something special for him waiting. A favorate meal, or an uninterupted football game... whatever he is into. That way in the end you get what you want and he gets what he wants.
He may also be a little restrained by the sun, try getting him up early in the morning (with a pleasant gesture) and without it being a big deal, just note or make a joke about how the hairs on his chin or side burns are growing wild like the weeds outside.
2007-08-05 09:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by M&M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA! LOL! I swear I am exactly in the same boat as you, except for being pregnant, but I do have the same problems with my husband, well, the only thing he does is, at least he is good on cutting the grass, but as far as for the planting, weed pulling, mulching, watering plants, and the indoor housework I do it all. Yes, I really do get overwhelmed at times with the caring of 3 kids and cooking, and indoor cleaning and outdoor cleaning, but I am so darn tired of nagging all the time, that I just go and do it on my own. So if you do get good advice on how make the husband help you, please let me know as I will be watching this to see what responses you will get..LOL
P.S. I really do believe that alot of men are like this, not just our husbands.
2007-08-05 17:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of mow and blow? that is what you need, . do any of your neighbors have a crew who come by in a truck once a week to mow the grass? any at all? go to their house and ask for the number and call the crew and have them do your house once a week. it can be extremely reasonable in cost. do not discuss this with hubby, just do it. i would never ever live in a house with an overgrown yard, and, yup, i have done my share of weedwacking, and mowing, in fact i just spent 3 days hand trimming all of our hedges myself, but i have a crew come to mow and they are here less than an hour and everything looks clean when they leave. is your house the only one that looks untidy on your block???? i would be embarrassed if i had the only house that was overgrown. so to answer your question, that is the only way if he does not see the urgency of having a clean neat yard.
2007-08-05 10:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know this about him before you married him? My friend was ABOUT to marry an SOB that was lazier than your husband, but then she got a clue. She thought she could change him because his father raised him to be a chauvanistic @$$hole. However, she finally woke up and recently left him. I don't understand women sometimes. You CANT change anyone only yourself.
2007-08-05 13:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mine would do nothing to help me out never did for 30 years of marriage, go see a councilor to try to get things on track.
2007-08-05 11:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You CHOSE to marry a man who doesn't do yard work. You should have discussed ALL of this BEFORE you got married. You should have discussed your expectations BEFORE you got married. All I can suggest is that you hire someone to do the yard work.
2007-08-05 09:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could with hold sex from him...and if that doesn't work, stop doing his laundry....and if that doesn't work don't buy him any snack foods when you go to the grocery store....I think that would do it for me.
2007-08-05 09:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by jon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋