I just got married 1 1/2 yrs ago. The problem is that my ex-boyfriend wants me back and I'm torned between the two of them. My husband is the most wonderful man but kinda not a husband material. My ex was my first serious boyfriend, of course I still love him. But I also love my husband. I don't know what to do! Can anyone give me advices or helps to me?
2007-08-05 09:33:30 · 9 answers · asked by deafgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well maybe you should of waited to get married or at least talked to your ex before you got married, now its to late. This is a choice only you can make for yourself. You have to follow your heart. You should be with someone that you truly love. It will be a hard one no matter what you do. Im sure your husband will be crushed. And are you sure that you and your ex will work out this time? Things must of gone wrong, because you did break up. Just think it over, dont rush it, cause it is a life changing decsion, the wish you LOTS of luck!!!
2007-08-05 09:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by clr9798 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to you, you are not divorced, you are not getting a divorce because it was never served and yet you have moved in with the boyfriend who has a child. You and the boyfriend must be stupid! You have endangered the emotional stability of this minor child by moving in and now you are having issues about whether or not to stay. You should have known better. You should consider the emotions of children and their welfare instead of your selfish foolish desires for passion or romance. Now you cannot decide between the two men and so you do disservice to both! Not a proud position to be in is it? What I really recommend is you move out on your own. Break up with both men. Spend some time ALONE! and I don't mean 1 or 2 days I mean about a year! You need to get to know yourself as a person, you need to like yourself not as part of a couple but as an individual! Only then can you have a meaningful relationship with one of these men or anybody for that matter. Grow up honey, quit being some adolescent emotionally needy little girl who can't stand up own her own.
2016-04-01 00:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard work and the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. You made a commitment to your husband and to God to start a family.
You are suffering from a case of the "might have beens", something we all go though. But you need to re-commit yourself to your husband, who you say is a wonderful man.
I am curious if a "Wonderful Man" who you "love" is not husband material what is? A boyfriend who must be an ex for a reason?
I can tell you that your ex-BF is not a wonderful man. No man is wonderful who comes between another man and his wife.
2007-08-05 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question is why the hell did you get married when you still clearly loved your ex? You don't love your husband. IF you loved him you wouldn't be wanting your ex boyfriend back. You basically got married based upon a lie, YOU lied in your marriage vows and now you want advice and help?
2007-08-05 09:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember its not having what you want but wanting what you have. And besides there is a reason why hes an ex boyfriend and not current, which brings up the question why couldnt he be an ex again if you went back to him? Stay with hubby,more secure. Words are cheap but actions are stronger
2007-08-05 09:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know thats a decsion ushoulda made b4 u got married i mean u shouldnt even have to think bout what to do...when u marry its suppose to be a chopice u'll never regret........its suppose to be the one u cant live without.
But if it didnt work the first time it probably wont now........
and if u got such a great guy then dont worry not everyone is perfect it takes time. no one is great at being a parent either but u learn as u go thats life ......there just life lessons some go fast and some go slower...........but if u love him and ur with him keep him and dont let him go..............just remember there is a reason u married him so dont forget it
2007-08-05 09:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing, why did you break up with your ex to begin with?
just think about which one has the most to offer, and which one you feel the most risk at being with, and that can help you make a decision.
you could always keep the ex as a secret lover, and once you really feel like you can make a decision, cut it off with one of the two completely.
yes, it sounds cruel, but the fact of the matter is, its life.
2007-08-05 09:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex is an ex for a reason
2007-08-05 09:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do them both. Enjoy the best of both worlds for now.
2007-08-05 11:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋