Marriage & Divorce - 13 May 2007

2007-05-13 16:01:22 · 18 answers · asked by noodle 1

On Friday I received a dozen pink roses from my one and only daughter. On Saturday I went to dinner with my daughter as her other treat and she also gave to me a gift bag of Godiva Chocolates .On Sunday my husband, daughter and good friend went to breakfast as my husbands treat. My son and his wife came over to visit with me and brought me many assorted gifts. Also received many gifts from my husband and he took me out to dinner too. I am blessed with a wonderful family. A sad note to this happy weekend -- my oldest son never even thought of me on Mother`s Day. He told me I am useless to him. Well, I guess it is his loss.

2007-05-13 15:59:09 · 8 answers · asked by Patches 5

2007-05-13 15:57:50 · 18 answers · asked by Ash 1

After seven years of being together he has forgotten or not acknowledge my birthday over half of those years and never cares about mothers day. One year I had to take my kids to the store myself to buy me my mothers day presents. This year he took the kids out last night to go buy me some gifts and I just found out he bought himself a cd he has been wanting. I thought today was suppose to be about me? He even hid the CD from me- when the kids questioned him about it he said he had my permission...
What should I do? I just got laid off from my job but Im trying to get a new one. I didnt even buy myself something I really NEEDED not wanted tonight because funds are going to be way tight until payday.
Why is he so selfish and self centered? He said hes not... what else would you call it?
Do I have a right to be hurt? I feel very deceived and hurt right now. Should I leave after I get a job? What would you do? He claims to be a Christian but this isnt right behavior is it?

2007-05-13 15:52:58 · 19 answers · asked by mommabeags 2

i will be getting married soon but my future wife has around $26,000 of debt from college and her car. and i do not have no debt, and my credit score is perfect, now from my understanding when married her debt is now my debt which is bullshit if you ask me. and i also have quit a bit of money saved in a personal savings account that i have saved through the years from my hourly job. first off will her debt show up on my credit report as me owing $26,000 when married too? and the money i have saved i do not want to tell her as of right now until i feel comfortable later on to see how the marrige works out because who the hell knows if someday i get a divorce paper unexpectedly or something who knows what the future holds what looks good today which it is otherwise i would not be marrying her, might not be good tommarow?

2007-05-13 15:40:36 · 17 answers · asked by brussels152 1

Currenly I'm under seperation with my wife and my girlfriend is expecting my child. Few thing I'll like to know.

i) When the child is born, will I be legally the child's father and can the child's birth cert bear my name as the father?

ii) If it's negative, how should I go about becoming the child's legal father after my seperation?

iii) Will the mother (my girlfriend) be entitled to the government's grant for newborn?

iv) Is there any legal implication from my current marriage/seperation?

v) It'll be good if ayone can input some pointers that I should take note of and not asked in these questions.

Thanks in Advance.....

2007-05-13 15:39:37 · 2 answers · asked by Darren S 1

tell me why is it we cheat and then fall in love with the cheaters like they won't do it to us?

2007-05-13 15:34:19 · 31 answers · asked by Monique 1

Ok, so here is the deal. My husband and I recently got married, but I cannot move with him right away. He is going back to his station to sign in tomorrow. (He's in the Marines!) We are trying to get me signed in, but... to do that can I send him with a copy of our marriage certificate or do they really need the original? He will be in S.C. while I'll still be in N.Y. I would hate to send him with the original because it will probably get lost, lol. But, I don't want him to get down there and he needs the original. We are trying to move me there a.s.a.p. Any help or info from experienced persons would be greatly appreciated!
Just shooting for it... Do you also know how long it would take before I am eligible on his insurance and when I can start using it? I kind of need it! Thanks again!

2007-05-13 15:17:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's me again...about the husband frequenting bars - one last question for tonight. I fear that in leaving, he'll blame me for giving up on the marriage - even though he's the cause of us getting to this point. How do I become strong enough to make that decision for the better of me and my sanity? It has taken me a long while to get here because I truly would love to stay with him, but I know I can't keep going on like this. (I liked the suggestion of the ultimatum - the bar or me. I think I've given it to him without actually saying it.) With his behaviors I've now come to the point that I don't feel loved or valued. I'm very attractive and sometimes wish I could just gain some attention but that is sooooo not me nor of God. I hate how I'm feeling and hate that I'm so confused. I never imagined that marriage was like this or that I would ever have to endure such feelings. (I would like some men to be some of the responses posted. What is my husband thinking?)

2007-05-13 15:10:32 · 8 answers · asked by working on my marriage 2

I am seeking visitations with my daughter. Its a long story. I was approached by a lady online in which we hit it off instantly and become involved in a relationship. She was married at the time and left her husband for me. In this time she became pregnant and eventually ended up going back to her husband. When her husband left to go to Iraq she wanted to continue seeing me afraid that maybe her husband might change his mind about accepting my daughter into their family. I have been having visitations with my daughter and seeing her mother every since he left. She started talking things over with him via email and phone. I guess because maybe she was feeling guilty. As it stands right now they want me to go to court and get a paternity test ordered and if in fact I am found to be the biological father then have visitations and child support determined by the court. One other thing he had a vasectomy done about 10 years ago in the military from what I have been told. They also are offering to try to settle things out of court as far as visitations go if I am found to be the biological father. I look forward to your reply as soon as you can find the time. I work from 5am till 3:30pm M-F but I take a lunch break from 12pm to 12:30pm. Feel free to contact me during my lunch break or after work anytime. I also have emails and instant messages from the mother as proof to all of this. I just want to be able to be apart of my daughters life. It is not her fault what has happened. I think she has the right to know both her parents and I will not turn my back on her. Thank You very much for your time.

2007-05-13 15:10:03 · 10 answers · asked by chevy 1

im thinking of leaving my husband of 7years i love him but the romance is gone we have no sex life and every time i offer he has some kind of excuse i would go into detail but it would take to long i dont feel like he wants me in that way any more we are more like roomates than husband and wife i need more i want someone to look at me and pratically rip my cloths off and he isnt the one that is willing to be that person we have talked about it over and over again and nothing has changed im 35 and he is 39 should i put up with this i feel like im still young enough to find that someone that will want me.

2007-05-13 14:02:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband recently told me that since we are married, my job is to stay home and take care of the house and kids. Also, he thinks that he should make all the major decisions about our household and I'm supposed to obey and support him. I know he loves me, but how am I supposed to just be submissive to him?

2007-05-13 14:01:05 · 30 answers · asked by lyricsop 2

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four and a half years. We are really the typical high school sweethearts. We have soo much fun together. We've dated throughout high school and this year is our senior year. We both love each other, but we've been getting into arguments lately, over little things too. We're not the agressive type. We're usually quiet when we're angry or upset. Anyway, we decided to take a break yesterday morning. He said he wants to find how to be a good boyfriend for me. But he hasn't made any effort to call me. I mean, shouldnt that make him want to prove to me that he's the right one? What should I do?

I mean, I've got to know him in so many ways. He knows my deepest secrets, everything. It's hard to believe we might not be together in the end. What should I do?

2007-05-13 13:59:38 · 6 answers · asked by music.lover 2

He waits until I am gone and then he stays online looking at other womens profiles. They all seem to be in our area or state. He laughs at me when I confront him or he either denies the fact that he is doing it. should I be concerned?

2007-05-13 13:57:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it the wedding? Or does she have him before that?

2007-05-13 13:51:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

A man whose wife was going out of town for a week asked me to come over so he could 'play while the wife was away'. I have his email asking me to do this, should I let his wife know? I was thinking about printing out the email and mailing it to her. I know that if I was married, I would want to know if my husband was looking to cheat.

2007-05-13 13:45:55 · 30 answers · asked by queenrakle 5

2007-05-13 13:44:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am confused as to what I should do. My husband was recently accused of sexually harassing 2 women. He swears that he is innocent, but I still don't know what to believe. When he found out about what he was being accused of, he got angry and quit his job. (Leaving me to support us on my $900 a month salary). He claims that he quit because he hated his job and was planning on quitting anyway, but to me it seems more sinister. On the other hand, I am hesitant to believe he is guilty because a) the women in question are both diagnosed mentally ill and have a history of lying and paranoia, and b) both the women in question were angry at my husband for other work-related reasons and have threatened and verbally abused him at the workplace. On the other hand, I am tempted to believe them because my husband and I first got together while he was my boss, so I know that he is not incapable of hitting on people he works with. The marriage has been great up to this point. Advice please?

2007-05-13 13:39:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-13 13:38:27 · 9 answers · asked by Tidus4587 2

For example, knowing the infidelity of a friends' mate, will you lie knowing it just not to hurt her/him? Or just lying just to make a story short?

2007-05-13 13:37:04 · 23 answers · asked by finding_answers 2

My husband and I have had a great marriage up until recently, primarily due to my getting upset with him spending so much time shooting pool/drinking beer rather than spending time with me -this has been going on for a couple of months now. We do spend time by ourselves, with friends, but it's gotten out of hand here recently and I have some serious issues with it. I don't understand why he can't go hang out for awhile and be home at a decent hour - what I believe would exhibit respect for our marriage. He thinks I'm "crazy" and that I overreact. However, I have a difficult time thinking that any wife would accept such behaviors. I have shared this concern with him early on but it's progressively worsened and I am terribly unhappy. I love him and don't believe in divorce, yet I'm heading closer to that everyday. He says he doesn't want me to leave but I haven't seen him put forth any effort to change and I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life. Am I overreacting?

2007-05-13 13:36:48 · 13 answers · asked by working on my marriage 2

What are your views on this? And if it's O.K. for the woman to make the first move, is it O.K. all the time for her to make the first move?

2007-05-13 13:35:12 · 9 answers · asked by snezana9 2

would prefer to have money than love and health?

2007-05-13 13:32:00 · 11 answers · asked by gemini 1

Am I the only one who can't stand the mom-in-law.I'm just wondering?

2007-05-13 13:28:52 · 3 answers · asked by what did you say 4

2007-05-13 13:28:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I figure if I put a couple of five hundred dollar bills up my sleeve I might be able to beat my wife at monopoly. Is it worth the risk?

2007-05-13 13:11:01 · 12 answers · asked by enzyme 305 3

why can't they control themselves..nvm tht cuz even if they cud they wudn't but as i was saying do any of you even have any sympathy for the girls feelings you're with!?! huh??? i know men can have sex w/o love blah blah blah but stop using that as your excuse!! is there even one out there that doesn't??

and lap dances, strippers, kissing, bj, are CHEATING EVEN IF IT'S AT A BACHELOR PARTY GUYS!

2007-05-13 12:32:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-13 12:25:37 · 16 answers · asked by Cowbaby 2

my husband and i deliver newspapers for income for at this time. We have been delivering papers for over a year. We deliver around 450 papers a day to local residents. Our paper routes are walking routes. We deliver 7 days a week, we haven't had a day off in over a year. We deliver Monday-Friday between noon and 5 p.m. Saturday and Sunday 3a.m. to 8 a.m. I am in college, finishing this spring and will be able to get a good paying job. I told my husband its time to down grade to 100 papers for extra money, with in the next few months. Every time i tell him about down grading, he gets up set because he doesn't think we will make bills. I told him that he would keep the papers for a job and i will get a better job. He can't do 450 papers himself and won't down grade. How can i try to convince him to get arid of some of these papers? I How can i explain to him that i am moving on to another job without hurting him? I think he doesn't understand that i don't like working everyday day.

2007-05-13 12:12:02 · 12 answers · asked by mr_and_mrs.x 2

My ex husband wants me to send him a copy of the kids birth certificate and social security cards so he can add them to his food stamp case in Michigan for the summer while they are visiting him. Now I have no problem with this but I have them on a state funded medical progam here in Texas. Can he get in trouble for doing this or can it mess up my stuff here?

2007-05-13 11:59:26 · 4 answers · asked by dacus2472 2