Met this guy online while he was in Iraq. Talked to him wrote letters for almost 7 months & things were good. He came home & things started off kind of rocky, but we got past it. Then things got rocky a couple of months later, but we got past that as well. After a year rolled around between him being in Iraq & then home, I felt like he should have been able to tell me were things were going, but he could not. I met someone else who wanted to be more serious with me & I told him I would go with the other guy because he could not tell me & I am still with the other guy. I bought the military guy a few gifts while he was in Iraq & when he came home he gave me a digital camera. Me choosing the other guy happened the last week of January & I had not heard from the military since (7 months). He said he was out of the service in June and moving out of the state. So why did I get a text today saying send me back my camera? Is this to get a response out of me or does he really want the camera?
2007-08-05 07:34:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he probably is being a bit immature in this attempt to pop back into your life. I doubt he suddenly had a Kodak moment, was without a camera, thought about the one he gave you, then deciding he wanted it back. Let's hope that's not the case. He is most likely just feeling regret for letting you walk away and for not being able to tell you he cared. I think you made a great decision...if you wanted more of a commitment and he was not able to give it to you, you were right to go out and find that in someone else.
I would assume he wants a response. If you have a good thing going I wouldn't give one to him. If you are still curious to see what he REALLY wants, I would text not call him back. Do what's best for you but do not give it back. Asking for a gift back (unless it was an engagement ring for a marriage that'll never happen) is just plain rude! Especially after all this time!
2007-08-05 07:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months - no word from him - now he wants a camera back that he gave you as a gift? I suggest you ignor the email (it's obviously not meant to be with him), and keep the camera (it's a nice token of his appreciation for the time you gave him while he was serving our country). Seriously - you could take this response 2 ways - TAKE IT BOTH WAYS. Good Luck.
2007-08-05 14:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shoshee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could care less about the camera.
He wants an excuse or reason to talk to you.
And this was probably the only thing he could come up with.
Stupid as it is.
If he truly wanted the camera, he could have gone and bought another one.
If you are happy, I wouldn't even respond.
Why open a can of worms?
However if you're not happy, then text him and say "ok" to see what he has to say next.
Good luck
2007-08-05 14:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already read this once today.. the majority of answers told you to ignore him - that it was a gift and you have no obligation to return the camera - that he was just trying to get a response out of you... did you read the answers?
Personally, I would just send it back without response.. kind of like - you and every part of you are out of my life..
But, the fact you keep asking this q makes me wonder if you are really over him?
2007-08-05 14:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think either:
1. he's a jerk and really wants the camera back. if so, you don't have to give it back, but if you do decide to give it back, make sure he gives back the gifts you sent him BEFORE you send him the camera back.
2. he's just joking around. he didn't have any other excuse for talking to you, so he decided to tease you about this camera thing.
personally i think #1, but i don't know the guy so it's a little hard to know for sure.
2007-08-05 14:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by yourfriend 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheap bastard....good riddance. Do what you want give it back or keep it...either way do so silently. Because if he's trying to get a rise out of you he doesn't deserve it.
2007-08-05 15:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him back the camera. End of story.
2007-08-05 14:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋