If all is equal...finances, being fit to be a parent, etc; Why's it so hard for men to get custody of kids?

Question

Unless a woman is proven unfit or doesn't show up for the court date....usually custody is granted to them.

Answer 1

Actually, they are starting to act as if they are going to make some changes here. For years we were under the bogus "tender years doctrine" which basically states that the mom is the best primary caretaker for the child. Now the courts are supposed to be operating under the "best interest of the child" guidelines. However, the "best interest of the child" is so open to interpretation that nothing has really changed with who gets primary custody.

The laws suck, and I'm surprised that no discrimination suits have been filed when there is clearly discrimination going on against men.

Answer 2

I hope in the near future, men would have custody of children as much as women. The society hasn't realized that men can be as good parents as women can. Women tend to show their nurture more than men and that's the reason why the court seems to favor them.

If a woman is a good parent, she shouldn't fight if a good man wants to have custody of the children. It only makes it worst if the woman denied the man's right as a father. Children get caught in the middle and they didn't do anything to cause it.

When you said why it's hard for men to get custody, you mean sole custody of children or half and half? The only time when a man has sole custody of children when the woman really screws up.

As a woman myself, I know how difficult for women to give up their children because we carried them for 9 months. I'm willing to share 1/2 custody with my ex but I can't see myself give up on them completely. My sister gave custody to her ex because he lives in the area that has better school system for her child. Her daughter still loves her and spends every weekend with her.

Answer 3

I wish I knew.

My husband is currently going through a custody battle with an EXTREMELY unfit parent....since papers were originally served she all of a sudden decided to get a job and find a place to live (she was just house jumping night to night whoever would let her stay)....but anyway, I'm fairly certain the court is going to side with her anyway.

It's ridiculous.

They should ACTUALLY care more what's REALLY good for the children involved!!!!

Answer 4

you are quite right women usually get custody, but what you need to know is that if you are not married then you do not have parental responsibility for your children which basically means you are screwed! what you have to do is take the mother to court and get the judge to grant responsibility to you as well (the mother automatically gets it as soon as kid born!) this means you can have a say on their up bringing,schooling health and get better contact and have the same legal rights as the mother otherwise you cannot have a say on anything!! OK it's not custody but it's better than nothing. law answer

Answer 5

Because the courts are so WRONG and think women are the best caretakers. I am a happily married woman and family member of a single dad. Of all the men who are single dads that I know of, the majority are OUTSTANDING and the best parents! Most single dads also are solid in relationships; re-marry or have a lasting relationship for life.

If you are trying to get your children, go to court and show your ability to be that stable man and take your proof with you. Check out any of the dad's rights websites, too.

Answer 6

Because traditionally the women have been the nurturers rather than the bread winners. However in the past 40 years those trends have been changing, eventually things will be equal but it took women hundreds of years to get to the point where we are accepted in the work place, where SOME of us get paid the same as our male counterparts (we're still fighting that one out) so of course it is going to take time for men to get what women get traditionally.

Answer 7

These situations are seldom "all equal" . Courts are so overwhelmed with cases that they look at them as if they were equal. They look at previous cases and if they are similar they rule as if they are the same. Nowdays they usually give the parents joint custody if both are fit parents.

Answer 8

Documentation - that's what's mandatory. no longer hearsay, no longer rhetoric - chilly annoying information. a million. Get the youngster assessed via a toddler's physiologist, and spot what they say. 2. Get records from the youngster Care middle as to his behaviors, and the disruption its brought about. "the youngster gets suspended from daycare for cussing out the lecturers and scholars, flipping them off, and his unacceptable anger issues". 3. Take pictures of any bruising, the dirtiness, and get C. P. S. in touch in case you could. "the youngster comes over with finger prints on his palms and unexplained bruises." and "His hygiene is horrendous". 4. study "toddler alienation" regulations. "She would not enable the daddy to communicate to the youngster in between the different weekend visitations or have midweek visitation because is "too lots time" and "pointless"." and "the mum has moved the youngster to 2 distinctive apartments interior the previous 3 hundred and sixty 5 days...and has by no ability notified the daddy of his son's whereabouts." 5. Get a P. I. to envision out the stay-in boyfriend. "the mum's stay-in boyfriend has anger subject concerns" according to risk he has a record of violence? Do despite you could to be certain that this adverse boy gets right into a greater useful place than he's now.

Answer 9

because you have to remember, some of these laws were passed by narrow minded men back in the days. they felt that children are suppose to be with women.

it is time for a change. men are just fit as women and most cases, more fit as parents.

i say men need to unite together and fight for their rights to heard and considered just like many minorities.

Answer 10

It has to do with an ages old notion doing with maternalistic instincts are better in raising the children than the paternal bread winner instincts