people are so used to instant gratification, nobody wants to work at anything anymore,,, marriage is sooooo damn hard,, ive been married for 14 years,, and i want a divorce so bad sometimes,,but i also fight w/my mom sometimes, my sisters, my kids,,, but you just dont give up,,,family is family and it is worth fighting for
2007-05-13 16:01:11
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answered by Anonymous
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It is because of the difference in religious belief of today. Before the church said that marriage was for life and that you had to stick to it no matter what. Now a days we know better. We all hope that marriage will last a lifetime but unfortunately it doesn't for some people. What if the person is abusive, or is a good for nothing? Todays rules (under God if you will) are more relax so people take advantage of that.
I think also, that inmaturity goes into play too. Most people get married young. Of course this is normal. The thing is that as you grow you change and start seeing things in a different light. Going to the party becomes less important than paying the bills or buying a house. You require different needs that the person may not be able to provide or worst yet, is not willing to provide. Ergo, divorce.
The question that must be asked when this statistic is showned is what is the difference in the happyness level. Maybe people back then had longer lasting marriages but where they happy or did they just stuck together because that was their belief? The statistics doesn't show this. So, maybe a higher divorce rate now a days could be a positive thing. It all depends which light you use to look at it.
2007-05-13 16:07:22
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answered by mr_gees100_peas 6
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Well, Ash, there are a number of reasons why the divorce rate is so high: Statistics show that couples who live together before marriage, the chance of them staying together after wedding is not as good as those who wait till they are married to live together. The level of committment is lower. For whatever various reasons. Whether coming from a bad home environment, or something else. Selfishness, etc.
If a person thinks before marriage, well, if it doesn't work ot, they can always get a divorce, that person is NOT ready for marriage. Maturity helps.
I hope this helps answer your question. By the way, marriage does still work, if the couple are determined to make it work (aside from abuse). Communication is vital-in all relationships. Commitment is also important. I have two older sisters-one next month will be married 51 yrs., the other is married so far 42 yrs. Both love their spouses, and their families they have made, and are in for the duration. Take care.
2007-05-13 16:11:16
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answered by SAK 6
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Because no one is interested in working to save their marriages when it is simply easier to walk away, get a divorce and find someone new. Many marry for the wrong reasons and most do not understand the purpose, the valid reasons for or the significance of traditional marriage. That is why the success rates for marriages is so low nowadays.
2007-05-13 16:07:30
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answered by Jess4rsake 7
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Because people regard marriage as throw away.
When it becomes hard or inconvenient, they quit.
They do not take there marriage vows whole heartedly
or before God Almighty as they should have. In reality the only way out of a marriage should be if, adultery was commited, but even then it should try to be worked out
if at all possible. It is such a shame.
I dont know what all answers you will get on here but
this answer was 100% truth.
2007-05-13 16:06:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Yo Ash, Im no expert but I can guess, Back in the day people needed each-other. A man had to go out and work, bring home the chedder, then the woman would stay home cookn and clean'n. Women weren't hired at jobs so they had no choice but to stay with a dude, even if he was a drunk or abuse'n her a$$. WWII came along and women were needed to work while men went to fight. Then womens rights came along and toldem *** the cats that woop ur @$$ U can make your own living. Now look at today, a woman doesn't need a man to survive. S#!t back in the day if a woman was unhappy she couldn't do nothn about it, divorce was out of the question. Maybe its not such a bad thing, all the high rate tells us is that... that's how many women were unhappy back in the day.
Peace,
- Cool Breeze
2007-05-13 16:05:18
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answered by Sam G 2
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It is so acceptable now to get a divorce and give up on the marriage. If it is cheating then the other should leave the spouse for not being faithful. If it is abuse mentally,physically or sexually then of course they should get a divorce. If it is over money issues or who is going to take out the trash or some other stupid reasons then the couple is just running away and not working it out and being stubborn and most likely they will end up making the same mistake again with their next partner.
2007-05-13 16:08:38
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answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6
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I personally think that a large part of it is modern society's over-emphasis on the "perfect match." While there can be compatibility issues, and certainly there must be "sparks," people still need to work very hard to make a marriage work, and many people are not prepared to put up the effort, instead blaming their marriage for their own lack of initiative.
I know financial reasons top the list for the reason of divorce, but I also think that an epidemic of inappropriate Internet material antagonizes the problem.
2007-05-13 16:05:38
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answered by Anonymous
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I think that success rate of marriages is so low because the first sign of trouble we decide to give up and not try to find the thing that can fix the problem. We have just took God out of our life. If we let God fix the problem then it will be fix if we fix it then it is just stop a problem for a minute.
2007-05-13 16:04:22
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answered by kool aid 3
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Well...it seems to me that the word *gasp* "Divorce" isn't quite taboo as it once was...A generation or two ago, it was almost unheard of to leave a marriage, once it was entered...now...it not only carries less of a stigma...it's almost...well, face it...it IS accepted. People now know that if something isn't working in the relationship...they can get out of it. It's easier to walk away from something, than to either fix it, or attempt to fix it. Why THAT is, however, is another answer to a different question.
2007-05-13 16:08:06
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answered by Curious... 1
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i've got no tricky evidence, yet i think of that folk who get divorced are greater probable to get divorced returned. My reasoning is they are certainly one of those individuals who're not keen to artwork on a marriage. they're going to take the "elementary way out" and end it somewhat than hard it out and make it artwork. My husband has been married thrice. the 1st one lasted approximately 12 years, specifically because of the fact he stayed for the youngsters. whilst it ended, he have been given married returned on the rebound. That lasted under a 365 days. Our marriage hit the skids approximately 5 years in the past and he instructed me he needed a divorce. I refused and insisted that we get marriage counseling till now i might entertain the belief of ending our marriage. fortuitously it labored for us and we can be celebrating our 10th wedding ceremony anniversary this June.
2016-10-05 00:58:10
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answered by ? 4
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