im still in love with him
2007-08-05 04:45:31 · 22 answers · asked by 99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well your love for him isnt the point.....but I think I may tell....just because he has to support them or help you support them, and thats a hard thing to hide from a wife, and isnt good for him to hide......I would tell him to tell her, and if he dosnt then yes you could.
2007-08-05 04:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Reda T 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would contact the father of your twins and tell him his wife needs to know. Give him the chance to be honest with her first and if he won't tell him you will.You should not have to carry this alone in life and the children deserve to be out in thre open. What if someday they would be in a crisis medically and need the fathers blood or something? He needs to own up to these children and claim them to the world that these are his. Why should he protect his wife and hide them from anyone. If he was with you and this happened he never thought about her feelings then so why should her feelings matter now. The wife needs to know what is going on in her world and make a choice about her own life in the reality that it is. If my husband had children out there while married to me I would want to know. It would only be right!! If he has children in his marriage and is a father to them his twins have the right to know him in the right way as their father to! Best wishes and take care.
2007-08-05 12:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These type of things never end up be a "real' secret. The key word here is married. If you are not married to the man, you should not be having sex with him.
He is not in love with you, he is in love with the fact that you were too willing to have sex with him, even though you are not his wife. In other words, you are both acting like children in adult bodies.
Insist that he provide financial support for his children. Make sure there are DNA tests involved, and possibly the courts, and learn to think more of yourself than becoming involved with a married man.
You and he choose to play with fire and unfortunately, your children are going to be the ones to get burned. I wish them the best.
2007-08-05 11:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to critisize you for the affair, cause once in my young, stupid youth, I got involved with a married man myself. I learned my lesson, and I just hope you have too.
However, here is my opinion concerning the kids. DO IT NOW, OR DON'T DO IT AT ALL!!!!!!
I don't mean to come across rude, but a couple of months ago, a woman contacted my husband and I, to tell him that he had fathered her 6 1/2 yr. old daughter! Can you even imagine how a man would feel, not to mention how his wife would feel, to be contacted that many years later to be told SURPRISE, YOU HAVE A KID. TIME TO STEP UP AND BE A DAD! Now in my situation, this was a one night stand that my husband doens't even remember, but either way, this woman knew about this for over 7 yrs and for her own selfish reasons she decided to keep it to herself. Please don't do the same to this mans wife. She doesn't deserve it and neither do your kids.
Suck it up, contact him and let him know. It is then his place to tell her, not yours. It wouldn't be fair for you to do nothing and then in a few years when guilt sets in, or you realize that you need his financial support, to just pop up and tell them. Not fair to him, to his wife, and certainly not to your kids.
2007-08-05 12:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Cowgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your motive for telling her about you all now?..do you really think she should know or do you just want to tear up his home for good, i mean you are still in love with him...you must want him all for yourself!!! how could you allow yourself to get pregnant by a married man? to be an adulterer is one thing but now you have created a disaster for 2 innocent lives. this situation is absolutely disgusting and ridiculous. you should be ashamed of yourself. just remember one thing, the way you get your man is normally the way you lose him. he will never be faithful to you and will never love you as much as he loves his wife, if he loved you more he would have left her for you already
2007-08-05 11:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by huneygrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You should ask the father whether he wants his wife knowing now. Eventually, you will have to tell her. It also depends if he cheated on his wife or had the children before they were married or going out seriously. If he cheated on her, you might want to leave an anonymous note but if it happend b4 then, then you should feel comfortable telling the wife
2007-08-05 11:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to tell HIM he has fathered your twins and file for child support, his wife will find out eventually.
2007-08-05 20:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cared about her as a person or as a fellow woman, you would have told her when you started sleeping with her husband. It's clear you just want to hurt the woman that he chooses to be with instead of you.
Keep it to yourself and stop sleeping with married men.
2007-08-05 11:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by jf 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She'll likely find out at some point, as I imagine he'll be in their lives somehow (or part of his paycheck will).
You're in love with a cheater eh? Perhaps you should look at why you dont' think you can do better than a man who is selfish, lying, and a betrayer.
2007-08-05 11:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to tell his wife cause it isn't fair what the two of you are doing. She needs to leave him too because he is a jerk for getting his sweetheart pregnant (which you probably meant for it to happen cause you think it will make him come running to you.)
2007-08-05 11:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to a friend of mine over 22 years ago.
she also had twins.
the man helped her with the kids, had no intent on leaving his wife, and she knew it.
she had some dignity, and didn't want to destroy his family because SHE made the mistake of having an affair with someone who wasn't available.'
my friend was very much in love with the guy to... so much so, that she respected his situation.
don't make waves... hopefully he is helping with those kids.
2007-08-05 11:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋